i really feel like i want a baby, i know i am way too young and i a hoping these feelings will go away but i think it would feel so great to hold my own baby to love it to teach it i wan't every thing about it. The thing is i know it will be hard too i mean i have had the Talks and all that but there has too be those moments that couldn't be any better or traded for the world. i know i shouldn't is there any way to deal with what i am feeling? should i try to get pregnate? will these feelings fade?
please answer politely thank you for your imput
2007-03-09 12:31:39 · 12 answers · asked by baby g 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Awwww hunny! What you're feeling is strong maternal feelings! It's really good actually. It shows that you're probably going to make a really great mom someday! I got those feelings when I was about 13, 14ish...
Trust me..they will pass. Why not write down all the things you think will make a good mom. What kind of career? What you can do to help yourself become a good mom in the future and work towards that...ie: having a good education.
Trust me these feelings will fade...until you're truly ready for a baby. You should be happy that you are having such strong maternal feelings...you're gonna make a good mom someday ;) Just don't make it too soon...you'll thank yourself later!
Reena
2007-03-09 12:39:18 · answer #1 · answered by Reena M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that feeling I had it too.... :)
I'm not sure how old you are but I was about 19 when I first felt it. My suggestion to you is WAIT until the time is right. Meaning: find a guy, fall in love, get married....
The feeling will not go away and when you are ready to have a family of your own you'll feel it even more. Years from now when you and your man decide together to have a baby you will remember these times and it will be a nice memory. Your giving birth will be even more wonderful when you realize that you really grew up to be a mother.
Meanwhile, talk to your parents - if you can - and see what they think.
2007-03-09 20:57:18 · answer #2 · answered by Lexi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure how old you are, but you really should wait. It's really difficult to have and raise a baby. It's rewarding yes, but the challenges are handled much better when you are older. Plus you need to have a steady income and money saved up, good insurance, a car, etc. And what if the baby is born with a disability or something else? Would you really be prepared for it? Nothing feels better than holding a sweet, precious little baby, especially if it is your own, but it really is better to wait. At least finish high school and start college, and hopefully be in a committed relationship before thinking of having a baby. Good Luck.
2007-03-09 20:38:18 · answer #3 · answered by nimo22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you are feeling. But I have to say that it is alot for a young woman to raise a child. I think maybe to ease these feelings try volunteer at a day care or your church nursery. The thing is you are thinking that a baby will fill a void, but what i didn't read was tha fact that all babies grow up. And that in itself is a life long job. And even the rewards are the best, you have to be ready for the the down side. I love my kids with all my heart. I had them young and to be very honest I was not ready to be a Mom. But I learned as well as any new Mom does. If you are unsure, please spends some time with kids of all ages and then make your decision.An informed decision is never a mistake. Its not an easy one to make and it not only effects your life but the childs too.
2007-03-09 23:28:41 · answer #4 · answered by lak3rat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE! don't get pregnant at this age. Once you are married, and probably over the age of 20, once you've finished college, you should try and get pregnant. You should let the baby come into a great life. You've finished college, you have a great husband, your not in debt, have your own house, etc. wow, the baby will have a great life! Right now, you just need to worry about school, and those kinds of things. I really really think you shouldn't even THINK about becoming pregnant. Please understand that being a mother is not an easy job. Especially for a minor! I hope you take my answer in consideration for it will really help you out!
=] Thanks.
P.S. I also think you should get a puppy or some kind of pet! It can make your need for a REAL HUMAN baby go away, while you have fun with a cute little energetic puppy!
2007-03-09 20:49:12 · answer #5 · answered by la. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you???? wanting that ''feeling'' that you get with your child is a normal feeling to want... BUT it is not a reason to have a baby. there is so much more to consider. its something that should be carefully considered and only done when you are ready and old enough. since you know you are way too young, then chances are, you're too young. try baby sitting a young baby for a day. it is A LOT of work. that isn't all fun and joyful. mine are a handful (have twins). i wouldn't trade them for anything, but i am young, 21, and am overwhelmed sometimes. don't try to get pregnant.... let it happen when its right. when you are stable (financially, have money to take care of you and you child, have a stable relationship because that is something a baby needs, and have your life figured out and are done with all the huge changes such as graduating high school, college, getting a stable job... ect). if you are still in high school it would be a million times harder, dont you want to go to your prom? go out on weekends with your friends? go to college and have the fun college life ya always thought about, with the parties, and everything else? i just graduated college right before my children were born, and that was hard... and still is... so please dont do that to yourself, of to a poor innocent child.
2007-03-09 20:39:35 · answer #6 · answered by ricleigh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want a baby if you are too young and not married. I felt that way to when I was a teenager. The feeling came and went but it did stick around. I now am in my 30's and I have 3 daughters, I think waiting until I was married and emotionally and physically ready made being a mother that much more precious.
2007-03-09 20:37:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, My God! This is, like, such an easy problem to deal with: go to the nearest pet store and look at the puppies. They are soooo adorable. Little fuzzy, furry, cute adorable litlle lumps of lovable playful puppiness! Get the cutest little sweet baby puppy you can find and take her home. Just shower that little baby with kisses and let her give you little puppy kisses on your cheek - so precious! Let her sleep with you - they are so adorable and precious when they are sleeping, little puppies curled on the pillow. And they just love you to death - you are the sun, the moon and the stars to a little baby puppy who thinks you are her mamma dog.
Do that and skip the baby stuff. The baby's real. They baby's a human being who deserves a two-parent family with some future and real stability.
And little puppies (my favorite is a fat little beagle baby with big brown eyes) fill your kind of need just as well. Try it, you will absolutely love it!
2007-03-09 20:41:58 · answer #8 · answered by kathyw 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i had the same feelling when i was younger, i think its lack of emotional support from people who should be giving you unconditional love, and you probably think a baby will make you feel better but more then likely it won't. Then you'd have to deal with loving yourself still, and loving a child even more. I think u shhould have a talk with your mom or dad or anybody in your family who wouldn't judge you for having this feelings after all you are human
2007-03-09 21:51:35 · answer #9 · answered by mzvita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents, then ask for a puppy
The puppy can be your child, until you are ready for a baby
I would get something you can dress up
I had an silky terrier, they are between 8 to 12 pounds
That is a good size for a small dog
Good luck
Do not get pregnant
2007-03-09 20:39:51 · answer #10 · answered by Halo Mom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋