Cutting and my Best friend (please dont reply saying how dumb i am, because i already know its dumb)?

Question

I began cutting about 7 months ago, and my best friend (whos a guy) has tried to get me too stop, but i didnt, and now within the last 3 weeks or so, he just says he dosent care if i cut myself or not, Does he hate me now, or has he just started to think he cant stop me, So he gave up on trying to get me to stop? does he even care if i died anymore? or what is going on, Because i cant stop but i dont need him mad at me.

Answer 1

You have become addicted to the pain. I suggest you start visiting Alanon, and just sit there and listen. Don't tell them anything unless you feel comfortable. You are entitled to come as long as you "are from a dysfunctional family." That's all I would say if I were you, for now.

And see a psychologist or psychiatrist. Make sure she or he is licensed. If you don't feel comfortable with them after the second or third visit, find one whom you are comfortable with.

I would like you to ask yourself this question: "When I am cutting myself, whom am I cutting? The one who I think I am, the one whom others think I am, or the one whom I fear I am?"

And ask yourself this too, "Why do I cut myself?" And finally, "What would I like to be, who I am not yet?" What sort of person would you like to be, if money, education, and all that were no object. What would you choose?

Answer 2

I know exactly where you are coming from..I went through the exact same thing...one of my friends found out about my cutting and tried making me go to counseling....My advice to you is to just ask him and TRY explaining things too him...and this might sound kinda cold but if he is a true friend he will understand where you are coming from....However He might not care if you died or not But I dont even really know you and I care.....I stopped cutting about 4 months ago and life has been less secretive I can actually wear short sleeve again...He probably dont hate you he is probably just concerned about you and probably does realize that there is absolutly nothing that he can do to make you stop....I hope you get this thing worked out

Best of Luck

Answer 3

Why do you cut yourself? Do you like the pain? Does it feel good? Do you have a reason? Is it for attention? Do you like it when people are like.. Oh.. No, don't do that...? Is this what you are seeking? Or is it because you are just addicted to doing it you need help? You've already mentioned it's dumb... So you know... But why do you still do that? About your friend... He cares about you... He's asked you to stop... You didn't. Good friends only comes once in awhile... Do you want to lose him forever or would you rather stop, try to get help and have him be there and support you all the way?

Answer 4

most people that cut are depressed, the physical pain takes away from the internal pain momentarily.. ur friend, he's disgusted with u because u care so little about his feelings not to stop, so why should he care about your feelings now.. U want people to love u, well ur going about it all wrong, and the fact that u dont want him to be mad at u and that fact that u think that he doesnt care if u died, tells me that ur being selfish and only cutting to get attention, u'd get alot more attention from him by stopping then u are by continuing to hurt urself.. he thinks ur sick and that u need help, and he's right plain and simple u need therapy... not sick in a grotest way, but sick in the fact that u have something going on mentally that is making u have abnormal behaviors.. ur going to end up pushing away everyone that loves u if u keep this up, so the depression will only get worse not better, and one day u are going to cut deep enough to hurt urself seriously if not kill urself and people that love u dont want to be around to watch u do that to urself, its not cool it is stupid, and its dangerous.. and eventually when u decide that life is worth something ur going to hate the fact that u'll never be able to forget what u've done because the scars will always be there and u'll one day have to not only explain this behavior to a man that adores u, but will never look at u the same after he find out that u can mutilate ur body this way, but ur also going to have to explain it to ur children, and they will have to live in a constant fear that mom could at any moment break and start doing this again.. is that what u really want???????? NO, go get some help before its to late..

And if u think i dont know what ur doing, ur sadly mistaken, ive been where u are, and although i didnt cut i did something similar by burning my wrists with ciggarettes, till the pain inside went away.. when i was about 19 years old.. so ive been where u are, and eventually people get numb to your outrageous behavior, unlike u i didnt brag about it though, and i tried hard to hide it.. which again tells me that your doing it for attention.. try getting "positive attention" , it feels much better..

Answer 5

Your friend realizes that you are going to cut anyway so I believe he is giving up on you. You said he was a "FRIEND." Do you still want him as a friend? If the answer is yes then you will need to reevaluate your friendship with him. He obviously wants you to become a better person and you are not taking the hint. You said you won't stop cutting. If you told me that and we were friends then I would go on my way and find friends who think like I do about the situation. Good Luck

Answer 6

the simple thing to say is that he figured out your stuborn, and he probably still like you in the way of a friend, but hates the fact that you do what you do. He probably thinks you'll have to experience the outcome to understand why to stop. Speaking of which, you should stop...I used to do that because of how pathetic and monotone my life was, and it came back to bite me, I got really sick, and had to get a tetnus shot, because the blade I used was rusted, and, hell, if it wernt for the fact that I passed out at home, I could have died. Just an example of what could happen. (if I had been outside, alone how I usually was.....)

Answer 7

He is your best friend, and always will be. I'm sure he's tried real hard to get you to stop. But because you haven't, he probably feels that cutting yourself has taken over you, and that it is more important than your guys' relationship. If you really want to stay best friends with him and value that friendship, you should stop cutting yourself, because I'm sure that your friendship with him menas a lot to him, and he would stop for you.

Answer 8

well i jus thinks he's tried it somany times n u dont care so hopefully he thinks that u will quit,n of course y wouldnt he care if u died,that'll b one of the saddest nworst things that would happen to him,even if it was a neighbor or someone u hated u realize once their gone u feel sad n weird like how could this happen so imagine a friend.u jus need ta stop seriously becus you r hurtin your friend a cut iz not gonna kill u if u r tryin ta die easily,n cuttin yourself iz not goin ta stop tha pain so plz stop 4 your own good n your friendz if u really care n makes u look really stupid

Answer 9

Your stupid!!! Your losing your friend over cutting yourself. It's like your addicted if you don't want to stop. Sounds like to me that he gave up on helping you because you didn't want to be saved. He was trying to help you stop and get better but you chose to push him away and keep cutting. He probably does care if you die because your his friend. He just doesn't know what to do anymore because your acting like a hopeless case. If you don't stop you could end up dying. I hope you figure something out really soon. Don't hurt your friend by this anymore just stop and get better. Let him help you.

Answer 10

look at the 20 something people that answered your question, and tell me you have nothing to live for. 2 dozen people gave there time and effort to help you. whatevers bothering you, don't let it. confront it and move on. don't worry about others. if he cares enough to saddle up and talk to you about your cutting, he cares more than you know, and definatly does not hate you. people care about you. and don't talk like that, k? life moves on, like a roller coaster. endure the low parts, so the thrill of the crests is even more enjoyable.