I tried to make it work and suggested marriage counceling while things were rough in our relationship but she said she did not have time with her work schedule.She is 22 and I'm 28 and this is her 2nd marriage and my 1st.She blames me for everything and says we fight too much and that I don't listen to her.I know we fight a lot but it is hard for me to swallow divorcing after only a month of marriage without even trying to get counceling.There was never any physical violence, cheating or anything so that is why this is even harder to accept why she would just leave me.My friends tell me that I just need to move on, things will get better,there are other people out there for you,blah blah but they are not in my shoes.She won't talk to me about it, won't answer the few phones calls I've tried to make.Her mom told me that she does not want me married to her daughter and never did.I just want to stop having to cry myself to sleep.I wish there was something I could do to save my marriage.
2007-03-09 12:00:04 · 6 answers · asked by akclint22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know it hurts, but you have to get rid of this girl. I have a 28 year old son, and I would shred anyone who put him through the pain this girl is putting you through. Listen to your friends. Dive into your work, take a vacation, see her for what she is. See her the way your friends see her. The fact that this is her second marriage, at 22, should tell you volumes.
2007-03-09 12:08:07 · answer #1 · answered by janice 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The decision to get married is huge. For some of us we mean 'life commitment'. Walking away really has to be the last resort. Knowing you are making every effort is admirable, one thing I do propose is perhaps make a couple of last ditch efforts to win her back, surprise her beyond her wildest dreams, you sound like you have the potential to do this. I know it can be hard when you are making all the effort, but it may just shake her up enough to remember why she married you. If it doesn't get you a response that you need and there is only one way out, at least you know you have done everything you can. You won't have failed the marriage. I hope it gets resolved soon, so you can be happy again. I'll be thinking of you !
2007-03-09 20:33:22 · answer #2 · answered by liv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time, but you will stop hurting and from the sounds of it, in the long run you will look back and thank your lucky stars! Work, work, work, hang out with your friends, find a new hobby, keep busy...there's nothing you can do to make her change her evil ways. Hang on, it will get better!
2007-03-09 20:11:59 · answer #3 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first month of marriage is really hard but once someone gets past that it's ez you got your lows and highs tell her lets stay together for attest 11months more if you still don't like me you can do what you want
2007-03-09 20:21:51 · answer #4 · answered by kayla141655 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Akclint22, I'm sorry that you are experiencing so much pain. Stay strong and surround yourself with friends and family. Your hurt will fade over time. Best of luck.
2007-03-09 20:29:21 · answer #5 · answered by EMG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bubby go out and get you some ,trust me the hurting will stop.
I'm being serious
2007-03-09 20:45:46 · answer #6 · answered by groverpawhurt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋