me and my boyfriend have lived together for the past 8 years and have a butyful family now. well he has an x wife who has been out of the picture for several years, till recently she popped back in to his life they have a child togher she is in her teens now and she want to be close to her daddy anyways my partner told me about her phone call and how she needed money well he has benn wiring her cash for the past 2 months but what i dont understand is why does the x have to call my man to his job instead of calling him at home or his cell and i might be wrong for feeling this anger inside of me but i hate the idea of them talking. like i repetetly told my boyfriend why does she have to call you so much and your daughter is big enough to talk to you with out her mother in the picture all of the time. my boyfriend mentioned that he has only spoken with his daughter once and for a brief minute all the other times it just the x that call him!! what to do help?
2007-03-09 11:54:32 · 3 answers · asked by kitty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sorry for all the misspelling :)
2007-03-09 12:00:08 · update #1
relax, he has a past with his ex in the form of a teenage daughter........
2007-03-09 12:19:13 · answer #1 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he not pay child support?? Why is he wiring her money?? How does he know this money is truly for his daughter and not the ex taking advantage. Talk to your man and tell him to get a support order in place. Any undocumented (not established by the court) money sent to his daughter does not count. Further he should specifically ask to speak with his daughter for more than a minute or no money gets sent. If he wants to establish a relationship with his daughter then visitation should begin and conversations to arrange that can be done on his cell or home phone. Tell him that you feel excluded and left out like something extra is going on. If he is sensitive to your needs then he will make adjustments.
You may be a little jealous so try not to nag or be overly sensitive. Mom may not have any designs on your man but it sounds fishy to me.
2007-03-09 12:10:28 · answer #2 · answered by answergirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he hasn't really had anything to do with his daughter until now, she may not be comfortable asking him for money. In my opinion that is something that should be between the parents anyway. I can kind of understand your frustration because all the calls seem to happen when you're not around, but they have a child together and they do need to communicate about her. It doesn't mean they are going to get back together. Just relax a bit.
2007-03-09 12:04:53 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋