If you were in an abusive relationship with someone who has since moved on, and is now dating someone new - would you warn their new GF (if you had the opportunity)?
2007-03-09 11:54:05 · 25 answers · asked by MO 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, if you have the chance... she won't believe you, but at least you'll make her think about it and maybe become suspicious.
I went out with an abusive guy, and his ex warned me, but I just thought she was trying to break us up... and then I finally got smart and broke up with him, and then my friend started going out with him.. I warned her, and she didn't believe me (and still doesn't),.. now she's married to him (with kids) and she's so naive that she doesn't see that he's abusive. It's really pathetic, but there's not much else I can do...
At least tell the girl, maybe she'll be one of the smarter ones and break up with him.
2007-03-09 12:00:08 · answer #1 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes i sure would warn her and let her know. This is the right thing to do. She needs to be aware of his past so she can protect herself if need be and so that she can choose to either stay with him or break it off. If it were me i would want someone to tell and warn me for sure. She will thank you someday for it. I feel that this may stop further abuse and hurting of a person. I would not be able to live with myself if i did not tell or warn her and something happened to her because of his anger issues and abusive ways. Good luck to you.
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2007-03-09 12:25:34 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes u should and if she gets mad at least u tried to warn her do it because u know its the right thing 2 do but don't try 2 break them up!!Let her figure out what she's going 2 do..If she asks them tell her if not leave it alone until u feel its the right time.
2007-03-09 11:59:45 · answer #3 · answered by mini mel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Only because she either already knows or because she wouldn't believe you anyway. Don't fret about him anymore. You need to move on with your life and forget about his. Trying to warn her may have more to do with trying to make him miserable than it does about helping her. And even if it's not about him, what are you going to do? Follow him around forever trying to save anyone he may date? Just do yourself a favor and work on healing yourself.
2007-03-09 11:57:31 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes, without a doubt. I mean, she might not believe you because she hasn't seen what he's really like yet. And, she would probably go tell him about what you said too..but..I think someone would deserve to know something like that..
2007-03-09 11:57:44 · answer #5 · answered by Jaden's Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, could he have possibly changed? Did he seeking counseling? If not, then I would say yes, warn her in a sutble way so he doesn't try to seek revenge on you.
2007-03-09 11:56:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely.
2007-03-09 11:55:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, warn her. you don't want the same thing to happen to her. she could get just barely hurt, or seriously hurt. and you don't want that. so warn her. it might save her some time and a few less bruises.
2007-03-09 11:58:06 · answer #8 · answered by CHEA!lsea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah but that's all good cuz love might be blind but if you just simply say somthing to be a person that care for their fellow man than cool.... then just keep it moving and let their life move on to.
2007-03-09 11:58:15 · answer #9 · answered by memjabeana 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've been in one before, and if someone ever goes back out with that creep, "RUN BEFORE HE HITS YOU AS SOON AS HE SEES YOU JUST RUN AND DO NOT CALL HIS HOUSE", no but really i'd just tell her what happened with me and to be careful.
2007-03-09 11:59:26 · answer #10 · answered by Grey_Sweater 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋