Ok..So here goes. My fiance left me at 7 months pregnant to take a job 2000 miles away with his father..We was still together and then he called last month and broke it off with me. We was together for 7 years, I am 23 and he is 22. He treated me SO good. I know we both have our flaws. Now..He called me last week because he heard from a friend I had been seeing someone..Which I'm not and told him so but he still flipped out. He tells me 3 days ago that he just started "talking" to another girl...I am so hurt. I told him not to contact me again and I will see him when he comes down to see our son being born. He text msged me last night that he isn't happy without me. I didn't send him anything back because I feel like he is playing games with my head. I don't know why I still want him back but I won't let him know that. I just wonder how is it that easy for him to get over the love of his life and his unborn child?
2007-03-09 11:41:31 · 3 answers · asked by angelsdeath420 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We have had our share of ups and downs..Just like everyone I'm sure. Is he using this other girl to help him get over me? I just don't understand. I want to make us work..not just because of the baby but because I really love this BOY and he says that he loves me. I am hoping he will come to his senses...I want to let go but its really hard because I am so in love with him still. I have been busying myself with my babys room and concentrating on my son. Maybe he has more growing up to do? Any advice would be great, thanks. Oh and we got engaged before the baby and the wedding was almost finished being planned. The Dr. said I could never have babies
2007-03-09 11:42:10 · update #1
Seven years of togetherness is certainly a long time to just throw away. From the look of things, you both still love each other. I think the real reason why he broke up with you is because of his long distance job.
Sometimes, you need to be apart and lose each other before you miss. Absence does make the heart grow fonder.
I'm sure the green -eyed monster of jealousy motivated him to get hurt and angry with the news that you are seeing somebody. Therefore, he still cares for you.
I strongly advise you to text message him or call him back. Tell him that you also miss him. Be prepared to uproot yourself and go to him wherever he is. You should follow the love of your life. With the impending birth of your love child, the two of you should experience the upcoming parenthood.
You'll discover soon enough that it's very hard to be a single mother.You can't afford any post-partum depression or blues. Besides, you are vulnerable at this stage in your life and don't need any heartaches to jeopardize the well -being of your baby as well as your own health.
Moreover, your son deserves to have a mother and a father. After all, he was conceived in love. And he has a greater chance to thrive in the presence of two loving parents.
2007-03-09 12:34:56 · answer #1 · answered by rosieC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i fully feel for you, can't really tell you what to do... i feel that because of your last sentence, he might not have been running away from you at all, but running away from the responsebility of being a father. Woman don't mind having children early, but since we are much more mature at a younger age than man,... it might have scared him, especially since HE (i know you did to) thought you couldn't have children. He is feeling trapped! He's probablly not sure if you told him the truth about not being able to conceive, because... well look at you... you are pregnant.
I think he tried to get out of the situation and clear his head, that's probably why he took the job. As far away as he could get... and now he realizes what all he could potentially throw away.
I'm sure it's all to much for him and very scary. Especially when he's being told you are seing someone else.
I don't know if it could ever work out between the two of you, as i am a firm believer in
'if it didn't work the first time, it won't work at all',
but in your situation it wasn't really a breakup out of my view.
Either or, you'll have to grab that Bull by the horn and talk things out between you. Reassure him that you didn't try to trick him into becoming a father, tell him that you still love him and are willing to work on your relationship if HE is FULLY commited into trying. If NOT than make sure you guys are on good talking terms, as you will have to deal with each other for the rest of your lives, or at least the next 20 years or so...
Even if you decide to break up, it's not the end of the world even though it seems like it right now.
My first child was a OneNightStand... and i'm happily married now and have another child with my husband. The funny thing is my husband does prefer his stepson to his own flesh and blood.... and before anybody says anything, he's a good men and he loves both our children equally, but has a better connection with my older boy.
Anyhow, i really hope this helped you a little, pls email me and let me know what happened.
-Mel
2007-03-09 13:34:56 · answer #2 · answered by Melanie T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice: Follow the advice given to you the other 64 times you asked this question!
2007-03-09 11:43:40 · answer #3 · answered by Aaliyah & Natalie's Mommy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋