My husband and I are 21 and when the weekend comes along kind of agree to go our own seperate ways if each of us has something to go do. We have two kids and our kids stay at my moms house on the weekend, which I don't mind at all because she doesn't get to see them during the week and by the time the weekend comes we both need a break. As long as we don't cheat on eachother is this ok?
2007-03-09 11:41:15 · 24 answers · asked by wifey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
By the way, even if I did want to hang out with my husband on the weekend. He wouldn't want to, we would just end up at his friends house while he smokes pot if I went with him or I would be home alone with the kids.
2007-03-09 12:06:25 · update #1
It is ok but I would not do this every weekend. You need time to just be a couple to keep your marriage strong. By the way you should spend some weekends as a family. This will be good for your kids and maybe your Mom would like to be able to do something she wants on the weekend.
2007-03-09 11:45:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think all couples need space. It is good for the relationship, but there are certain boundaries that shouldn't be crossed when you go your separate ways. If you are just out on your own or with some friends it is all good. If you are out clubbing and doing other things single women do then I think it is wrong even if there is no cheating because you are putting yourself in situations that may lead to that. I hope this helps.
2007-03-09 11:47:32 · answer #2 · answered by SexySlim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are planning on getting a divorce it sounds like a great way to get there. I know a couple that was married. They had their separate lives, separate bank accounts, enjoyed doing things with their friends over hanging out with their spouse. She came home from a business trip and he had moved his things out. If you want it to last spend time together get to know your spouse. Have a family weekend. I'm sure your kids would love to hang out with mom and dad. Enjoy your time with them it won't last long.
If I'm misunderstanding you and this is just a "once in a while" thing and not a "every weekend" thing I'm sorry.
2007-03-09 11:53:47 · answer #3 · answered by dh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's fine. If you were out flirting with guys or something like that then that could lead to trouble. But just to go out, hang with your girls and have fun, there's nothing at all wrong with that! But every weekend might be a bit much. I go out with some of my girlfriends w/o husbands, but we generally only do it once a month. I wouldn't want to leave my children with my parents or a babysitter every single weekend either. Time with mommy and daddy doing family things is very important to children. I don't think there is anything wrong with going out, you just need to have a bit more balance with your family life.
2007-03-09 11:45:24 · answer #4 · answered by Doogie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No....the cheating will eventually come....you put yourselves at risk for possibilities...and why would you want to be apart? If you love the other person and you have the chance for alone adult time...why give that away to others? Are you a couple or not? Something like having separate banking accounts....
2007-03-09 11:46:34 · answer #5 · answered by Therapist King 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds a splash of his rocker. exceedingly for this type of recent marriage. Time places sufficient rigidity on a relationship and 3 months isn't sufficient time for there to be such rigidity. i could provide him the possibility to make the transformations you pick and if he can no longer, it particularly is a robust time to get out. despite you do... don't have little ones. That transformations each little thing. authentic now your divorce must be enormously straight forward and comparatively painless.
2016-11-23 18:15:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think every weekend is too much, maybe one weekend a month is mpre reasonable It will also give you and hubby some full days together with the kids and they need that.
2007-03-09 11:46:14 · answer #7 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can do some separate things. Be a good idea tho, if you'd also find some fun things to do together part of that weekend.. Bring you closer.
2007-03-09 11:53:04 · answer #8 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well. i dont agree on going out every weekend with friends and leaving my kids 2my parents to take care of...i mean..the weekends should be the only time that u can spend time alone with ur own fmaily..u hubby and the kids/do something fun on ur own...but yet its ok to go out once in a while with ur gurl to have ur fun.
2007-03-09 11:45:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yea it's cool. But you should really think about spending at least ONE weekend together a month, just you and him. That way you're lives don't grow too far apart. OR maybe just make Sundays your 'chill together' day... or something like that.
2007-03-09 11:45:19 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋