2007-03-09 11:38:39 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he comes back, what have you gained? I'll tell you, you've got yourself a CHEATER and once a cheater always a cheater. Kick him to the curb.
2007-03-09 11:49:13 · answer #1 · answered by reader 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first husband left me for an older lady. I was 27 years old and he was 30 he left me for a 44 year old lady. I was so devastated due to the fact she was 44. I would of at least thought if he cheated on me he would go for a younger more prettier choice. She wasn't ugly though either. Well she did the best thing she could of done and that was breaking off our relationship. It may seem hard to see the light but once you see it you will see it is a blessing. Do not take back an unfaithful man who did not take your vows seriously. Life is short and there are so many others out there that will love you and not cheat on you. Go out and have fun and stop worrying if he is going to come back to you.
2007-03-09 20:09:07 · answer #2 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is tough. When the jar breaks it may repaired however the crack will always be there.
It is a matter if that is what you want; What he wants. If he is still involved what does your heart say? You probably already know the answer. I'm sorry, but life does go on. Make yourself happy.
I know married people who have had affairs, it will repeat and/or continue for years. Depends how strong you can be. What does the commitment of marriage means to you. Seek counseling; some people get thru it. I have seen that to. Marriage is when TWO people make it work.
Good Luck & God Bless.
2007-03-09 19:46:52 · answer #3 · answered by annab 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really do not know if he will come back to you or not... Does he love her and want to be with her or does he still want you and the marriage? Why dont you ask him what he wants. If he wants out of the marriage then let him go and file for divorce. you will be better off for it instead of agonizing and worrying about things you have no control over. You cannot make him love and want to be with you.... If he wants back with you he will tell you and then you can work on the marriage. I have no idea where he is coming from with this one. If hw has already left you for her and has not plans on coming back then i feel he wants to be with her.
2007-03-09 20:11:43 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
Sad thing you will take him back for pieces of his love.
That is not love that is self pity. Love yourself and have pride and self respect to make the right decision. Move on there is some one out there who will truly loves you and will be loyal!
2007-03-09 19:47:40 · answer #5 · answered by Unlucky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, be smart I know that you love him like the way I love mine but it didn't stop him to committ adultery. If he loves you, he will not look for another woman not even older woman. Stay strong and use your head not your heart or else you will pay big time......talk to him and tell him what you feel,,,,don't let him tell you that he loves you then turn around and go back to the older woman................be safe!!
2007-03-09 19:44:24 · answer #6 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many men are attracted to older ladies. They can be very sexy at times. If he loves you, after his fling he will come back to you, but will you want him then? Once bitten, twice shy.
2007-03-09 19:42:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anthony F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want someone that doesn't want you? As hard as it is forget him, date a younger man, and then he'll probably realize what a mistake he made...it will be too late though b/c you'll be soooooooooo much happier.
2007-03-09 19:41:38 · answer #8 · answered by dil7827 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You certainly are FORGIVING. If he comes back after this one how many more are you going to allow before you realize that he is just using you and that you are wasting your time? Valuable time at that. Good Luck
2007-03-09 19:43:16 · answer #9 · answered by andyt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he will probably come back...
Why don't you have an affair while he is gone..
Just to be fair...
2007-03-09 19:41:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋