Ok..So here goes. My fiance left me at 7 months pregnant to take a job 2000 miles away with his father..We was still together and then he called last month and broke it off with me. We was together for 7 years, I am 23 and he is 22. He treated me SO good. I know we both have our flaws. Now..He called me last week because he heard from a friend I had been seeing someone..Which I'm not and told him so but he still flipped out. He tells me 3 days ago that he just started "talking" to another girl...I am so hurt. I told him not to contact me again and I will see him when he comes down to see our son being born. He text msged me last night that he isn't happy without me. I didn't send him anything back because I feel like he is playing games with my head. I don't know why I still want him back but I won't let him know that. I just wonder how is it that easy for him to get over the love of his life and his unborn child?
2007-03-09 11:37:34 · 6 answers · asked by angelsdeath420 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have had our share of ups and downs..Just like everyone I'm sure. Is he using this other girl to help him get over me? I just don't understand. I want to make us work..not just because of the baby but because I really love this BOY and he says that he loves me. I am hoping he will come to his senses...I want to let go but its really hard because I am so in love with him still. I have been busying myself with my babys room and concentrating on my son. Maybe he has more growing up to do? Any advice would be great, thanks. Oh and we got engaged before the baby and the wedding was almost finished being planned. The Dr. said I could never have babies.
2007-03-09 11:38:52 · update #1
You 2 have a long and tough road ahead of you because you got together so young. If the 2 of you are so far apart, you will probably not stay together. The 2 of you need to make a decision: Are you going to stay together or not? If you decide yes, you need to move there and live with him. If not, you will not make it. Then get counselling, both together and separately, and don't use one of your individual counsellors for your couples counselling. Many churches and other groups have low cost counselling.
He is not over you, he is just very young and it seems like the world has so much to offer and he is having trouble making decisions. He is hurt and confused, just like you.
If you do not go live with him, the 2 of u will problaby not make it together and you should start dealing with that reality right away. The worst thing you can do is run out and date someone else, even if he does it. It will hurt to be alone while he is with someone else but it will REALLY, REALLY, REALLY be better if you take a little time to yourself. Really.
2007-03-09 11:44:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not need to be stressed so far along into your pregancy. Do you know that 2 much stress can have negative affects on your unborn child? Quit talking 2 him!! Ignore his text messages and calls. Focus on having a health baby and being a good mother. Don't worry about him. There are other men and the pain/loneliness you feel now will go away.
He is playing games with you and needs to grow up. Have your baby then file for child support....(make sure you get his soc. sec number...that will make it so much easier).
Good luck
2007-03-09 19:57:31 · answer #2 · answered by answergirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl, it seems like he listens to what other people say. you guys have been together for so long at a young age, he probably never got his inner "little boy" out . having a baby and about to be getting married is a big change for anyone and thats probably what has him acting up. but agian you guys have been together too long and he will come to his sense. just keep doing you and be there for him. not too much by stressing- relax. his *** just need some time and space
2007-03-09 19:47:30 · answer #3 · answered by Ramona* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.I am sorry to hear that about your story.Why dont you go and live with him after you have the baby?.You can somehow work it out.If he does not want to,then he abviously does not know what he wants.He is probobly being Imature about the fact that he heard about this other guy.Dont call him or contanct him.Let him come to you.If he doesnt then you have the right to tell him to take responsibility over hes baby.
2007-03-09 19:46:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay....girl...get over him! you may love him but he is totally playing games with your mind. I understand that you have a kid with him...and you can't change that...but you CAN change the way you feel about him! a man who would leave his girl when she's pregnant with his baby sounds like a total jerk. if i were you i'd be more mad at him than anything else.
2007-03-09 19:47:39 · answer #5 · answered by sexandthecityluvr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey....
You are both very young....
Hopefully he will grow up soon... especially since you are making a family together...
However, protect your child...
File for child support now....
That way you can make sure you can provide for your child...
Here are some links for info...
Good luck.
2007-03-10 01:34:28 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer Anne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋