my wife said she often thinks of being with another person male and sometimes female. the only thing that stops her is our religious beliefs. do you think one day she will act on these fantasies? she would like to explore her sexuality. sometimes i would like to try other females but i just feel this is wrong. i have not done so but we talked about swinging. i don't think i can handle my wife with another man other than me. i do not think i would want to be together after that. our relationship is very valuable but i would like to please her as well. what you you do, couples?????
2007-03-09 11:24:00 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
don't do it- you will be sorry- you will not look at each other the same way again and you CANNOT take it back.
One thing you need to take account of is what are you exposing yourself to? Are either of you watching pornography?? Get help and stop NOW! What kinds of movies are you watching , what are you exposing yourselves to that would perpetuate these thoughts?? God's word says to take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ. If you dwell on and entertain these thoughts, if you feed them by what you allow yourselves to be exposed to then you are allowing a foothold, an open door to action- All actions begin with thoughts. If you imediately deal with these thoughts, apply scripture, speak them out loud when the thoughts come- when you are watching a movie or looking at a magazine turn it off, throw it out, if it causes your eye to sin.
Together, with oyur wife, instead of discussing the possbilities of swinging or doing something that you know is wrong- look up some books or information on purity. There are a couple of ministries who have workbooks and / or free online courses on sexual purity in the marriage- I don't have them offhand but if you are interested, email me and I will help you with that- but together take a course, see a Christian counselor, read through a book on purity in the marriage- this will help oyu combat thoughts that will lead to actions that will destroy your marriage and your thoughts about yourselves as well as each other- it will also eepen the intimacy between the two of you and strengthen your marriage. I pray that God give you strength and courage- you obviously want to do the right thing- remember it starts with the right thoughts- you decide what you are going to think about and dwell on! and you decide what you are going to do about those thoughts !
2007-03-09 11:34:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not cross that fine thin line into the point of no return. You will change into a different person. You will no longer be what you used to be originally. Do be careful because there are some very sneaky crazy people out there that will sweet talk you, seduce you, hypnotize you or lure you into this. I kid you not! I am serious as a heartbeat and get these thoughts away from you head. This is like one of those vampire movies out there. Once your bitten you screwed for life. You have been forewarned. Think about your 3 kiddos, they are your world and keep it that way. Concentrate on your family, they are first top priority in your life. How would you like for your very own kiddos growing up and doing this too? You know there is a very good reason why GOD wired up women far differently than us men in general, because of stuff like this happening. As complicated as this sounds, this could very well be the reasons why some relationships breakdown and backfire.
2016-03-28 22:08:45 · answer #2 · answered by Niketa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To do any type of threesomes or swapping your relationship would have to be 100% solid and would have to be agreed upon together and with a serious understanding that if one of you isn't comfortable with it then it stops no matter what. But from the way you asked your question I doubt either of you could handle it and your relationship would end up in disaster
2007-03-09 11:39:24 · answer #3 · answered by miester44 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see no problem with openness in a marriage if both partners are agreeable to it. I think variety can spice things up a bit for marrieds and keep things interesting. What is wrong is when someone has a relationship with another man behind your back. That's just dishonest and hypocritical.
2007-03-09 11:47:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
The two of you took marriage vows, if you want to go out and sleep with other people then you shouldn't have gotten married, that is called dating. Marriage is between ONE man and ONE woman
2007-03-09 11:40:19 · answer #5 · answered by sweetpea22306 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have answered your own question. if she does it, you don't want her anymore. i think that sums it up.
i think you should stop talking about it and start talking about how to make your relationship better and more exciting. tell her you love her and only want to have her.
treat her like sex with her isn't a slam dunk and she might stop thinking about other guys.
2007-03-09 11:39:32 · answer #6 · answered by thom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should probably sit down and talk about how you feel, how each of you really feels.... you said that you/she hasn't acted because of religious beliefs but what about love for one another, and not wanting to dissappoint that person, because you failied them and couldn't honor your vows.
2007-03-09 12:07:59 · answer #7 · answered by march2283 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. Jealousy is vicious and will ruin your relationship.
2007-03-09 11:31:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋