Relationship experts PLEASE (again)?

Question

okay first im so sorry for reposting..but I need more help lol
(if you already answered this than at least you can get 2 pts!)
ugh. So a lot of this is to rant but i need advice...(ps-im 17)
1- I am going out of town this weekend with my boyfriend (of 8 months) and his family...I LOVE his family but lately he is bugging me. I love him but i dont think im in love...and i tried to break up with him but couldnt do it. I REALLY at least want tonight to myself because we are leaving tm. and we already made plans to hang out...what do i do?
2-I have been talking to my ex/first love and am starting to get the feelings again (butterflys, smiling when i think about him) kind of thing. the only problem is we both have new lives and new boy/girlfriends.
3- my "best friend" is trying to control everything i do, and always says im blowing her off even when im not. I try to include her in things but she is super passive agressive. I dont know how to deal with it...suggestions?

4- MY best friend (different from 3) and i have been friends since we were 8...She has completely changed and we have talked about 3 times in the past year. everytime i try, she doesnt talk back. I miss her and it hurts...ive tried to express it but i dont know how to deal with it, or if i can do anything else to make it better. if you have

4- MY best friend (different from 3) and i have been friends since we were 8...She has completely changed and we have talked about 3 times in the past year. everytime i try, she doesnt talk back. I miss her and it hurts...ive tried to express it but i dont know how to deal with it, or if i can do anything else to make it better. if you have any suggestions let me know. i guess it just hurts- i miss her.

Answer 1

Cancel your plans.
Keep a night to yourself.
We all need that every once in a while.
I know what you mean, been in similar situation.
I broke it off. I needed time for myself.
Please yourself right now, even though it sounds selfish.
Its just what you need.

Answer 2

1 - If you said you'd go this weekend, it would probably really hurt his feelings for you to back out at the last second. This is your choice and strictly up to you, but if you want to end the relationship, it would probably be more considerate to do this AFTER the weekend. It's only a weekend and if you love his family, you'll get by just fine.

2. If your ex is involved with another girl right now, it probably wouldn't be a good idea to try to break them up - especially if he's happy. I guess the only thing you could do, after you've broken up with your b/f is to contact him and let him know that you're still thinking about him and then leave the rest up to him. If he's happy where he is, perhaps you should think about being single for a while so you have a chance to figure out why you seem to be going back and forth in your mind. It's more important to figure out why you are feeling what you are - about your current - and your past relationship. Like - for instance - are you going to break up with your current b/f and then have feelings for him later on?

3. It's hard to have a friend who's controlling. It sounds like she wants to own you, and she's being manipulative about it. I wouldn't be surprised if you did feel like 'blowing her off', but the best thing to do is discuss her behavior with her. Let her know that you really do care about the friendship, but call her on the things she does. If she wants to be a true friend, she'll have to take what you say to heart and stop the passive/agressive stuff. If she doesn't understand and continues to do it, you may have to stop spending as much time with her ...

Answer 3

Girl that is too much going on. You already made the commitment so either let your boyfriend know that you want to be alone tonight and hopefully he will understand.
2. The ex thing is just that ex...don't get caught up in what use to be unless the both of you are feeling the same way, but remember Karma, you reap what you sow. what goes around will come back around to you.
3.Just let her know that you are not feeling the way that she is coming across with you and that she needs to chill because it is starting to bother you. If she is your real friend then she will understand.

Answer 4

1 - don't go, break it off and stay out of relationships for a little while until you can get your head sorted out.
2 - the feelings for your old boyfriend is most likely due to a comfort area (else, you would be looking for a new guy). Don't get back together with him either. Obviously, there was a reason you broke up in the first place.
3 - b-t-h - stay away from psychos too.

looks like you need a sabatical from your surroundings.
Try this - go to a movie by yourself and halfway through the movie, think about who you would've liked to be with you.

Answer 5

1. You need to just tell your boyfriend you need your space tonight, and ask him to just please understand.
2. He is your first love, so you will always get a few butterflies, but it's probably been years, and both of you have moved on already, so don't let him affect your current relationship.
3. Just tell your best friend that sometimes you need your space, and if she truly was a best friend, she would understand. If she's really bugging you and you can't work it out with her, try to drift away from her so you can find a new best friend who will always be there for you.

If you need more advice, I always have some, so email me at [e-mail].

Answer 6

ok, first thing first your first love will always and only be your first love,you two will always have a connection but in the end it wont work,1 percent of americans stay with there first love. second you really need to talk to him, sit down and explain yourself to him, it could be very valubule if you dont go with him and get a break for a weekend without him. another reason you are felling this for him is because you have talked to your ex recently and you think there could be a spark again but you need to relize that its not gonna work with him first.lastly it could be you and your b/f are just done and you need to go out with your frinds to a party and mingle, your best freind is a little jealous that you have someone and she doesnt trust me. so listen to me and talk to him see if u can stay home take a break and then resume talkin mon.

Answer 7

WOW WOW WOW WOW WOW.

You are letting everyone around you make decisions for you and you don't make any for yourself. We all have feelings that grow, fade, grow, etc. But in life you need to make decisions. You can't go back to an ex everytime you have feelings for them. There are girls I dated but I know it's over and that is fine, I am still friends with some of them but I don't want to go back... I know you are only 17 but you need to start making your own decisions. Other people see that you do not make decisions and you attract controlling people, your b.f., your best friend, etc. You need to learn about how to listen to your feelings and then make decisions... sometimes because of what you feel, sometimes despite what you feel. It's not easy, but if you don't do this, you'll end up a passive player in a series of co-dependent relationships and look back on your life and then you will clearly see what you missed out on in life by not choosing things for yourself.

Answer 8

wow.

1. if you really want your space, you should just tell him that you need some time to yourself for personal reasons. it won't hurt him won't it? i mean, you'll have the whole day tomorrow together.

2. if you don't think or don't know if you love him, maybe being single is the best. and if you want to break up with him, just do it. i mean, if you keep putting off the break up, it's only going to hurt the guy more.

3. you should sit and talk with your "best friend". tell her how you feel. tell her that you're old enough to make your own decisions. and maybe you and your friend should have some time alone. best friend time. you know what i mean?

i hope i helped.

Answer 9

1. Remember that you are dating HIM and not his family. It is unfair to this guy if you do not really love him. He may be a good friend, but if you do not love him as a lover, you really shouldn't stay with him.

2. If your ex feels the same feelings as you do, then by all means, pursue it, especially since you don't ound completely satisfied in your current relationship.

3. Ditch her. She sounds like a lousy friend. Or, if you really like her, try talking to her about it. She might back off a little.

Answer 10

Your problems are really very simple.
1. Call his family and tell them you won't be visiting this weekend. Call your boyfriend, ask him to come over and tell him you don't love him and need to let him go.
2. If your ex is with a girlfriend, he'll break up with her if he wants to be with you. Don't get involved with him unless/until he does.
3. Explain to your best friend what you feel your friendship is moving in different directions and don't feel as close as you used to. Stop spending time with her.

Answer 11

How did you brake with u r last boyfriend 1st if bad is not worth to go back let it go and give ur boyfriend an opportunity it sounds that he likes u to be taking a trip with his family. Give your self a second opportunity. Be honest with your boyfriend tell him that once in a while you need your space and tonight is that night. communicate your needs and desires to him. I think you do love him but you are afraid to be making a wrong choice. Remember your ex has a girl do you think he will leave her for you? to your friend tell her to relax and let u take ur own decision, but listen to her and keep your eye open.