lately I have been doing a lot of thinking. I am a very beautiful, and smart teenager. But, some of the guy in the past were not the best. And my mother didn't like some of them. But i am afraid I will pick to wrong guy yet, i want a family and to go on in life. I am planning on being a lawyer. so I don't have time to plan a life and have children. I am so confused. But, I DON NOT want to have children after the age 30!!! Please help!
2007-03-09 11:16:56 · 9 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
By all means finish school first, then get your career started and then worry about the family scene. That way no matter what happens in the marriage you can always stand on your own two feet and be dependent on no one. Youll be financially better off to afford a family and house and whatever you want. If you got started on your career now you should have reached many of your goals by the time you reach 30. Also you wont have the added pressure of a family in law school. So dont be in a hurry to find Mr. Right just yet, be patient and give it lots of time. Just follow your dream and let no one stop you. Good luck
2007-03-09 11:31:53 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mother will not like any boy you go out with and that approval you will not need after a period of time. Being afraid to pick is not quite the word I would have used. I do not think that you are the prize in a contest and picking has alot of drawbacks. Why not instead choose your partner with a logical and planned process as opposed to just someone you like. Make a list of things you like about him and across from it on the same sheet, the things you dislike about him. When done, anything below 70%-30% is probably not for you. 80%-20% getting better but mom still won't approve and this is a pretty good percentage for women because they think they have the ability to change 20%-50% of a man to their way of liking (good for their esteem I guess). 90%-10% is probably the man that you want to bat your eyes at and smile sheepishly in a shy manner. This is at best the most you will find. It all seems kinda clinical when looking for something as non-important as a life partner. You could always just leave a percentage of cushion in there where you could throw him back if something bigger comes along like all of your gender uses as a rule.
California No Fault Divorce, shopping until you find one you like. We will pay you to shop. select the man that lives up to your expectation and we will protect you while you do it. Kids, don't get hokey on me about planning kids. That part of your question is as ignorant as the courts knowing what is in the best interest of the children. Something to hide behind without responsibility. Exactly what you are doing. Take a hold of the situation and be prepared to live with the results. That is what life is all about. You will not make all the right decisions but are you willing to live with the ones you make?
2007-03-09 19:32:46 · answer #2 · answered by andyman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you know the difference between right and wrong, then you will do just fine in this so- call “life”. You be amazed that there are a lot of people who doesn’t want to get married at all. If that’s what you want in life… then be it. Nobody has control over your life- except you. Just because you’re not the married kind, it doesn’t make you a bad person. Maybe in a long run, you will find someone special who shares same opinion and interest with you. You never know, somewhere down the road, you might change your opinion.... you just can't never tell.... that's the beauty of life.
Life is too short! BE SMART, you're still young and DOn't worry too much,…. Enjoy life while you can!!!
SMILE!!!!
2007-03-09 19:26:15 · answer #3 · answered by L!LO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only a teenager, things change. Ideas change too, as life goes on, you might want to have children after 30. Everyone picks not the best guys when they are teenagers. Don't worry about it, pursue your school then think about raising a family.
2007-03-09 19:32:12 · answer #4 · answered by coutterhill 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to school, be happy with yourself first.
It is not being selfish, there is plenty time for family & love. When the right person comes along you will know, there is no problem having children at 30. One can plan all they want but sometimes we have to adjust to a curve in the road. Follow your heart & dreams. Be happy.
God Bless
2007-03-09 19:40:58 · answer #5 · answered by annab 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are planning on having sex soon. Find the right one and get married or stay celebate. It is a sin to have sex before marriage.
2007-03-09 19:25:12 · answer #6 · answered by wifey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you are finished college or even finished law
school before you get married...
You can marry late in college or in law school if you want
but don't have kids until you get out of law school...
2007-03-09 19:23:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
getting married should not be a priority of yours right now. finish school and see the world! you have plenty of time for that.
2007-03-09 19:32:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married the man of my dreams and 26 years later HE CHANGED, Divorced, ....... married again.... WRONG
NO ONE CAN PREDICT THE FUTURE
Life is a gamble, dont marry if you dont love him. what is ment to happen in life Will happen
2007-03-09 19:31:17 · answer #9 · answered by Peggy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋