2007-03-09 11:11:48 · 6 answers · asked by Maddy Dear. [A7X] 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
First things first, I don't think a 13 year old should date until:
*They are mature enough to be trusted by their parents.
*They have gotten to know themselves pretty good. (Before you date you have to know who you are, what you're all about and all of that stuff. If you don't know it, dating will be even more difficult than it already is.)
Boundaries should be:
*Hanging out in groups-13 year olds aren't young enough to do a single date yet. My personal opinion is that if you and your boyfriend can't drive yet than don't go on a single date. Plus, single dates aren't the best move for your first few times dating the person.
*Knowing what you will and will not do-A lot of times girls are too weak to draw the line. Whatever their boyfriend wants, they'll do. I think it's time females learn how to say no and mean it. NEVER do anything that you are NOT ready for!!
*Letting the Family Meet this Person-Allow your family to meet this guy so they will rest easier. If your family feels good and thinks the guy is 1/2 way decent then you won't have to worry about questions like, "Is he bad?" or "Does he treat you good?" and all of those demaning tell-me-everything questions.
*Meet the Guy's Family-This is optional. If you want to, you could have your family meet his, so they could get to know each other.
Now, you may be wondering, "Should I kiss my boyfriend?" I think it's alright if both of you are OK with it. (Even tho I personally would say NO.) Realize that a kiss can mean a completely different thing to a girl than to a guy. Some guys get "turned on" and want you to sleep with them, others don't. It depends on the guy.
This brings me to telling you that you should be careful about who you date. NEVER date a guy who makes you feel uncomfortable, likes your body or the things you own rather than your personality. It sounds corny, but it is SO true. A REAL boyfriend cares for your wellbeing.
Also remember that relationships in your early teens hardly ever last for a lifetime, so don't think that you will marry this person or something. I'm not accusing you of it. 'Just saying b/c SOME girls can be like that.
Lastly, stay safe and stay true!
2007-03-09 11:31:10 · answer #1 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The boundries should be don't go out unless it is in a public area with lots of people. Never past 10 and not a place where there aren't many children of that age.
2007-03-09 19:24:36 · answer #2 · answered by C= 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, that's an easy one... 13 is way too young to be dating!
You need to keep your mind and focus on your school work, as well as "being a kid" (which you still are) instead of worrying about boys. You'll have plenty of time for all that when you're older.
2007-03-09 20:54:49 · answer #3 · answered by arkiegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm, no dating!! Thirteen is was too young in my opinion. Innocent or not your asking for problems. Even if nothing were to happen, its being encouraged by letting them date. The world is moving way to fast for kids today and its up to parents to put on the break and slow it down a bit. Good luck.
2007-03-09 19:21:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
How about no dating. That's entirely too young my dear. It's appropriate if he goes out with a large group of friends but to allow him that kind of privacy only leads to promiscuity.
2007-03-09 19:17:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should NOT be dating, let alone need to have boundaries.
2007-03-09 19:19:56 · answer #6 · answered by s 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋