I know I sound unfair but two of my good friends are getting married soon at a very young age. One is 19 and the other is 18. I am 19 and I feel very jelous in a way that everyone but me gets to find their true love to marry with. All of my brothers have girlfriends, my best friend is in a very strong bonded relationship, and all the rest of the people I know except me.
I know I sound very very stupid but please, don't make fun of me or criticise me, tell me what I need to do to solve this issue?
Thank you
2007-03-09 11:01:31 · 13 answers · asked by cough cough 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're soo young - don't worry about it! I certainly don't want to sound negative, but lots of marriages at that young age end in divorce. So don't be jealous - this is your time to go out, have fun and enjoy finding out who you are and what you like in a significant other and in life.
2007-03-09 11:06:09 · answer #1 · answered by trillian 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From what I've seen, when people get married that young, it doesn't last long. This is a time in your life when you need to focus more on learning about yourself, and who you're going to be as an individual. Once you've had time to do that, you'll be much better equipped to not only find the right partner, but will be mature enough to bring staying power to the marriage. Don't worry about it. You'll find the right person. It's ridiculous to expect to have done it before 20.
2007-03-09 11:07:23 · answer #2 · answered by M L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Overlooking the fact that you're only 19 and have no business getting married at this age: Stop stewing and start dating! The more girls you meet, the better the chance that one of them will be compatible with you. You have to make an effort to look for love if love doesn't seem to come to you.
2007-03-09 11:06:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're beating yourself up too much for not being identical to your two best friends. And buddy, you are so young. More than likely, at least one of these two friends of yours will end-up divorced within the next couple of years if not sooner. Just try dating and if this seems to be impossible for you, try talking to someone like a priest or counselor about it. In the mean time, stay in school or start college or start thinking about what you want to do vocationally for the rest of your life.
2007-03-09 11:20:43 · answer #4 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so anxious to get married you're way young and your personality is still changing you need to just be patient and when the right person comes along you'll know it, but until then just enjoy being single. there are a lot of things that you can do now that you won't be able to do once you get married.
2007-03-09 11:09:35 · answer #5 · answered by mmmhmmm_oic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand you completely, but trust me, you shouldn’t feel jealous. Marriage at 19 is such a young age to be married. Date, go out, and learn more about life….. Eventually, you will find that someone who truly mean to be with you. You might date a few girls before you actually meet her, but then again, that’s how you learn about life.
Remember… enjoy your life, being single isn’t bad at all. You’ll have your turn.
SMILE!!!!
2007-03-09 11:16:59 · answer #6 · answered by L!LO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider yourself the lucky one. If you can stay lucky, you will soon realize why you are. Until then just take my word for it.
You are entering a dangerous time, when all of your friends get married off. You are like the monkey who sees all of the other monkeys get their tail chopped off. He things to himself, wow that looks like fun and they seem to enjoy it, maybe I will have it done too. Only later do you realize that it isn't great, you can't swing from trees anymore and she won't let you grow it back. Later you see monkeys who still have their tails having fun and you say to yourself: "damn I screwed up!".
Well it will be too late by then, smart move is to hold out and have fun. Just find a girlfriend and don't ask her to marry you. If she gives you pressure, find a new one.
2007-03-09 11:08:18 · answer #7 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be looking in the wrong places. The truth is if you stop looking love will find you when you least expect it. I met my husband when I was 18 and we both worked in a grocery store. Good Luck.
2007-03-09 11:05:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My man, enjoy your freedom! Guaranteed at the end of each of your friends' first year of marriage they'lll be monaing and groaning to you.
Don't be in such a rush to tie yourself down. You're 19, and you've got the whole world ahead of you.
2007-03-09 11:21:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww no you dont sound stupid dont worry some people dont get married untill there like 40 but im sure when you meet the right girl and want to get married this bad you will girls are ALWAYS looking for commitment!! GOOD LUCK!
2007-03-09 11:05:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋