k today we were leaving ag. class and my i was walking behind her she stopped and i stepped on her heel she got mad and now is not talking to me i am trying to call her and she doesnt answer i dont know what is wrong with her our relationship hasnt been the greatest and we have faught a couple of times but we made up i told her i was sorry then at lunch (wich was right after ag.) she said she hated herself and she says she tries to kill herself i am really concerned for her i try to make new friends but she is the only one who i can really relate to the omst i have known her since 3rd grade and i dont want our friendship 2 end she is very nice and i am moving next year so i dont know what to do
2007-03-09 10:45:44 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I JUST CALLED HER UP AND SHE FINALLY ANSWERED AND SHE STARTED SCREAMING AT ME I GUESS OUR FRIENDSHIP IS OVER
2007-03-09 11:38:23 · update #1
first off you need to tell someone about her problems even if they are just talk- its usually a cry for help.
second, there is obviously something bigger bothering her- cause stepping on your best friends shoe? no big deal!
three, try backing off a bit, go with other friends. dont ignore her, but dont make her so important. you are your own person- so let everyone see it. she'll come around.
2007-03-09 10:52:57 · answer #1 · answered by orange blossom honey 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay, this is really serious. I had a friend who almost did the same thing, it was a close miss. You need to be there for her at ALL times, you never know when YOU will be the difference between life and death. Don't be hesistant to call 911 if something bad happens. Remember, there are school couseclors who can help. She may hate you afterwards, but in time they will come to understand that you did what was best for them. You need to make sure you get to the root of the problem and fast!!!
2007-03-09 18:55:35 · answer #2 · answered by Random answerer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first...pray for her and let her know that you are there for her but realize that you can't fix her problems. You can just support her if she will allow you to. Maybe you should talk to one of your parents about this problem? Maybe a school couselor? I wouldn't suggest talking to other friends about it though...this forum is fine...you just want her to think you are talking to other people at your school behind her back. KWIM?
I just want to add one thing...sometimes just because we have been friends with someone for a long time we feel like we have to stay friends forever. It's almost a friendship out of habit. We don't want to hurt the friend and at the same time we fear what things would be like without her. I'm not saying you should stop caring for her but you also have to ask yourself if maybe your friendship with her is holding you back from developing other relationships. Maybe she is angry that you are moving or maybe she is angry that you were being chummy with someone else and she wants all of your attention. You can be a friend and be supportive but you don't have to do it at the expense of your own happiness.
2007-03-09 19:00:19 · answer #3 · answered by bamal4 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she needs help. can you go over and see if she is OK? has she ever told you why she wanted to kill herself? is she upset that you r leaving soon ? talk to her ask her these things. maybe she feels alone now without you she will really be alone. tell her if she wont talk make her listen. good luck to you. and if all else fails get her help call someone her parents if your afraid she will hurt herself.
2007-03-09 18:54:19 · answer #4 · answered by sassy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for her to do is get her help if she is really trying to hurt herself. There are signs of being suicidal. I dont know them off bat, but google them. Do it before its too late and try and talk to her about it letting her know that she is cared for.
2007-03-09 18:52:02 · answer #5 · answered by Jeremy H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she needs help. Be gentle and make sure she makes the right decisions. That's what true friends do.
2007-03-11 15:55:08 · answer #6 · answered by John Doe IV 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can just be a friend and if you believe in prayer then just pray for her that she will take that suicidal mentality from her mind. Good luck
2007-03-09 18:51:38 · answer #7 · answered by roro 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow that is kinda of stupid thing to get mad at anyway write her a note and get some one else to give it to her
2007-03-09 18:52:36 · answer #8 · answered by AW 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
talk to her and see what happens!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-09 18:55:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋