How can i get them to listen?

Question

Hey, my name is Leslie, and in my family, i'm the main babysitter (i have an older brother, and 14 little sibs, it's a long story). i get almost no time to myself. i started going to a church youth group every wednesday night, and my bro derek (16) and my sis's Bridget (15)and Jaymee (14)watch the kids (they're fine with me taking one night out of the week for myself). the problem is the other 11 kids (10 mo., and from 6-12) won't listen to them at all. and when i get home the house is a mess, and everything is out of control, but everybody listens to me just fine. how can i get them to listen to Derek, Bri, and Jaymee. we've tried everything, from telling mom and dad to punishing them ,nothing works, if i have to stay home and watch them i will, but i don't think one night a week for me to be by myself is asking too much. am i being selfish? i love my sibs, all of them , but they can be too much sometimes. what do i do?

mom and dad work wed. nights

Answer 1

Okay, gather everyone...all the 11 kids, Derek, Bridget and Jaymee, and of course, you!...mom and dad not invited to this family meeting ---

Prepare a pizza party (to keep everyone at ease and in a good mood) ---- then you say:

Okay, everyone, listen up. This is the new rule, effective today. Every Wednesday night, I will be going out...this week, Derek and "Bobby" (any of the younger kids) are in charge. "Chrissy" (any of the other younger kids), you are the assistant leader. I expect all of you to behave. Leaders, report to me the name of anyone who misbehaves. Those who cannot follow rules will not be made leaders. Is that understood?

Next week, repeat the process.....this time, make Bridget and another young kid the main leaders and another young one as assistant.

The idea is to give everyone a feeling of importance and a chance to take responsibility. Nobody wants to be bossed around all the time. No matter how low you are in the pecking order (except for the baby), all those kids want to be recognized and treated as "somebody special."

Try it, honey!

Hats off to you.....good luck!

Answer 2

The kids will listen to their other siblings when those other siblings step up and assert more authority with them. You stepping in won't really make a difference because they have a different bond with you. Your other sibs will need to figure out a connection with them on their own and work that angle. Where is mom and dad? Although having a big family is great it is not always fair to constantly make the older sibs the primary sitter. You are entitled to a life as well and that should be recognized, by everyone!

Answer 3

there is no way you are being selfish and should not even think that, fair play to you being the helping hand, i thought i had it bad having to babysit my 3 smally sibs when ive a 3 yr old of my own to look after. but you need to speak your feelings, keeping it all in will just make you loose it one way or another, and you dont want that to happen, if your young enough, you deserve to get out there and hang out with your mates and do things that suit your age, growing up is the best part of life and it only happens once, so you should really start to think what it is in life you want, one day you shall start a family of your own, and you will have regrets in life if you do not do things that you desire, but also remember that blood is thicker than water and no matter what you will always need your family for support, so just see how you get on, your family should understand because they love you and theres no harm in saying a prayer for guidence to this problem that you are having, look i hope all works out for you, at the end of the day your only human. GOODLUCK.....

Answer 4

I TOTALLY agree with you! One night to yourself is not to much to ask for and if you think you are being selfish you are way to good of a person. Try and share some of your tricks with Derek, Bridget, and Jaymee. If that doesn't work, try talking to your little sibs. If they listen to you while your babysitting, then maybe they will listen if you tell them to behave for Derek, Bridget and Jaymee. It might work! Please email me back so that i can know how it worked!
cloggergirl101

Answer 5

Tell them just that. Tell the ones that will understand that you love them but you want to have one night to yourself. Promise them that you will be back soon and tell them that you want them to be good for the other three. Most likely they just want you to be there and are used to you. Even the 6 year old should understand that you want to be by yourself.

Where are your parents in all of this? Why can't they watch the kids for a few hours on a wednesday night?

Answer 6

I know the feeling here, but only with 2 kids of a year apart, they dont obey much .
They need to punishment. Ok say one kid misbehaves you bro derk calls time out. Sets tha one aside. If the kid gets up have him imediatly put the kid back.(the best is the age of the child is the amount of time out 5 years say 5 minutes) after time oput is up have the kid say sory for what actrion done and give hug and kiss. When they doo good reward with candy(sugar free if wish, lol) or a cheap toy.

The 3 watchn htem need to shwo them that they are boss.
Have certain spots for time outs, dont give in, and all will be good.
Got it off super nanny, lol, BUT MAN her ways works wonders.
Got my sis kids to be good with me and my nieghbors( they been dubed the devils kids) unruley, back talking, cussing, hitting kids worked on them.

Answer 7

Sweetie,i am so sorry to say this,but i am going to say it and be blunt about it.Your parents need to be parents and you need to be the sibling not the mother.You are a kid,and you need to enjoy that time.It does NOT come back once its gone,and your allowing it to fade just like that because your parents do not want to be parents.If they did not want to be parents they should have never had children,let alone that many.It isnt right.They had the fun of having the children,now allow them to be parents.If they cannot be,they need to put these children up for adoption.I know there are so many in the system,but these children obviously need real parenting,and this is not to offend you hun.You arent responsible for these children,your parents are.Stand up for yourself,speak to a guidance counselor at school.Something needs to be done,a child isnt no where near raising another child let alone as many as you are expected to raise.Your parents need a wake up call.They need to be parents and not children.They are adults and are responsible for your siblings and you as well whether they like it or they dont.Good luck hun,and have a good night.Stand up for yourself!!

Answer 8

You are a child yourself! You must employ your parents in the care of their OWN KIDS!!! You were not born to be their free babysitter and they are robbing you of your chance to be a kid. You are gonna grow up all screwed up with messed up priorities! They are endangering your ability to have healthy, successful relationships in the future. YOU can't do anything more than you already are, YOUR PARENTS need to fix this.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

You are a child yourself this is the time to descover the world. It is nice that you help your perants out , but you need to tell them what is going on. If you dont you might regreat it.