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Im 15 years old. My classmates dont like me for some reason. They like to harass me and my friend Danielle. Danielle and I were sitting listening to an ipod and this one girl kept harassing me. Danielle was like leave Jackie alone. We are really fed up with them. This one kid Jerimiah, proceeds to ask us if we were lesbians and made out. Danielle and I are not lesbians. We couldnt take there taunting anymore and went down to our disciplinarian. they sent sarah down to. We told our story and Sarah isnt allowed to talk to me or come near me. Sarah lied to get herself out of trouble. She proceeded to text Danielles boyfriend and told him how she lied her way our of trouble. Im really very upset and so is Danielle. What should we do about this whole situation?

I had left the classroom and my friend John said that people there said we deserved it. I dont get how. I havent been nasty to them, im quiet, i mind my own business. i really dont understand how i deserved it

Answer 1

You're right! You do not deserve to be treated with such disrespect. I suggest that you ignore this girl. If she continues to harass you than go to a guidance counselor. Do NOT let this girl harass you anymore!

Answer 2

Just ignore her and the rest of them. You're only teenagers and the year is soon coming to a close so why ruin it for the both of you? The only reason they continue is because you allow them to--by completely ignoring anything and everything (and I do mean everything) involving them, you'll probably find that they will tire of their teasing and move on to someone else. Sometimes the best thing that is done is to pretend like nothing is happening at all.
This goes for your friend, too. If you tells them to leave you alone, they obviously won't. However, if you two just sit there and continue to act as if they don't even exist and cannot bother you in the slightest, the problem is likely to go away.

Answer 3

I'm very sorry that you've experienced this. You're at that age where kids are cruel and mean because it makes them feel superior. It really has nothing to do with you; they say these things to draw attention away from themselves.

No, you don't deserve it. Never believe that you do. Hold you head up high and look them in the eye. When they harrass you, think of an intelligent yet witty reply and deliver it right between their eyes. They will back down and may even start showing you some respect.

When I was your age I had a girl say to me "You're a f*g, son, and I know." I turned to her friends and said "She called me son, that makes her my mother. Guess what? I'm the son of a b*tch." From that day forward that girl never tried to harrass me again.

Of course, you don't have to use profanity but sometimes a well-placed curse word helps get your message across.

Remember: you don't deserve to be harrassed.

Answer 4

First, remember this: Illegitimi non carborundum. It's Dog Latin for "Don't let the bastards grind you down." If they keep messing with you, just go up to them and tell them that you prefer that you f- off.
Second, I hope Danielle's boyfriend is open to hear what you say. Otherwise, skip this. Tell him everything that's been going on and that the both of you would like him to not believe what Sarah says to you (she is one of these classmates that treat you like ****, right?). In fact, tell him to not even acknowledge the existence of these people that are giving you a hard time.
Three, remember to keep your friends close and your enemies on tabs. If this does get any worse, if I were in your position I would need my friends beside me to comfort and assure me.
Well, this should at least give an idea about what to do. Remember, they have absolutely no right to treat you like this.

Answer 5

Calm down. Listen, speaking from experience the best thing you can do to the people that are harassing you is to act like it doesn't even bother you. It will kill them that they aren't pushing your buttons and will stop eventually. Every time they say something just laugh in there face and and walk away. It will be hard but i promise you it will work.
You don't deserve that, no-one does so good luck, I hope I helped a little bit.

Answer 6

You are being sexually harassed. I would discuss this with your parents, counselors, principal ... and if that does not get things fixed for you, proceed to contact the school district, school board, & ACLU. You have the right to not be harrassed at school or anywhere else.

I think a legal suit would get these people to leave you and your friend alone. Plus a financial kick in the *** will really teach them all a lesson.

I wish you the best with this.

Answer 7

Kids are pretty cruel and they also seem to follow a pack mentality. If one kid says something the other kids might go along for fear of being ridiculed as well.

People tend to make fun of others that they perceive as a threat or are jealous of, and they often project their insecurities onto others. It sounds like this girl is just insecure and doesn't know how to cope with it.

I'd perhaps talk to a school counselor, but don't let them make you miserable. Sometimes there's no other reason than they're just a rotten person. I find that karma usually takes care of people like that.

Answer 8

starryeye is right on. you have been made the scapegoat of mean teenie bastards. that is an unfortunate fact of society. always has always will. they know nothing but try to let them get bored with bugging you. remember to avoid givin them anything to get worked up about. unfortunate. you should tell you parents and the school counselor. but be very diplomatic, careful and "professional" and keep the story to a min. maybe you can turn the tables on them. best to use stealth and slide in under the radar. they are being bastards. sheeple bastard. herd instinct. been there done that long ago. i was one of just to make sure i was "it." if you look weak, act weak the lions will eat you.

Answer 9

hey Jackie, I'm 14 years old, and I've witnessed this happening to my friends.

all I really have to say is, you DON'T deserve it. some people are just nasty, and, I hate to say it, but you're just going to have to deal with people like that throughout your life. if it becomes a really bad problem, tell the dean, or principal, or a teacher, parent, etc... don't keep this quiet. if you keep complaining, the school employees will realize something is wrong. but don't let the harasser know that you're being annoyed by her. when she harasses you, just give her a weird look. if she's harassing you sexually (like touching, etc), ask her, "why are you calling ME gay when YOU'RE the one sexually harassing me?"

I hope this helped! :) good luck with this problem! :)

Answer 10

This sounds like the weekly wrap-up of the Soap Operas in the TV Guide.

Unfortunately, it's the same at all schools.
Sopris West publishes a series on school bullying:
http://store.cambiumlearning.com/SearchResultsHP.aspx?searchtype=Subject&sorttype=Subject&Query=Safe%20Schools

Otherwise, my only advice is to ignore the bad, stick with the good, and get on with your life -- oh, and choose your friends and your battles wisely.
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Answer 11

Your administarators are obviously idiots, but maybe there is another authority who would be willing to help you. If it gets to be a real problem there is no shame in transferring. Harassment is wrong and you and your friend have every right to leave or take this to the superintendandt. Please don't sink to that girl's level though. she doesn't deserve the satisfaction of knowing that she hurt you. Sorry for being preachy-preachy, and good luck!