last time i was pregnet he wanted me to have an abortion, so i did. he wants to wait untill he out of school to have any more kids. We have twins already. I do not want to go through another abourtion. Is it wrong to wait and till him till im 10 weeks along? I have no clue on what to do. I believe we will be fine, but i know he will stress over it. It not my fault i was on birth control... if anything he can only blame him self since he does not want to use control. HELP....
2007-03-09 10:18:45 · 16 answers · asked by babyyapi 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You could wait until around 10 weeks if you aren't showing, and claim you didn't know. Or, you could tell him and refuse to have an abortion. Tell him that you are still emotionally scared from being persuaded to have the last one, and that this is YOUR baby together, and you don't want to kill it, what if you don't get another chance?
2007-03-09 10:23:37 · answer #1 · answered by It's Just My Opinion 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First of all, Congratulations and hey, don't stress...it's not good for either you or the baby. It is hard catering for a new baby while living the family life, and I couldn't imagine how hard it would be already having twins in the family. I agree with some of the others...telling your husband sooner than later will make it easier on you. Tell him how you feel about bringing another precious bundle into the world and let him know that your ready to be a mum again. If he didn't want this, then he really should have been wearing a condom, whether he likes it or not. You did all the right things so you are not to blame. Don't feel guilty in yourself and enjoy what's growing inside of you....your new little son or daughter. Good luck!
2007-03-09 10:30:25 · answer #2 · answered by KK21 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you waited until you were ready for every baby you may never have any. Tell him now and let him know that you didn't like the abortion the first time and you refuse to do it again. Let him know that all it takes is budgeting if he is worried about bills, that not using birth control causes pregnancy and that stressing over it isn't going to change the situation. Good luck and congrats.
2007-03-09 10:25:45 · answer #3 · answered by MOMMY585 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well sweetheart if your husband cant understand that it takes 2 to have a baby and accidents happen. Then I would do what your heart tells you.But I will tell you what I have 2 kids. They were not planned. My husband was a little scared at first and so was I but If I would have had a abortion I can not imagain my life without my kids. They are my world. Your husband needs to realize you cant just throw away a childs life just because hes not ready. The baby is ready.
2007-03-09 10:27:34 · answer #4 · answered by pinkguardianangle 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For me, I'd flat out just tell him. But timing is everything though. Let him know that you're both in this together and everything will be fine. Explain to him your feelings on another abortion and what affects it will have on you. As for waiting for 10 weeks? Nah, I'd say the sooner the better so he knows what's coming and will come to accept it sooner.
2007-03-09 11:15:46 · answer #5 · answered by Jackie Hall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know if you wait to tell him it will only get worse. Tell him today. I can well understand why he wants to finish school and have a good life for you and the family.
Why you are working against him?
Abortion is not birth control. Why haven't you been on some form of birth control if he does not want to have more children right now?
You run the risk of running your husband off and into some other woman's arms.
2007-03-09 10:31:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Oh my gosh that is terrible. I would have never had the abortion the first time. He should be ashmed of himself. I bet he enjoys the sex when he gets you pregnant. Tell him and have the baby this time, dont kill it there is no excuse for this. Have your tubes tied so that this doesn't happen again. If he is pissed he should have taken precautions so this wouldn't have happened right? I'm sorry but I don't know how you stay married to a selfish man like this. My husband would NEVER dream of killing one of our kids because of inconvenience.
2007-03-09 10:35:14 · answer #7 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is never easy to tell someone you're pregnant. But, the sooner you tell him the better. Don't wait as he will blame you for waiting. Just tell him you are not having another abortion and next time please both of you use protection so you don't have to worry about abortion.
2007-03-09 10:22:58 · answer #8 · answered by Jacuzzi Lover 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him asap, he is your husband. You are right though, if he doesn't want to have a baby then he can take measures in to making sure that doesn't happen. Just talk to him about how you feel and if he pressure you into doing something that you don't want to do then maybe you should take other measures with him!!! Good luck.
2007-03-09 10:32:45 · answer #9 · answered by CeeCee19 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is wrong to wait until you are 10 weeks along...it is being deceitful. As far as who is at "fault" you both are for not using protection...YOU are since you SHOULD know that birth control is NOT 100% effective. You should have at least read the inserts on your birth control or LISTENED to your doctor when you first started on birth control. Therefore you should have INSISTED on using a condom or not have sex if he refused...You CHOSE to have sex...you CHOSE the consequences. Now tell your husband.
2007-03-09 10:24:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋