alright, so i know that i am. i have never been attracted to woman. i'm 17 years old. my parents would flip. i'm a christian, so being gay is wrong. what should i do? serious answers please. i've always wanted a wife and kids tho and to have a nice family. it's not fair! lol. i'm laughing to keep from crying. haha :p
2007-03-09 10:16:25 · 15 answers · asked by Aiden 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
go ahead and be gay- dont worry about the "sin" of homosexuality- doesnt Jesus take away your sins if you accept him as your saviour? Even an axe murderer gets to go to heaven if he accepts Jesus as his saviour on his death bed, so i guess being homosexual wouldnt be so bad after all......
I bet you can even have a family if you are honest and find the right person after a while- just dont try and hide it from a potential "mate" as that is not fair to them. I had a friend who wondered why her husband never wanted to have sex with her ( she became anorexic because she thought she was too fat- nearly died) and it turned out her husband was gay! dont do that to someone. You can even have kids with a guy if you adopt!
Be who you are, hold your head high and it will all work out- if you are truly christian you know that God did not make a mistake in creating your gay soul... and that the only REAL sin is not accepting Christ. ( and i'm not even christian) GO for it.
2007-03-09 10:43:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
You'll be fine. Relax. Drink a diet coke...
Congrats on accepting who you are. Don't let anyone try to persuade you to be anything else, ever.
The feelings you have about 'wife and kids' and 'white picket fence' and all that are basically a myth that you've been taught to accept as something of great value. Not that these aren't very valuable, and rightly so, to many people.
You've been selected for a different path, however, which is just as wonderful and exciting, even if it is a bit less traveled.
So, you're still very, very young. You've lots and lots of time to work on how you'll do things differently. First, don't be in a rush to leave home or to come out to your parents if you think there is a risk they would do something to put you at a disadvantage.
You planning on college? If your parent will let you, I would definitely go. You can learn alot and meet new people from all ways of life, and have alot of fun all the while. Not that its totally easy, but then, nothing worthwhile ever is.
2007-03-09 12:37:08 · answer #2 · answered by Todd 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can have all the things you want and still be gay. I'm gay and in my 30's now and remember feeling the same as you. I'm christian, and gay...don't believe the hype, the Bible is a combination of historical social laws AND God's word - gay is ok. I will be having a family someday (adoption, surrogate mom) and am gay. I have gay friends who have kids. You can do all the things you want to do, don't worry.
Being gay is a gift that only another gay person can understand...it requires you to question many things in life and come up with your own answers. You will be stronger than most over time. And you are going to be just fine.
2007-03-09 10:34:25 · answer #3 · answered by TJL 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same position my man, except that I was 25 when I finally realised it..
I didn't think that being gay was wrong from a religious point of view but from a scientific point of view (how wrong was I!?). I am now realising that the only way to deal with it is to accept what you are, rather than trying to form loving relationships with women.. believe me I tried and almost lost a very good friend in the process.
Mail me if you want to chat.
Edit: And also, it is fantastic that you're realising so early, it can only be better.
2007-03-09 12:53:26 · answer #4 · answered by Pete 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first of all, what city do you live in? If you live in a larger city, there are often gay-friendly churches, believe it or not.
My girlfriend (yes, i'm dating the same sex) is a Christian, and her church is doing a four-week sermon on the topic of sex. She said her pastor was talking about homosexuality in one of the sermons. It's only in the Old Testament that homosexuality was considered wrong. The New Testament doesn't mention it.
I think about it like the rules about eating certain types of meat. Remember in the Old Testament, pork and other animals "with cloven hooves" weren't supposed to be consumed, but then in the New Testament, Peter had a vision saying that it was okay again? It was because of cleanliness. In the older times, they didn't have the proper cooking techniques to make pork in a sterile manner, but chicken is easier to sterilize by cooking. But later, they had better technology.
I think it might be the same about homosexuality. I'm not trying to be gross... this is just what makes sense to me. I'm pretty positive that they didn't have too admirable bathing habits in the Old Testament times. So... anal sex wasn't very safe. There were also rules (I've read them, don't remember which book in the Bible) about not having sex with a woman while she's menstruating because she's "unclean". Nowadays, we can take showers as often as we would like, and we certainly know infinitely more about hygeine and the spread of disease and whatnot. Soooo...
If those guidelines were put in place because of hygeine reasons, like the Kosher rules... wouldn't be okay to rescind them now because we've got the whole hygeine thing figured out?
It's great that you're discovering yourself. That's awesome.
2007-03-09 11:58:26 · answer #5 · answered by Eve 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm a pseudo-Christian, and I'm bi. If being gay is wrong, and God only creates those in his image, then why am I more attracted to women than to men? Why are you NOT attracted to women? You serve and love God, right? Pray about this (I prayed and prayed, and prayed when I was questioning my sexuality a couple years ago, but I still kept on being attracted to girls more than guys) and see what He tells you. It is possible to be a gay Christian, or, if you're really worried, talk to a Christian counselor or your Pastor at your church.
2007-03-09 10:43:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not that I think releigion is wrong BUT I have when it is used to hurt people. You cannot help what feeling you have. Don't waste time being hidden. If you think your parents would throw you out don't tell them until you can afford to be out, of the house, that is. On the other hand, you'd be surprised what your parents already know & will usually love & support you no matter what. Yeah, it never seems easy, it's up to you.
2007-03-10 01:17:56 · answer #7 · answered by Psychic Sk8r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is learn to accept who you are. No matter what, you cannot change who ou are. You do not have to say anything to your family until you are ready. You can still have kids through adoption, but the wife can be replaced by a man that you love.
2007-03-09 12:00:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gay people have families, a house, white picket fences and bratty kids just like everyone else.
My suggestion to you.....surround yourself with gay/straigh allies. People that know the ropes of coming out and that will support you through a seemingly hard time. It sucks, but people have been doing it for thousands of years- lucky us that it is not only accepted in today's world, but often celebrated.
MOVE OUT OF YOUR HOUSE if your parents arent supportive.
As for the god stuff....
Im gay.
I love god.
Im a christian and God loves me for who I am.
There are SO many people just like you.
Check out MCC (its the gay church!)
www.mccchurch.org
Here are some interesting points against believing that being gay is sin against god.
http://www.jesusmcc.org/resource/hb.html
PS) Good luck to you. You're not alone!
2007-03-09 10:32:43 · answer #9 · answered by holefannn 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can still have a great, spiritual life, even with kids. The journey of 1000 miles begins with one step. I am really pushing young people to give PFLag a chance. They seem to really into helping people.
Hang tight. Try to go away to a really good college on a coast.
2007-03-09 10:22:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋