my husband and I dated for over 5 years. he wanted to marry me since we dated and I always put off b/c of the financial situation and job. we are married now for almost 1 yr and had a 6mos old child. I feel that he didn't pay attention to me anymore like before. like, he is not with himself. I know he work so hard everyday for us. Is this b/c he's tired? or he's not attracted to me anymore? what should I do?
2007-03-09 10:07:29 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are learning that children are not bonding, hon, they are divisive. And if you were not both prepared for that, oh, well. Your boyfriend went from being a stud, to now a dad....... and you went from being the babe, to now a mom. Two new roles neither of you were prepared for.... What should you do? A few sessions of counseling might help. But children change relationships forever, hon. And if you wish yours to survive, you both must accept those roles, grow into them, and become more than each of you was before your child.
2007-03-09 10:15:15 · answer #1 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The difference here may not be the marriage. It may be the baby. Being a parent is very big responsibility (as you know I am sure). Some time they can have the postpardom can be on him also. You need to talk and maybe counseling. Marriage is a job you have to work hard especially when you become parents, and go through rough patches. They are worth fixing.
2007-03-09 10:19:09 · answer #2 · answered by mzplcd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be the work, try to be a good wife have the kid clean, fix u self all the time have food for him and try not to smell like onion or other weird smell have the house clean and neat. If he work a lot try to make him happy and massage him don't be all cold with him. I'm not marry but because of my sis i could see all this stuff i told my brother in law that why he was so cold with my sis and he told me this, what i just told u so try it, i got it for a guy.it must work.
2007-03-09 10:19:57 · answer #3 · answered by golondris_1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he is just tired. men show us they love us differently they work. to pay the bills. we like affection, hugs kisses etc.. talk to him and tell him how you feel and ask him if he can help you feel the love that you need. hugs kisses affection. and in return he will be very happy, because you will be.
2007-03-09 10:15:18 · answer #4 · answered by sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a 6 month old baby, I'll bet he is not getting enough sleep. Talk to him, tell him how much you love him!!
2007-03-09 10:12:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your just getting to know the landscape of marriage.
Try something that will get him in the mood.
Sex is generally a two person sport you know.
2007-03-09 10:11:10 · answer #6 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will be better served by being open with your husband,let him know how you feel.you might even get back to where you were with a little communication.best of luck to you.
2007-03-09 10:24:37 · answer #7 · answered by TOM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should sit and talk to him and tell him just that. Most likely he's just tired.
2007-03-09 10:20:00 · answer #8 · answered by latina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...honestly...your married now...theres no longer that need to impress anymore...
just make sure you welcome him home everyday with a happy face a big kiss and hug....he'll appreciate that
2007-03-09 10:11:30 · answer #9 · answered by tj0744 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you should do is talk to him....
2007-03-09 10:20:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋