Do you believe children should be spanked as punishment?

Question

Or do you believe in the whole "discipline without violence" thing"?

and when i say spanked i mean hit with the belt, not tapped with a hand

lol some of you probably think i'm a parent, no i'm only a teen, i was just taking a poll to see what general idea is. I said belt because thats what was used on me.

Answer 1

I think the punishment should fit the crime. I also believe there is a vast difference between spanking and abuse. That being said, if my child hits, bites, kicks or in any other way abuses myslef or his sibling he immidiatly gets spanked. If he runs across a parking lot, or into a street, he immidiatly gets spanked. If he lies, he gets a different punishment, if he yells or throws something he might get put in a corner, or made to sit on a chair, or grounded from TV. All three of my children are exceptionally behaved and I am not bragging about it, it is just a fact. I also love and cherish them and that is just as important in punishment as the bad things. They must always know you love and respect them, and they will want to behave for you.

Answer 2

as long as it's on the limbs or the butt and that no bones are broken, and there's no blood and no lasting bruises.

spanking should only be resorted to with a sound mind of what the parent is doing, not just on a daily whim. the degree of spanking should be balanced with the degree of the wrong deed. at times, long hours of nagging & lecture will be more torturous than spanking. (I recall countless times when I wished my mother would stop her 3 hour yelling & lecture and just hit me instead). Might be better to give the kid a warning first, but it really depends.

Every child is different. Not every child needs to be spanked, but some do. I don't believe that if spanked right, a child will be scarred for life. That's all theory and b.s. MANY of us have been spanked growing up, some pretty roughly, and the majority of us came out okay. Let's not baby our children too much. Spanking does not teach violence when you explain to your child why he/she is being spanked and that he/she must not hit anyone else. There are waaaay too many undisciplined spoiled brats running around these days and some influencing our good children.
I'm not saying it's a cure-all, but parents should have the right to discipline their child in the way they see fit as long as children are not abused, ESPECIALLY if parents are going to be blamed and held responsible for their child's behavior and misdeeds. There's bound to be some ppl who abuse their children, but just because a few killers use knives to kill people, doesn't mean we should ban knives altogether.

Answer 3

you should not spank your child because you are mad at them. that's abuse.


if you are going to spank your children, it should be for something extreme, and they should know that spanking is a consequence.

example: you have a rule that your child is not allowed in the road without an adult escort. you discuss the dangers of the road with your child and they understand not to go into the road and if they do they will be spanked.



also, with any disciplinary plan, follow through is the most effective policy. if you make a rule, stand by it even when you are tired or don't feel like it. the purpose of discipline is to change a negative attitude or action.


NO BELTS, HOSES, STICKS, ETC. jeez!

Answer 4

You can discipline a child without violence if they have a lot of things that you can take away from them. I'll take your games away if you do that again.

But if you don't have anything else to punish them with, I think it's the last resort.

Having said that, I don't believe in beating the child. I think a slap on the hand or the butt ya know is sufficient. And to do it never out of anger.

Parents who discipline their children out of anger should be thrown in traffic.

Answer 5

well. I think that patting your kids on the behind is enough. when I was growing up, my parents used a paddle and a belt on me. But I am against Violence. but. a little tap on the butt isn't going to hurt them, physically or mentally. it's the parents that hit to hard, or don't know when to stop. Talking or making your child understand why they are being punished is the way to do it. violence doesn't do anything. except make your kid scared of you. like I said tho. I was spanked and I turned out fine. I would never spank my kids but a pat on the butt.

but it looks like anyone on here who answers that they think a pat on the butt or are ok with spanking is okay, are getting bad marks. So yea....

Answer 6

I am a child and when my mom spanks me, I hate it. So my mom grounds me from t.v. and maybe even music. If your child likes t.v. or music and he/she is over the age 8 or9 you might could ground him. There is a nother thing my mom might do a naught chair. I am at the age 10 so she makes me sat on it for 10 minutes. Then she talks to me about what I did and does not go aesy on me. Maybe that might help. If he/she did something real bad you might could spank them. But if they did something like "hit someone or some kind of animal or even you" you might should do a tip that I gave you instead of a spanken. I hope that helps you a little bit. Bye-Bye!

Answer 7

I believe in spankings. It lets them know who's boss and if they really don't like it then they will know not to do whatever they did again. I don't beleive it is called abuse.. it is a form of punishment. As long as the parents do not take to far as to hurt (as in damage or scar, bruise,etc.) then I think it is fine. When I was smaller I used to get spankings and I knew not to do what I did again cuz I didn't wanna get a whoopin!

Answer 8

Well I was spanked when I was little I don't really have an opinion on if it makes kids better or not. Some kids do deffinitly deserve it. I know that if I ever have kids I'd never ever hit them because thats just wrong and I hated when it was done to me and I know I'm pretty insecure especially around my parents.

Answer 9

There are different was to discipline children. I believe in talking and explaining what is wrong and what is right.

And yes, I do spank, when a need to. No one should ever have to beat a child in order to discipline. If you do, get help as soon as possible.

Answer 10

I was spanked as a child but I can count less than 5 times. Only one that stands out in my mind is the one where I got hit with the belt buckle but the main thing was getting grounded at 17 for staying out with a cousin all night. Was told I was grounded for 2 weeks but my parents got tired of seeing me at home all the time and they sent me out to run errands for them. I did not turn out bad and they know it.