I know it sounds crazy, but my wife and I have great communication. This is something she has wanted to do for a really long time. I support her because I know it is something she longs to try. I was wondering if anyone had an advice and if anyone can give me some insights on how to respond to her when she gets home in a supportive way.
2007-03-09 10:00:44 · 22 answers · asked by getlean_1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Cool go and watch. You may even want to participate, I envy you... That is if her partner is a female that is/
2007-03-09 10:03:55 · answer #1 · answered by schneid123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess thats cool some people would think ur out of your gourd but whatever works to keep both of you happy just try and be positive no matter if it was a bad time or what she did actually expect it to be but dont compromise your happiness either just to respect your wife with her feelings and wishes. If you really didnt like the idea too much of her going listen to her if she wants to talk about it but if she doesnt dont push it if you guys do have good communication then she will tell you about it i wouldnt really suggest asking her 1000 questions cuz if things didnt go the way she hoped you are prolly gonna be on the wrong end of the lit fuse but all in all now that she has gotten the chance to act upon one of her fantasies once everything goes back to the same old between you maybe you should talk to her about one of yours if you are supportive and what have you with her experience maybe you can have your own and get the same in return from her
2007-03-09 10:17:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you so insecure and so whipped that you would allow your wife to have a lesbian encounter with another woman? Don't you have any self respect for yourself? Be a man and stand up to the plate and tell her that you thought about it and you are very upset and cannot in any way approve of her sexual fantasy with this woman. Tell her it is wrong and totally immoral. Let me tell you something...your wife could not have any respect for you the way you are acting. This is disrespectful to you and your marriage. How dare she do this and you are going to let her get away with this?
Did you ever think that if you tell her that it is wrong and you will never approve of it, that she will look at you with more respect! Maybe she is testing you, did you ever think of that. Get with it...and tell her if she goes with this woman, the marriage is over and you will file for divorce. Don't be afraid to force the issue because if you don't she will walk all over you and use you like a doormat for the rest of your lives together. Good Luck
2007-03-09 10:13:34 · answer #3 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your wife's best friend is a woman, your wife maybe bi-sexual. Are you ready for that? You maybe opening a can of worms here my friend.
If her best friend is a man you may still be opening a can of worms. And again I ask, are you ready for that?
You have to ask yourself how you feel about this and be honest with your answer. What happens when she tells you that she is going to hang out with her best friend will thoughts of sexual rendezvous' creep into your thoughts.
You know on the other hand your wife may feel guilty when she comes home or be wracked with other emotions. Say hello (smile) and let her open the discussion.
Good luck!!
2007-03-09 10:35:36 · answer #4 · answered by dionne m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thanks for joining a group of millions who who have done everything they can do over the past several years to erode matrimonial vows and turn marriage into a joke. Im pretty sure that neither the bible or any marriage counseler has ever said that the key to a successful marriage is to allow your wife to lick beaver. Wow, what a goober. Don't be on here in a month complaining about how she doesn't give you sex anymore.
2007-03-09 10:26:46 · answer #5 · answered by theanswerman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not mention it being a guy or a girl either or your wife is to sacred and she should treat her body only to you as you are her husband sorry but i would tell her there is no way this is ever going to happen. If it's a guy what if he ends up being better in the sac then she may never come back to you, and if a girl she may feel she is gay and leave you for another woman either way I wouldn't let this happen but that is me.
2007-03-09 10:23:11 · answer #6 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What don't you remember about your marriage vows to love honor and be faithgul to her and her to you????
You are opening up for you to being in an open marriage. She just might enjoy her new found freedom and you might be left in the dark as she continues to play.
You have already said yes. And I can't imagine why.
You can't be real sure about this or you wouldn't be asking the question here.
Some fantasy needs to be kept as fantasy. Once it crosses in to reality there could be trouble.
2007-03-09 10:09:02 · answer #7 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, I'm assuming "together" in this case means sexual interaction?? In this case, I cannot believe that you are condoning your wife having physical intimacy with anyone other than you!! Didn't she promise you to remain faithful to you throughout your marriage? Didn't you promise the same to her? I would seriously caution you against this, these things never work out the way everyone thinks they will. Physical intimacy should remain inside the bonds of marriage...period. Good luck.
2007-03-09 10:06:00 · answer #8 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need help, in understanding Fantasy can hurt a marriage!
You should inform your wife that it's not going to happen at your expense, and if it happen , tell her to get tested for STD, and that the only fantasy that will ever be serviced outside your marriage.
2007-03-09 10:09:16 · answer #9 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I smell cuckold and it's very sad what happen to you that you became this type of individual I never understood men like you if it was me while she was having her fun I would be having mine pure and simple
2007-03-09 11:25:50 · answer #10 · answered by miester44 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋