What do feminist mothers teach their sons?

Question

Do they practice what they preach?

Do they teach their sons to always treat women and men equally? Giving everyone the same courtesy and respect?

Or, do they teach their sons to treat women differently, "like ladies" (you know, all that special consideration that some women prefer)?

I wouldn't think so, since that would contradict their platform that men and women should be treated equally? But, I've been wrong before.

What about their daughters? What do they teach them to expect from men and treat them?

Do they teach them to expect the exact same courteous treatment they should give - no more, no less?

If you know first or second hand, I would appreciate hearing about it.

Thanks for all for your answers.

However, Croa and wendy g are the only two that answered the question directly.

Answer 1

I will teach my children that it is just as wrong for a girl to hit a boy, as vice versa, that EVERYONE should be polite, meaning that girls hold doors open for boys, too...whoever happens to be coming in behind them. I will teach my boy to be equally courteous to BOTH sexes, and I will teach my girl the same. If you teach children that polite and courteous behavior is EXPECTED from both men and women, and should be GIVEN to both men and women...then no further discussion is necessary.
And when my girl starts dating, I will give her money, and instruct her to offer to pay half.

Answer 2

I don't know if my mom would categorize herself as a feminist but she raised me and my sister with many feminist ideals. She taught us that we can do as much as a man. My parents were a good example for us in that everything was divided 50/50. Both parents had great jobs and participated equally in household chores. There was mutual respect between both. When it comes to relationships she says you get what you put in. If I expect to be treated like a queen I must treat my man like a king.

I consider myself a feminist and plan to raise my children(both male and female) the same way.

Answer 3

I am a feminist and I teach my children to value all people and to never discriminate against another because of religion, race, gender, sexual orientation, age etc. I teach them to respect the environment and to do their part against destroying the world. I teach them to help others that suffer from poverty where ever they may reside in this world, and to be aware of the issues globally that they can help to alleviate or lobby against. They know about slavery and the selling of children and women and are taught to take up the gauntlet to end this horror. I teach them to advocate for those who are marginalized because of disease of social conditions, to look out for the more vulnerable. I teach my sons that women should be valued for reasons other that there looks and that he should respect their choices. I teach my daughters the same. Both are told the importance of an education not only for themselves but to educate others about the values that are important to sustain the world and to always treat others fairly. You are correct in asking for what you give. In order to earn respect it is tantamount to first learn how to respect others. I teach my children to work towards cultural competence and to learn of others beliefs so that they can endeavour to understand and not offend, nor judge.

Answer 4

It's impossible to generalize an answer to this question. Asking what all feminist mothers teach their sons is like asking what all Caucasian mothers teach their sons, or what all Canadian mothers teach their sons. See my point?

THIS feminist mother teaches her son to be himself, respect himself, and be true to himself. She also teaches him to be polite and courteous to ALL individuals, regardless of color, race, or creed. My son has what some term to be a disability. He therefore understands life from a position of being "different", and this has given him a great sensitivity to the humanity and the emotions of every individual he meets.

This mother teaches her son to honor the Divine spark in all people by treating them with respect and with dignity, whether they be female or male. Gender just isn't an issue in his book. Ideally, it shouldn't be an issue to anyone.

This mother teaches her daughter pretty much the same thing: respect others, and respect yourself. Don't compromise who you are.

Answer 5

The conscious feminist, teaches her son to respect women and treat them as they are: equal.

The "so-to-say" feminist, will probably make her son be fed up with women, be afraid of women.

Answer 6

I am "Reasonable Feminist" --by this I mean that I am not what some here call "Feminazi", but I do believe in equality for all people--I guess I am more of a political "Old Hippy" than any other category I could be put into.
I have 6 kids--4 grownups(2 female, 2 males) and 2(males) who are elementary school age.
I have honestly tried to raise my children to respect all people equally, whether the individual deserves it or not. My philosophy is that the world has some jerks, but they are not worth being rude to and that coming down to their level is self-defeating.
By doing so, I have helped shape children who are delightful human beings, not sexist nor racist, nor afraid of people of other cultures, faiths or countries. My sons surprise me sometimes with their unthinkingly sexist remarks, but I call them on it and we laugh it off. They do insist on holding doors open for women, but I taught them to do so for anyone coming in behind them in a line for the door.
My kids are not perfect, but they can all cook, clean and take care of their cars and homes. None of them expect a free ride in any way. They are educated (some in process of Higher Ed.) and compassionate to the point of volunteerism, serving those with fewer resources. I think that it is just part and parcel of being a caring, feminist Mom to teach your kids to love other people, instead of serving only themselves.
In short, what many people consider "Evil Feminism" is truly a philosophy of life that involves caring for the Gestalt, the whole. I am also an environmentalist, Pro-Choice, Animal Rights activist,a Vegetarian, among other things. Primarily, though, I am just a human being.
Hope this helps.
Good luck.

Answer 7

I'm totally in favor of equality... and that means if some chick hits me i'm gonna deck her... (hard opinion?) is that wrong? Do you wanna be my equal or do you wanna be a poor lil weak girl? Pick a side.. i can go either way... but act acoordingly eh?

You cant have it both ways.. yer either my equal or you arent.. pick a side..

And believe me I know a few female marines that I'm not sure know who would win a fight LOL.. But I think a few of THEM prob could... luckily I keep them on my good side... and BONUS.. they have kicked male *** in a bar fight on my behalf.. and I gotta admit I LOVED every min of it... Now thats My Kindda girl ! (really I like strange girls.. which is why I really dont have too much to do with girls anymore.. toooooo normal and boring Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz)

Pick one EQUAL or not.. I'll treat ya either way.. just dont step outta what boundry you pick OK??? Is that fair (I think so)

Answer 8

I might just be considered a feminist mother...of 3 daughters and a son. I raised ALL my children to be respectful of their human family (men and women alike) in fact, # 1 rule in our house was THE GOLDEN RULE "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." I taught my daughters not to hit, men or women, and if they hit a man they better expect to get hit back (not that I agree with hitting at all) and I taught my son the old fashioned "don't hit a girl" UNLESS she kept hitting him because she KNEW he couldn't hit back. Then he was to warn her seriously that if she didn't stop immediately, he was gonna clock her! I don't believe in violence and in fact, it makes me physically ill, so I advocate avoiding it whenever possible. For both my girls and boy, however, I do expect them to stand up for themselves in the manner that fits each of them individually. I believe women are as capable of domestic violence as men. I have not taught my daughters to expect anything more of men than women; they should expect to work as hard to get as far and not expect handouts just cause they have a "re usable" resource!

Answer 9

they try to give you the idea that they raise the boys with integrity and respect, but in reality look around--you can almost tell a fatherless son, he's flaccid, soft, usually plump, he'd rather sit in the house instead of paying ball, he calls the mom at work because he is so damn insecure--in general he is a mess! has man boobs by the time he is 12, he has doctor notes for getting out of gym and has no idea how to work on a car, mother wasn't content f--ing up her own life--she had to ruin her boy too, out of contempt for males.

Answer 10

In the name of hte Mother, and the Daughter, and the Holy Spirit, Amen.
He frowns.
Too bad.