how does one cope with a child not wanting anything to do with their own parent?

Answer 1

What did you do to your child to make them not want anything to do with you?

Answer 2

This is a bit short on details. if the child has been hurt by the parent, time will help to heal the hurt. In the case of a broken marriage the child could be trying to protect the parent they are living with.
There is a child counselling service which can help the child to come to to terms with feelings. The doctor can give phone numbers for this service.

Answer 3

How old is the child? What happened - children can be very deeply affected by life events; their perception of them is different than an adults. Your child may be suffering at some level and be unable to verbalise how he or she is feeling, and be blaming you in an unconcious way.
It very much depends on the age of the child, how one would answer this question.
Small children go through phases of being a daddy's girl or a mummy's little boy;
For older children, it may be different.
My daughter was 15 when she told me one day she hated me and wanted nothing to do with me.
It took years of soul searching and counselling before I got at the truth; she had an eating disorder, and at a subconcious level, felt I should have noticed and helped her.
We should try to love our kids no matter what; we don't bring them into the world to have them love us back; we just hope it will happen.

Answer 4

as the others have said its hard to answer with so little detail.. but my children, are young and have just cut their dad out of their lives, i think this is drastic but i understand completely, they felt worthless in his eyes and he needed to be the adult and take control, instead he has said fine and not bothered with them he is waiting for an apology.... i would say whatever age the child they expect you to take control as their parent, to persist to tell them you love them and demonstrate you will never give up. when kids push their parents away what they are really doing is testing whether your limits are boundless and they need reasurance more than ever even if that gets thrown in your face for quite a while, they can be relentless in their quest as they have obviously had some catastrophic trauma that makes them think you wont be there. this applies whether they are 10 or 30. dont ever just accept and try to cope keep trying, after all unless you have done something to them truly hideous what they are crying out for is your love.

Answer 5

Both my parents were b*stards to me as a child, physically violent, but the worst was the emotional cruelty, always being made to feel like the beggar at the table.
I broke away from them for years and then re-established contact. Big mistake. They hadn't changed, I have.
I'm now 50 years old and I still carry the scars and the rage from those two.
Remember, kids grow up and their life may not involve you.

Answer 6

It would depend on how old the child is...

If they are young I would talk to them and get them into counseling if case.
If they are teenagers, lol...that's just life and the way it goes for a few years.
If they are older, you need to talk to them and ask them specifically what its wrong....

How do you cope? By helping them figure out what is wrong or what has changed in there life to make them distant.

Answer 7

If he or she is a teenager, it's completely typical and age appropriate. The best thing you can do is continue to be their parent, make sure you're there for them if they get into a tight spot, make sure not to relax your rules in an attempt to get them to like you again, and stay the course. They'll grow out of it, and if you did your job as a parent well, they'll closer to you than ever once they're old enough.

Answer 8

Were the parents hurtful to child?
Were the parents evil to child?
Were parents abusive to child?
Were parents Sexually abusive to child?
Were you on a power trip?
Were you Sexually preconscious and child resented you for it?
Is child in love with someone who dislikes you?
Is child ashemd of themselves in any way?
Is the Child on drugs?
Is the Child on a power trip?
Is the child thoughtless?
Is the Child abusive?

Anything is possible but you must remember if anything up there even describes your child relationship with you than you might have to throw in towel and try ( though I couldn't throw in towel) to reestablish your relationship with child or move on.

Answer 9

If said child is a teenager, or about to be a teenager, you consider it a normal part of development, and let the little snot walk 4 feet in front of you at the mall, store, wherever, and don't take it personally.

Answer 10

I am in exactly the same situation,my ex ran off and took the children with her.I went through 2 parental bereavements as well as my divorce....I didnt kniow what to do or who to turn to and kept distance from my kids for 4 years,my daughter agreed to see me but my son still refuses anything to do with me.I have tried everything to have contact with him but he still says he wants nothing to do with me...I'm hoping that in time he will see sense and in his own time contact me when he feels ready.But my advice to you is keep sending letters,birthday cards etc etc and let them know you still care for them and want to be part of their lives..Its difficult and I know exactly how you feel.....
Be careful though,dont push too hard or the harder you push the further away they will go....time is the only thing that will help,how old is your child?
Whatever you do,dont put his mother down in any way,he/she will only resent you...Try and be positive,for your sake as well as theirs......
This is not an easy question to answer,but if its any comfort to you,you are not alone...
Good luck..