I am bisexual and had girlfriends before i married. I want to be with a woman but he says only if he gets to join or watch? he knew i was bi .What do I do? And how do i find a girl who will let him join?
2007-03-09 09:39:22 · 14 answers · asked by iwill 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
it was my idea , not his. i want a girl but dont want to feel like he is watching me?
2007-03-09 09:49:24 · update #1
Should you do it? Only you know the securities within your relationship so if thatss in check, I say yes!
As far as finding a women to do it. Its not as taboo and kind of the thing to do these days.
My advise, don't ask a co-worker, family member or close friend. If you can help it, don't let him choose the women either. Any women you bring home, he will approve, whereas you will be more optimistic and picky. Hopefully its another married, but be prepaired to repay the favor. Choose a not so close friend or take a vacation, meet a stranger and leave the experience in Aruba. LOL!
Email me if you wanna talk some more on it and no I am not trying to pick you up. I have been down this road before. You can also go on-line and register at a local swingers club and no doubt, you will find someone there you are both comfortable with.
2007-03-09 09:50:58 · answer #1 · answered by BionicNahlege 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kind of wondered the same thing (why youre asking strangers). I think you should give this a lot of thought. Just know that you are bi and he is straight...so this is basically a (disguised) free cheat pass for him. Either youre okay with that, or not...but make no mistake about his motives.
Also, this will most likely totally change things, so be prepared!... It would have been much easier if this issue had been agreed on before the actual marriage of course. I wish you luck.
2007-03-09 09:47:00 · answer #2 · answered by Mi 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are women out there that will perform this service for you, and they are more widely available than you might imagine. You should try posting on swinger sites for potential connections and maybe find someone that is the same situation as you.
Overall, though, do you really want to do this or are you just giving in to your husband's wishes? Just a thought.
2007-03-09 09:44:05 · answer #3 · answered by MaryCheneysAccessory 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a marriage it can only consist of 2 partners so I guess being bi might b out of ur picture 4 now unless u want him having sex with another woman. If you do follow through then ur not bi nemore just consider ur relationship as no trust,unfaithful,and all ur vows out the window b/c now ur a swinger. Might as well cheat on each other that's what it sounds like 2 me.
2007-03-09 09:49:42 · answer #4 · answered by Lovely 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there are several websites that you can go to that are discreet and will let you post an anonymous profile so that the two of you can search for and meet someone that would be willing to participate. There are some that are free and some that cost. I am not talking about porn sites, but websites that have to do with swinging. Good luck!
2007-03-09 09:44:35 · answer #5 · answered by cat14675 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um well everyone has their own opinions and everyone will try different things. Ok but 9 out of every 10 couples that decide to have threesomes....FAIL! Like BIG time! I wouldn't ever have a threesome. I mean my bf and I have been together for a bit over a year now and um.....not even now would I ever go for that. and neither would he. Let alone when we're married. Who knows? You may like it BUT there's a 50% chance that you and your husband's relationship will fail because of it. I obviously don't know you two but from other ppls' experiences and perspectives. I bring you with some of MY advice.....no.
2007-03-09 09:46:33 · answer #6 · answered by ♥DaNi♥ 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have never done this but a friend of mine did. she was all for it until she saw her man having sex with another man. I'm not sure if you can be ready to see that. I dont know how to find a girl maybe go out to a club. Good luck with what ever you decided to do.
2007-03-09 09:43:08 · answer #7 · answered by jeenie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should definitely have a 3some with your husband. as far as finding a girl who will let him join in,just ask around until you find someone who is interested. Also after you do this you should tell my wife how great it was.
2007-03-09 09:43:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The girls are out there, go to some of the bisexual dating sites and search for girls in your area.
2007-03-09 11:22:24 · answer #9 · answered by SweetGin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES..........by all means do it. he will only love you more. my girlfriend brings girls home for me sometimes and it only increases my love for her. after our 3somes i cant stop having sex with her. seeing her with other women really turns me on, and we do it like jackrabbits for weeks afterward. just make sure you are ok with him being with someone else, and i am sure you will reap all the benefits....enjoy and have fun.
2007-03-09 09:44:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋