Do you ever wish you were the opposite gender?

Question

Are there many people who consider themselves to be transexual but because of their circumstances are unable to tranisition, if so how do you cope with the overwhelming desire you must feel, or is the fact that you think you cannot give up your current life, family and friends etc actually pointing to the fact that you may not actually be a true TS
What if you are well over 6 foot and very well built really look rough and manly so there is no way you could ever pass as a woman again does the fact that this puts you off changing sex mean that you are not a true TS
Can you ever find a happy balanced life or do you spend your whole life with that desire eating away inside you

Answer 1

I'm over Six Ft tall, built like a medium sized shed. If I was shorter, and born with a frame ten sizes smaller, I certainly would have been for GRS but I know it's not gonna happen.

For a few years I let it eat away at me, it was unfair, it was tragic, it was just SO not right.

I'm not sure when my opinion changed, but it has. I'm happy being me, and have been for a long time. Becoming female is a dream, but then so is winning lotto... We face the fact... It aint gonna happen and we find ways to live with it.

So... Yeah, I have found a balanced life, but yes.. the deisre is still there too. I can hold both feelings in mind at once with no real difficulty.

Good question !

Answer 2

I see what you are saying, and can symapthise with how you feel. The whole world is againts you, it is so difficult to change. The problem is I dont think these feelings will simply go away, nor do I think that you will be able to cope for ever. You are kind of damed if you do and damed if you dont! There is no easy answer. Society piles cliche upon cliche on this gender thing which all in all is simply a social construct, If you take yourself out of this society and transition from male to female and vice versa was an everday occurance would you do it? If yes, then at some point you have to bite the bullet! You have one shot at life, do you want to waste it or make the most of it? Go out be happy and be you.
Good luck

Answer 3

I changed from male to female and love it, I am 5'10'' and still wear heals, love them. I am only slim and look good ( well I think so and have been told I do ) I just love the choice of clothing a woman can wear unlike a man that looks the same all the time. I have been fem for 14 years and got my birth certificate changed to female. Any one interested I have put up a question about the issue and the need for a help line.

Answer 4

No, I do not wish to be the opposite gender, or an opposite gender (actually, there are a lot more than two genders...) I do identify as transsexual, but I don't identify as transgender. (I am not any gender whatsoever. I am also not male or female, I have a human sex and that is all.)

I believe that gender is a social construct and the cause of a lot of human oppression. I don't believe that bodies are gender, but that they are gendered by people. I see gender as being roles. I don't believe that gender is anything other than social expectations. I don't believe that gender and sex are the same thing.

Also, I dont' believe that any person can be a "true TS" in the sense that somenoe could be a "False TS" because TS is an identity, and identities are our own to sculp, not someone elses. No one else can assess whether another is truely TS.

Also, while I am a TS, I am a non-op (not planning to have surgery). This does not mean that I do not identify as TS. I am sure I could enter in to high end debate with any psychologists who would declare otherwise about me. *chuckles* (See my credentials below if you'd like)

Amiko-Gabriel Stocking
Director of Gender Schmender
Co-Director of Intersexes Are Human (ISAH)
Gender Center Board of Directors
Winner of the Oregon Student Scholar Award.

Answer 5

I am a pre-op TS, and let me tell you, theres just about nothing i wouldn't say no to to change my "you know what" to a vagina ,in a heartbeat. i can't even tell how manytimes I have wondered how it would be to be able to experience everything that a woman experiences on a daily basis.
Not to mention , just to have the chance to concieve and carry to term a baby, and deliver it and hold that little life in my arms. I am trying to make the other changes that I can change, but i am just going to have to settle for a being a barren woman for life. Maybe medical science will learn how to make this dream a reality for someone else in the future, but for now its just a dream

Answer 6

Sometimes i think about it and i think if i was male i would get a sex change because i love how i feel in my body and the idea of having a penis freaks me out. The only good part would be that i would be able be with women without being seen as a freak!

Answer 7

I've often wondered if I'm really a man, but I don't think I'm secure enough in myself to start asking myself these questions.

Also, I try and hide these thoughts/feelings as they aren't helpful. I cannot change who I am, the circumstances are just against me. I should put my energy in to making the most of what I have/am.

Yes, I am a little confused about my sexuality and my gender. No fun!

Answer 8

I struggle with the fact that sometimes I wish I was a male.
Other times, I could even imagine going thru the drama of transitioning from FTM.

I discoved GENDERQUEER and I've never looked back. Even transgendered folks get out of 1 box and get stuck in the other. There is no escape. With being GenderQueer, you accept who you are in the world, how you want to be seen and you dont need to out a M or F label on any of it.

Answer 9

Can say ive ever felt the need to be a man, i sometimes wonder what its like, not cos i want to b one jus wander how they feel and how things feel for them. I can imagine if you are stuck in the wrong body so to spk it wud b a very hard thing to cope with, but i think no a days if ppl feel that strongly about somethin they do wat ever it takes to get what they want - i know a few TS that made sacrifices to get where they are no but they dont regret it.

Answer 10

i would only like to be a man for a day just to feel what its like to experience the sex life as i would like to know the difference in the pleasures of an orgasm but other than that im very happy being a woman