My friend is chatting w/ this guy from a different state, is this wrong and should i tell her to stop?

Question

She is only 15 and he is 17... she live in P.A and he live in W.V they talk bout having kids, having sex, and getting married. What should i do?

Answer 1

tell her to stop, dog.

Answer 2

While chatting with a guy from a different state is not necessarily wrong, the conversations you claim they have are reason for concern. Most 17 year old guys aren't interested in having a relationship with a 15 year old that they don't even see. While this guy may be an exception, he probably isn't.

Let her know you are concerned and offer other suggestions. Suggest that y'all hang out or double date.... anything to take her attention away from the current situation. It is not healthy at her age for her to be wrapped up in marriage and children with a guy she has never met. Get her out to meet other guys and let her know she can do a lot better.

Answer 3

he says hes 17 that does not mean he is.you need to remind your friend that there are some dangers in talking to strangers and she needs to be very careful.you can try to tell her to stop but that doesn't mean she will,try to talk to her and make sure she doesn't ever give her phone number or her home address to anyone.then tell her to never ever make plans to meet this person that is dangerous on so many levels and if she insists shes not doing anything wrong try having her tune into dateline and watch how many weirdos are out there stalking young girls and boys the thought that talking to someone on-line is safe only if you follow some rules and she needs to be cautious as does any young person or even some adults when talking to strangers on-line.

Answer 4

Tell her that she should stop, as there's no way to know for sure who she is really talking to.

Sure, many people can seem nice enough, especially online.. but it also leaves open the real possibility that this guy could be some crazy pervert, who is hoping to talk a young girl into "falling in love" with him just so he can get close to her.. You can never be too safe online when you're chatting with people. That goes for minors and adults alike.. you really just never know, not when you're talking to someone you only know online. It's not safe.. and too many bad things happen, things that seemingly start off innocent.

The fact that she and this guy are already talking marriage and sex (no 15 year old child should be sitting online, chatting about sex with some guy) really concerns me. If this was a real, decent and genuine guy.. he would be carrying on those types of conversations with her. He is only doing what so many guys do (that is, if he really is 17) which is sweet talking the younger girls, telling them what they want to hear.. so they can get what they want from them (usually sex).

I think you should have a talk with your friend about her "chatting". She should never talk to anyone she doesn't know online.. but if she chooses to, she needs to make sure to never ever give out any personal information, not even her real name. It's too risky on here.. She could be setting herself up for some awful situation and not even realize it, until it's too late.

So please, talk to your friend and let her know that you're concerned about her (as you very well should be). I also think that you should talk to your Mom about it.. and about how you feel. See if she can find a good time to talk to your friends Mom, so she is made aware of her daughter's "chatting". I'm sure that she wouldn't want that sort of thing to continue.. I know, it may sound like you'd be "ratting" out your friend.. but in reality, you could very well be saving her life. So, be a friend.. talk to her, and then have your Mom talk to her Mom. It's the only responsible thing you can do in this situation.

Also, if your friend doesn't seem persuaded by what "could" happen.. have her take a look at the Perverted Justice website, so she can see just how many sick people there are out there, just preying on young girls like her.. It starts out as what seems to be harmless chatting.. but can lead to so much more. Here's a link to their site.. Please, show it to her so she can understand the reality of what goes on..

www.pervertedjustice.com

You're a good friend, and I'm glad you care enough to look out for your friend.

Take care!

Answer 5

Talk to her about your concerns.. If your tell her not to talk to him she will be very defensive. I thinks just letting her know your concerns will be enough. She should be very careful. Whose to say the Guy is really even telling the truth about himself. It should be ok if it never goes beyond chatting. BUT if she ever says she is going to meet him. I would be a true/real friend and talk to her parents.

Answer 6

be concerned about internet safety first.... If is was just talking then I would not have a problem but the converstations she is having I would be worried a little about it.... If you care don't be afraid to intervine and let your concerned be heard...Even if she gets mad at you hopefully she will see the logic in the future but if something happens to her and you didn't at least try you would feel guilty for the rest of your life...

Answer 7

You should advise your friend to stop because it could become potentioanlly dangerous for her. Did she ever meet up with him? Because then it can get real serious and your friend could get into real trouble. I would advise her to stop and just explain that you are worried about her that's all you can really do but if things get more serious contact on adult.

Answer 8

MAYBE he is 17, and maybe he's 42. That's the way to attract child molestors. They lurk in the chat rooms looking for foolish young girls to molest.

Answer 9

There's no way to be sure that he's actually 17. How many times have girls been told that on-line only to meet up face-to-face and discover he's 40. I would make sure she tells her parents. I'm sorry you're in that position.

Answer 10

Let her be. But watch her back. She might be a crazy ***** and run away with him. Like those hoes you read about in magazines... Talk to her. But all it really is she is making up for the loving she doesnt get in real life online.

Answer 11

Your Answer is just talking has never impregnated anyone I think its fantastic to see them at least talking and exploring the idea.That's what you should be doing instead of being two doors down inside of some drunken girl how has know idea about what she wants. Or with how she wants it with. strongly suggest using condom to her then just take day buy day.