I dont have time to "date" or find someone. I am lonely. Even though i am VERY busy with the kids............................... :(
2007-03-09 09:11:37 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
There is no reason to wait, in fact it may be better for the kids if you find someone who can be a male role model for them. You don't have to go out all the time actively looking for a guy, but turn yourself off from finding one. Attend school and church functions, kids sporting events, etc.. I guarantee there is a single father out there in the same situation you are in.
2007-03-09 09:17:53 · answer #1 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister is a single mother of 3 as well and she always makes sure that there is 1 day every other week that she gets a babysitter and goes out with her friends and enjoys the single life!
You're a mother! It's hard enough juggling being a mother and being busy. You need to have time away too.
Surprisingly, there ARE men out there that really love kids and don't mind dating single mothers. Test the waters and see what you find!
Enjoy being a mother and being SINGLE!!!
2007-03-09 17:20:22 · answer #2 · answered by polynesianladylove1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a Mom doesn't mean you are no longer a woman. Date when you can and tell the guys before you even go out that you are a single Mom of 3. Leave the lonely part out though - target for one night standers.
2007-03-09 17:16:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait? You mean WAIT to find someone for you to date/marry until your kids are grown and out of your house? Girl, please..plenty of single mothers date and even get married while their kids are still living at home..and even really young kids. My mom remarried when my little brother was 15 and I was 21 and we both still lived at home. Yeah, youre kids are important but you should also do what makes you happy to.
2007-03-10 00:49:18 · answer #4 · answered by Minty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how little your kids are, but having boyfriends around can really mess up kids. If you are recently separated or newly divorced NO- you all need some respite.
If you do date, don't bring dates home and keep dating separate from parenting.
Chat online if you are lonely.
I have seen so many women dating the week after the husband left and their kids are a mess. Don't do it like that.
2007-03-09 19:01:17 · answer #5 · answered by CYP450 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should go looking but if the right man comes along you will know it. If he does come along I don't think you shouldn't date him just because you have kids. I met the man i'm with 9 years ago. I had 3 kids from a previous marriage at the time they were 3,4 and 6. He has helped me raise my children with confidence and i love him more and more everyday. We actually had a child together 5 years ago! Just remember that you are a mother first so as long has you don't have to neglect your children to be with Mr. Right, i think it's fine...Good Luck! "Good things come to those who wait".
2007-03-09 17:22:29 · answer #6 · answered by weary minded 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait. Just don't get too serious in front of the kids if you do find someone. Respect the kids but you don't want to end up resenting them or blaming them for your lonliness. If you are happy you will be a better mom. My mom never remarried but she did date. She was happier and friendlier when she had a boyfriend. She never stayed over at his place or had him sleep at ours. I'm glad she never did. It would have been very uncomfortable. However I think my mom lost her boyfriend because she didn't want to remarry when we were still there, at least that is what she has always told me. Anyway, I wanted her to be happy. I wish she would have continued to date.
2007-03-09 17:21:44 · answer #7 · answered by gem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since technology has advanced immensely and you never have time to date... You could always try online dating. There are web cams and e-mails that you can send to one another to keep in touch. Also, you may run into Mr.Right when you least expect it. So don't worry. Worry about your children, and the guy of your dreams will find you. Don't go looking for love.
2007-03-09 17:17:19 · answer #8 · answered by Cieeeee <3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would be much easier to find someone after ur kids are grown for sure but they are guys out there that can deal with it so u dont have to just stop living ....... i know with three kids u cant have much time for sure and a guy might find that to be a problem but u can find things to do there at ur home so u can spend time with a guy and ur kids too
2007-03-09 17:16:28 · answer #9 · answered by Robert C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be easier for both you and the kids if you'd wait til they move out. But then again, everyone needs someone you know? To share secrets to.. to talk to.. to comfort and cuddle with. And besides.. Live life to its fullest =] Go party hard and have fun while you're at it!
2007-03-09 17:20:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋