My wife & I have been for over 5 years, caregivers to her little sister who's a byproduct of a affair her mother had. who will be 6 in April. My wife & I started adoption proceeding's after her father blew up at thanksgiving & told her mother the other mans "LEFTOVER" will never be invited in his home ever! She would be out on street if she continued in front of everyone at dinner time.
He's not a nice person, but neither is she, both are selfish people who are responsible for multi-affairs in there marriage. I consider the poster kids to white trash, right along with my parents! We are the only one who she knows a mother & father but her mother wont terminate parental right to her daughter, So we have taken matters in our own hands and got the mother terminated for abandonment of her child! Her mother said her husband will one day accept her, well judge wasn't buying it and terminated her as mother.
Were called a**hole,and other stuff because we did this! What do you think?
2007-03-09 09:05:18 · 15 answers · asked by Free-Lance 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
People here it is simple as can be said!
Wifes mother had affair, child was born from affair! Wifes mother husband won't accept child And would divorce her, and child's REAL father left country who is not a U.S.citizen and surrendered his right as father.
My wife and I were made Guardians to child by state of California. and are Raising the child now!
Wife and I have been raising child for over 5 years now with out any help or support from her mother, not even babysitting duty's, and have decited to adopt child because we are the girls only parents she know!
Wife and I ask her mother to sign adoption papers,she said "no", her husband will one day allow child in home, he told her it's never going to happen both are in 55 now.
Wife and I went to court on abandit child status, and Ca. state agreed and terminated wife mothers rights as parent!
We are now in final stages of adoption Now, hope to get it done by child's 6th birthday!
Wife mother, calls us Every dirty word in book!
Simple.
2007-03-09 09:05:33 · update #1
No my friends she's our angle.
All our kids and nieces and nephews are our angles ,we are truly blessed with them in our live.
We adopted our 4 sones who range from 7 to 2 years of age, we are careing for my wife 2 daughters who in now serving 15 years to life for bank robbing, and my sister son who will 14 years old in may after she exposed her son to her swingging lifestyle party and has trouble with the law herself, and a C felony, and her husband in divorcing her now even though he was also at fault!
Yes Family on both sides are WHITE TRASH!
On the upbeat note however the wife is the best thing our kids can have she just loves them all so much and loves being a mother!
We can't have kids of our own and every child thats in our care is family from one side or the other ,but she calls them all her "Little Angles"!!! We do live over 200 miles away though so not much contact with her family or mine for that matter.
She's the Best thing in everyones life including mine!
I love her!
2007-03-09 09:52:17 · update #2
I can't think of better people to adopt this child! It shows what good people you and your wife are by wanting the blessing of the birthmom and wanting people to see the importance of acting in the best interest of the child, but "white trash" as you say will never hold that attitude. Believe me, I know white trash as I also have a trash family. They are selfish to the end and only want what they want. I say ignore them and take care of your family. Please keep your children away from them as much as possible. They do harm to children even with their words & actions-I know from experience. All the best to you. It will work out well. May God bless you and yours always.
2007-03-11 04:23:16 · answer #1 · answered by flinch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your wife are the best thing that could happen to his child. Like you said your mother in law is selfish I doubt if you will ever get her blessing.
Take care of that little girl, seems like you and your wife love her very much. I'm sure she knows this.
Whatever is in the best interest of the child, right? And by the sounds of it you and your wife have the biggest blessing you can get.... you got a daughter!
2007-03-09 17:26:16 · answer #2 · answered by Valentina 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get the adoption finalized, pack up and MOVE away from this psychotic roller coaster.
Just because this woman brought this child into the world doesn't mean she is fit to be the mother. And if her big sister cares enough about her to adopt her with you and make a family, that's enough reason to do it.
None of you need to have anything to do with the birth mother in this circumstance. You should sever all contact with her and get away! Make a fresh start for you all!
2007-03-09 17:20:00 · answer #3 · answered by stonechic 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why are you so concerned with the mother's "blessing"? You're doing what's right for the little girl; it sounds like you'll be able to do it without much trouble from the courts - who cares about a "blessing" of a controlling dysfunctional screwed-up person? She can live her life as she sees fit, and you live yours. It's good that you don't depend on her for anything. Enjoy the child.
2007-03-09 17:12:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What advice doya need? Sounds like you have it well under control. The court has taken care of it. Ignore the so called 'mother'........and I use that term very loosely. Natural mother is being very selfish. The child needs a loving home. Hopefully you and your wife will provide a nourishing, loving environment for the child.....AWAY from her biological mother.
2007-03-09 17:27:45 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do everything you can to get your adoption finalized and then move as far away as possible. It will be better for both of you and this poor girl who is caught in the middle. In the meantime, if you need to, think about a restraining order agaist both the mom and dad who blew up at Thanksgiving too. It should help keep them away and allow this little girl to heal. BTW, you guys deserve a medal for taking the little one in. You guys must be her angels.
2007-03-09 17:32:15 · answer #6 · answered by Suz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you are the child's parents, since the people who created her seem more intent on using her as a pawn in their fights. You did the right thing, and I'm glad she will grow up with love in her life.
Just be sure that when you tell her this story, she is old enough to understand why her birth family weren't fit to raise her.
2007-03-09 17:12:54 · answer #7 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I read all of this, so why worry about any one's blessings???? Hell with them. You know what is right for this child, and so does the court. She will never grow up to be a good adult, a tax payer, a nice wife for some nice guy, and a nice mom unless you and your wife continue with her.... All the best, hon.
2007-03-09 17:59:26 · answer #8 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're doing the right thing, what more advice do you need? As for the child's mother, consider the sourse and move on.
2007-03-09 17:37:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what you did was the right thing. That child will thank you later down the road. God Bless You!
2007-03-09 18:37:10 · answer #10 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋