I am feeling anxious and overwhelmed. My husband is home with me but is going back to work this sunday. I have a beautiful son and caring family. I just feel so freaked out. Any one else gone though this? I am not feeling like I am going to hurt myself or anyone else, I am just having trouble relaxing and bonding. Any advice is appreciated.
2007-03-09 08:52:23 · 8 answers · asked by Sunshine9 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I am so sorry that you're feeling this way. I had ppd, and it's very hard to get through it. I bawled several times a day, felt hopeless, had Very Scary Thoughts about my baby (never planned/thought I would hurt him, but had images pop into my head of what could happen or what I 'could' do - veryvery disturbing).
What you've described feeling is entirely normal, though. Your body is going through massive hormonal changes, and your whole life has changed, you've suddenly entered a whole new world -- I'd be concerned if you weren't feeling anxious and overwhelmed!
You are bonding with your baby,w hether you feel like it or not. We're led to believe that something magical happens, that you feel this golden tie developing, and suddenly everything is wonderful. WRONG! Okay, it happens for some, but for others it's a much more subtle thing, you don't even realize it, then someone points out what a wonderful bond you two have ...
For now, do whatever you need to do. Chores around the house can wait. Sleep when you can. Cuddle your baby lots, cuddle your husband lots. Talk to your baby about anythign and everything. My little guy is 14 months now, and every single night we cuddle, he nurses, and I tell him about how proud I am of him, how much I love him, and tell him who else loves him. It's a wonderful ritual, might help you too :)
Talk with your doctor, midwife, or community health nurse about how you're feeling. If they shrug it off and the feeling continues or gets worse, then insist on talking more about it with them, perhaps get a referral to a ppd specialist.
They may advise meds. Think hard about it before going on them - at least wait until you're no longer in post-partum 6 weeks, as there's no sense in taking meds if you don't need them. But if you need t hem, don't hesitate. They help, and yes you can continue breastfeeding while on them.
Best of luck! You will do fine.
2007-03-09 10:00:28 · answer #1 · answered by melanie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is normal. You are not the only one. It was hard for Me too during the first few weeks. Its a total different life style. Your tired,overwhelmed, and like you said anxious. Its understandable. You will bond soon with your baby. Maybe work is what you need. Going back will help you breath a little and appreciate the time you have with the baby more. Everything takes getting used to, and as bad as it sounds it will take a few weeks to get used to a baby in your house. Best of luck to you. You should have your postpartum dc's appointment 6 weeks after the baby is born. If you don't feel a little better then, talk to your doctor. All woman go threw this so do not feel ashamed to tell her what your feeling. Shes there to help and will not think any less of you! Good luck!
2007-03-09 09:18:36 · answer #2 · answered by BOOTS! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had ppd that I SHOULD have gotten help for. I was a crazy woman for the first 4 months of my son's life! I remember looking at him once, around 2 months, and thinking, "I'm not connected to you...if something happened, I wouldn't be all that sad about it" AAGHH! That sounds so aweful and I felt even more depressed for even thinking it! Now, of course, everything is totally fine-he's 21 months...but back then, he was a very difficult baby and I didn't ask for enough help. What I'm saying is, what you're going through is totally normal and you need to understand that ppd isn't just about "having bad thoughts," it's a disconnectedness you feel and then guilty for feeling that way. I suggest asking for more help from your family and maybe talk to your doctor if you feel like you're sinking. It's okay to talk about it and it's okay to put your baby down in the crib and walk away for a while...I should have done that more too. Good luck to you and I hope you start to feel much better soon.
2007-03-09 10:44:11 · answer #3 · answered by emrobs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't understand why women have to go through so much! I totally understand what you are going through. I have 3 kids and with all of them went through this. It is all hormonal and very scary at times. My second was the worst. Sweet little girl and I didn't know what to do with her. I liked her. just didn't know really what to do with her. It is overwhelming to be a new mom. You are worried and scared and it is all about this precious little angel that is totally dependant on you. All I can say is try try try to enjoy it. Get help from anyone you can. Still take time for yourself though. It is very important. You are going to be great and you will make mistakes but guess what? That baby will still love you!!!! It won't last long. When you need to cry, then cry. Have a bubble bath and have you r favorite beverage. Hot chocolate!!! Milkshake!!!! Then grab that little pumpkin adn kiss and hug and say how much you love that baby boy. Just try to relax and concentrate on what you need from this moment in time. I hope this helps and best of luck!!!
2007-03-09 09:49:15 · answer #4 · answered by Alisha C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I had my son for the first week the only thing i could do was cry and i didnt want anyone else to hold him not even my husband but 2 weeks later i was out of the crying mode. To relax sleep somewhere comfortable when your baby sleeps. If your not scared you'll roll over him put him in the bed next to you.
2007-03-09 09:09:42 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
advice would be just wonderful, but i'm not a doctor. i think it's great you can admitt that your sad, some people can't, but if you don't snap out of it soon i would talk to your doctor. just call the office and tell them....they've heard way worse i'm sure. good luck!!!
2007-03-09 09:05:27 · answer #6 · answered by a girl like any other 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go to your Dr.he'll advise what you should do.I was kind of wondering if you'd feel up to working so soon. Good Luck!
2007-03-09 09:32:31 · answer #7 · answered by Sandra H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had it for about a week or so...till my milk came in...after that I was fine.
2007-03-09 10:08:17 · answer #8 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋