How do you deal with bullies?

Question

My 13 yr old daughter is a quiet girl. She tried keeping to herself on the bus but this one neighborhood girl and a few boys are always picking on her. They pick on her 10 yr old sister too but she handles it much better. They are making her life miserable and we have already talked 100 times with one boys parents and the girls parents are just TRASH! They attack anyone verbally who they have a disagreement with! This girl is always causing trouble! Spreading rumors, picking on my daughter and her parents won't do anything at all about her! When the trouble making kids in the back of the bus cause trouble, instead of dealing with them, she moves my kids up to the front when she should be moving them! She always finds a way to punish my youngest for actually defending herself against bullies and never does anything about the BULLIES! *Sigh*

Answer 1

I am so sorry that she is going through this. Bullies suck!! Bullies are bullies because they are insecure about themselves or are jealous of your child. These kids probably do not have such a great home life. All bullies are different, some grow out of it, some have to be stood up to, some have to be made to look like a fool. It seems a shame that the parents will not do anything to alleviate the situation. If my son was bullying anyone I would beat his butt!!

Answer 2

You should talk with the Principal to complain about the way the bus driver is handling the situation. If the school does not contract the drivers out, then you'll have to ask for their supervisor or complaint department number. They may help, they may not but it's worth a try, after all the bus driver did do something regardless of whether or not you feel it was right.
It's great that your youngest daughter is standing up to the bullies but it's not so great for your other daughter (who hasn't). The bullies feed off of attention and by her giving them the attention, they'll continue harassing the other meek one. I suggest you tell the youngest to stop doing this, it will save your other daughter's self-esteem and it will end sooner).. Eventually, they will become bored and move on to the next victim.
As wrong as it seems, it may be the only option and it will eventually take the heat off of your children.
Your only other option is to drive your children to and from school if all else fails.

Answer 3

I am also a girl of 13 and i too have bullying problems ,well not any more, u say the girls younger sister knows how to defend herself, maybe [if u havent tried ] u should sit down your daughter and tell her what to do, u could tell her not to get in a conflict but ask the bully why are u always picking on me ? are u jealous of me ? do u enjoy hurting others? are u going to become a fighter when u grow up u should learn to pick on people a little more in youre standard ,concentrate on your work than me. u could also could go to the bus driver but if they attack verbally dont b afraid to do the same.
good luck!

Answer 4

I would suggest teaching them how to defend themselves very well,, perhaps driving them to and from school,, definitely have a talk with the bus driver,, and perhaps their superiors. Also, could possibly go to school board over it. I'm sure that if u just mentioned speaking with ur lawyer, lol, they would take care of the matter. Weellll, hmmm, what else, talk to principle, or superintendent. Several ways to go about it. In my own experience,, if u can get them to stand up to the bullies, and let em know they are not going to take any more from em,, the bullies will usually back down, back off. Gains their respect, or just scares them, cuz most bullies are just insecure chickens anyway.. sooo,, Hope this helps ya.. good luck

Answer 5

I would talk to the school about these people cause bullies hurt people and the people hurt can react in different ways, im not saying you're daughter will do something warm or mean but thats how schools get shot up with bullies picking on younger and smaller kids. Tell the school and maybe if the girl hits you're daughter you can take it up with the police Goodluck

Answer 6

I do feel for all of you. My kids went through the same thing. We were ready to deal with those kids, luckily by talking to the kids and their parents we got things straightened out.
I do know this though. I would go to the guidance counselor or the school principal because what they are doing is stalking your girls.
Go to the school and show them you have had enough. And if those trouble making girls touch your girls that is assault and battery.
No one has the right to touch anyone else!
One of the boys that was picking on my daughter touched her and we went to his house. I had that boy in tears before I was done with him. His mother came over later our house with a deputy and I answered the door. She was all mouth. I asked him, "How would you feel if that were your daughter being touched by boys?"
He took the mouthy woman by the arm and left.
Kids need to put themselves in the other person's shoes is my motto.
In other words, treat others the way you want others to treat you!
I wish you luck. The school board should be held liable for what those kids that are being allowed to do this. That bus is school property.
As my mom told me, "get mad, take up for your kids."
It worked.

Answer 7

this is a hard situation. to be honest i think that there might be a possibility this might continue till the end of high school. this is just a possibilty of what can ultimately happen. i've been there and done that
for me it seems like yesterday i was in school (it was 15years ago) i remember some of the things that happened to other classmates;horrible.
I don't say this to try to make your situation feel worse just to give my opinion from my reality .
i wish you lived near me i would put the fear into these children myself so they would never bother your children again
but for whatyou should do this is hard
maybe tell your child to defend herself a bit more even if she gets into trouble at school you've given her your permission so she'll know you won't be mad at her
this might not even be good advice this is just a possible way to deal
it also might backfire and make it worse
you can tell her to ignore them but this unlikely toi make them stop
other than that i personally would call the cops on them since there degenerate parents don't listen to you maybe if the cops get involved they will begin to listen
But i don't even know if the police would get involved unfortunately but try
other then that not to be so glim and i know this is not what you want to do but maybe your only way out is to switch your children to a different school
soory that this is all i can be of help but it seeems that the best choice is to move your children to a new school
i seems like it is a punishment for your child for doing nothing wrong but on the other hand she is being punished now for nothing either

Answer 8

these things make me want to personally take care of this..I'm gonna tell you something that is true.remember the guy or the really tough chick that always sticks up for those who get picked on?they are in this school.i'm tellin ya .ask around and you will see.the smart tough athletic mature one awaites to prove something to him /her self not the others.seek and you will find a genuine human being to be with a chip on there shoulder waiting for a punk *** bully to try it..the bullies know who these guys are and stay away from them...nothing brings a young kid more satisfaction then having some helpless peir ask them for some back up or just plain help.This gives the jocks or jockets a chance to socialize in the change room about the request of the girl and beleive me ,someone will take on the responsability of this in a second flat.you'll see.And this in turn allows the girl getting picked on to see that health and fitness may be now an option, and at that age anything is possable...she may need to be takin under the wing of one of our futures leaders..think about it.....but remember that there is one more option...selflesness on your part to ask for her and do not tell her about it...just beleive...

Answer 9

I was picket on a lot as a child so I learned to fight, the problem was others wanted to fight me because I got so good at it, but besides that I was a boy, and boys do that, I do not think she should fight unless it she is in physical danger. If a boy fights its just a thing that happens but a girl fighting spreads rumors faster.
Make shore you keep notes on everything because yes the school is responsible for her safety and they need to know, they also need to know that you will go to the school board and social services. If you have to. But I also think she needs to know some good basic self defense if she cant fight them off what happens when a man tries to grab her. Not saying that’s going to happen mind you, But if the boy on the bus gets to close to her she needs to know its ok to kick him in the nuts and scream.
And remember high school is much better.
Good luck and God bless.

Answer 10

Some adults can act childish as well... I work as a service clerk and I couldn't believe how many whine, complain over small silly things like children who try to get things what they want rather than listening to reason.

I still don't know what to tell you, and I don't think there's much you can do... but except maybe let the school know about it if its get too serious.

Parents who are bullies have children who are bullies. There will always be people like that who like to put others down... once she's get out of elementary or highschool, she won't have any much of these problems... because after that certain age, most people change and mature, and learn to respect eachother.