can any one help me?

Question

i'm a girl 24 years old from egypt,engaged since 5 years to the only one i loved who also 24 years old,we spend all our money to prepare all needs to married,my father always ask for more and more: high house,high furniture.... etc,, Now he asked for big wedding which cost 5000$ !!
and my lover has not mooooore...
i need help,realy i need help!!!
i don't want lose him,and also i don't want make my father angry,,what can i do?????

Answer 1

run off and get married,you will be with this man the rest of your life stop putting it off

Answer 2

I am not sure of your culture but it sounds to me like you are letting your father run your and your fiance lifes. You are 24 years old and have your life to live. You should be paying for your own things and your father should be paying for his own.
As far as making your father mad, who do you plan on spending the rest of your life with? Your father? or your husband?
If you are living at your fathers house then he is intilted to ask for some money to cover the cost of living, but to buy expensive funiture is a different story.
Dont be angery with your father, his is wanting the best for you his daughter.
Dont ever forget that he just want you to have the best out of life. Sounds like a good dad. But set your bounderys.
Once angain I am not sure of your cultures there in Egypt, I dont recommend doing anything that will make your life any harder.
Always show respect but set some limits if possible.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Can you talk with your father? Why does he need an expensive house or expensive furniture?

Also, can they help with the wedding? I don't know what customs you may be facing, but a $5000 is still a start!

Can you talk to your dad and your fiance's family about helping with the wedding costs?

Answer 4

Respect your father as best you can, but realize that you are a young woman ready to begin a new life with the man you love. Your father seems a bit selfish and controlling. Respect the wishes of your finance. Your father will get over his anger, and more quickly than you realize. You need to build a secure future with your husband. Don't get off to a rocky start, still tied to the apron strings of your parents. Have a bright, happy future.

Answer 5

Are you living here? Here, it is the responsibility of the bride's family to pay the bill for the wedding. Sometimes, both families contribute but mainly it's the responsibility of the bride's family. If you father wants this huge wedding, he should pay for it. Why does your father need an expensive house and furniture? He's not going to live with you is he?

Answer 6

Your marriage is about your day and what is good for you.. Sometimes when families get involved things get out of hand. I know how you feel about not disappointing your father but he needs to be a little understanding in knowing that weddings are stressful and require a lot of money. You and your fiance should have a sit down talk with your dad and let him know your concerns.

Answer 7

Talk to your dad, Tell him he cant afford all that money and that you prefer having a good house than having a big wedding. Also I dont know in your country but here the Bride's parents pay for the wedding.

Answer 8

That's a tough situation, I'm sorry. You need to decide if you are going live your life for your father, or are you going to live your life for you?

Your father probably just wants the best for you. He wants you to have a nice home, car, etc. Thank him for caring about you. Tell him you appreciate his input (if you do). Then explain to him that you are chosing to live your life and that you need to take care of yourself. And taking care of yourself and being self-loving means making your own decisions. It means putting yourself first.

Explain that even if you decide to have a smaller wedding, you are doing that because you care about yourself and your fiancee.

Making your needs a higher priority than your father's is not a bad thing. Think abou it. If you (live your life for your father) put your father's needs higher than yours, then you will be miserable. Is that fair to your fiancee? Your children? Your father? You have to put your needs first. Love yourself first. Then you have sooooo much more love to share with the people you care about.

This might be tough to do. But you can do it. Sit down with your father and tell him how you feel. Be firm. You might even write down what you have to say before you talk with him. If you don't feel you are getting anywhere, I recommend talking with a couselor. Family counselors are great listeners and they can help you think through your thoughts. Best of luck to you.

Answer 9

Love is not just about money. I don't know why your father and your fiance expect such a glamourous wedding. Did you father ever ask how your fiance feel about you or even ask him about his feeling for you?

Based on your question, all I hear is money, money, money, materials, materials, materials.

My answer is so obvious right from the moment I start typing!

If you can't figure it out my answer then you haven't grasp the concept of love, devotion, sacrify, and marriage!

Answer 10

حاولى تتكلمى مع بباكى بالهداوة وكلمى الاقارب يحاولوا يقفوا جنبك لان الماده مش كل حاجه و معلش فى اللى هاقولوا تأكدى ان حبيبك مش هيتخلى عنك و هيقف جنبك وكلمى مامتك و متيأسيش لان الحب اليومين دول مبيتعوضش(الحب الحقيقى طبعا))
اعذرينى لو كلامى بارد بس انا بحاول اساعدك

Answer 11

Your father is his own doggone man. Tell him to get a freakin' job. Just tell him flat out. And why the heck have you been engaged for 5 years? He cheatin'.