my child is out of control please help?

Question

my child has adhd and is gotten completely out of control in the last few months cusses on the bus has been kicked off the bus 5 times in the last 6 months and continuasly acting up in school i am at whits end i can talk to him and he he seems to not hear me at all if there are any parents in here with the same problem please let me hear your answers . please serious answers only . but whoopings don't help with these children .

when spanking his butt he will just get back up and grin and trust me his dads not light on his butt . he gets it by the way i sold every video game and all 2 years ag o because of the attitude we own none he has nothing now thatr he loves to do that i can take way

Answer 1

Make an appointment with a therapist. He made need different meds and/or anger management therapy. Talk w/ his teacher about the resources in your area.

Answer 2

Why don't spanking help with these kids? I think these kind of kids are just the kind that need a good butt spanking every now and then! I got a kid with ADHD also and every now and then a swat on the behind will get their attention! Why is everyone so quick to dismiss spanking saying it won't help? It's HOW and WHEN you do it that's the key! Go take his butt down to the police station and have a cop talk to him about how if he keeps acting up and being out of control, this might be were he ends up someday! When he cusses on the bus, take his little video games away from him, take his tv, ipod,cell phone whatever he has that he loves away and do not give it back to him until he can start acting like a human being should and show some respect. If you don't do something now, it will only get worse when he is older! Good luck!

Answer 3

I have a 5 year old with ADHD and I don't even think about the fact that he has been diagnosed. Too many parents use it as an excuse for their childrens behavior. Spankings didn't help, time outs didn't help. But I am strict with him. If he disrespects myself or anyone else, he gets punished and it took me a while to find out exactly what hurt him the most. I had to try many different things. ADHD or not, he still has to live by the rules. If he thinks he can get away with it now, he will expect to get away with it later on. I do not use medicine, but I am consitent. I don't even let him do something once, I dont give him a cenimeter, or he will take 10 miles. If he steps even slightly out of line, I am on him quick as a whip. It is so trying and wears me out. But it is my responsiblity. I am not saying this is you, but I am saying this in case you are doing it and not noticing it, a lot of parents, let them get away with it once or twice then punish the child, or they let them do it and do it, until the parent gets mad and yells. You have to get him for everything he does, big or small. This is not the time to pick fights. He has to be taught respect. IT took me about a year and a half, but you really can't tell my son even has ADHD, except during study times and such, when I have to constantly redirect his attention.

Answer 4

I don't know much about ADHD, but I know people that had their boy diagnosed with it first and then years later was diagnosed Bi-Polar. He had counseling, he had rules, he was grounded alot, he had a foul mouth, he was angry often and was and still is, somewhat out of control and is in complete denial of his actions (they seem to think it's normal).
I would suggest that you talk to a qualified specialist and get him some counseling. If they can get him to understand his actions are not acceptable and have him open up about things bothering him, it may work .
I couldn't imagine trying to deal with a child that is out of control on a daily basis and nothing seems to work. Keep asking questions and I'm sure something will work for him, just keep at it. Good luck.

Answer 5

Medication

Sensory Integration therapy

Realize that the CANNOT hear you. Often there is so much noise going on in his head that he cannot distinguish. Pretend like 6 people were talking to you at once - that is what ADHD can be like.

Be sure that when you talk to him you call his name, make him turn around, turn off the TV and distractions, and talk to him quietly and simply. Make him look you in the eye.

Get him treatment quickly. You are doing him - and those around him - a great disservice.

Answer 6

what you need to do is take something that he really loves away from him like a video games or something. Tell you child that he go out to play with his friends or even take away the television and make him read a darn book, do that for about three weeks straight and he should get the picture.

Answer 7

I have a friend who's son had adhd and she found that certain foods made him act up, like wheat and yeast. Maybe take your son to a Dr that can tell you what foods, herbs etc that he might be allergic to - good luck! My friends son was a TOTAL different kid when he didn't eat these foods.

Answer 8

im sorry the whoooping arnt working for you. ....


he needs a stern talking to from his DAD and then a long time in his room to think about RULES AND PUNISHMENT ! Dont let his outburst scare you, keep him in the room!

Answer 9

my little brother had problems like this and we tried EVERYTHING finally my mom took him to a doctor and not only did he ADHD he is also bipolar, they put him on meds, and he is completely fine now

Answer 10

i don't have any advise bot you could go on the show Oprah(you should know about it) she could give you a lot of advise.If you cant afford Oprah,
try getting a counselor it might help, try talking to him,if he still don't listen take away some privileges(video games,music,TV,computer,phone,and so forth)