My wife & I have been for over 5 years, caregivers to her little sister who's a byproduct of a affair her mother had. who will be 6 in April. My wife & I started adoption proceeding's after her father blew up at thanksgiving & told her mother the other mans "LEFTOVER" will never be invited in his home ever! She would be out on street if she continued in front of everyone at dinner time.
He's not a nice person, but neither is she, both are selfish people who are responsible for multi-affairs in there marriage. I consider the poster kids to white trash, right along with my parents! We are the only one who she knows a mother & father but her mother wont terminate parental right to her daughter, So we have taken matters in our own hands and got the mother terminated for abandonment of her child! Her mother said her husband will one day accept her, well judge wasn't buying it and terminated her as mother.
Were called a**hole,and other stuff because we did this! What do you think?
2007-03-09 08:16:47 · 10 answers · asked by Free-Lance 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Her real father left country and wants nothing to do with her at all went back to France The mother never even gave a thin dime for child support, but has no problem trying to order us around and how to do things for the girl!
The mother and Father have both been terminated as perant's and we are regarded a sole caregivers, and hope to finalized adoption before child is 6 in April!
2007-03-09 08:34:09 · update #1
People here it is simple as can be said!
Wifes mother had affair, child was born from affair! Wifes mother husband won't accept child And would divorce her, and child's REAL father left country who is not a U.S.citizen and surrendered his right as father.
My wife and I were made Guardians to child by state of California. and are Raising the child now!
Wife and I have been raising child for over 5 years now with out any help or support from her mother, not even babysitting duty's, and have decited to adopt child because we are the girls only parents she know!
Wife and I ask her mother to sign adoption papers,she said "no", her husband will one day allow child in home, he told her it's never going to happen both are in 55 now.
Wife and I went to court on abandit child status, and Ca. state agreed and terminated wife mothers rights as parent!
We are now in final stages of adoption Now, hope to get it done by child's 6th birthday!
Wife mother, calls us Every dirty word in book!
Simple.
2007-03-09 08:56:53 · update #2
Thank you for doing the right thing for this little girl. I hope her "mother" gets a brain cell and allows you to adopt her. Some people are just so immature, they can only think of what is best for themselves and not their kids.
Good luck!
2007-03-09 08:25:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, thank you for taking the life of this innocent child into your heart and giving her a life she deserves, not the one she was born into. One day that child will have to know the truth, but you and your wife will make it so much easier....life with her mother would subject her to more ridicule than a little girl should ever have to be. If the mother will not give consent for the adoption, speak with an attorney or the judge. If you can at least be granted custodial guardianship, then I wouldn't so much worry about it. Keep your distance from the mother, as she will likely say things out of spite that will only hurt the child. Good luck, and again, you and your wife are angels.
2007-03-09 16:25:46 · answer #2 · answered by Tangled Web 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't matter what the father said about this child at the dinner table. A judge won't grant you guardianship just because the father doesn't want to accept this child, the child still has a mother and that mother wants her child. If she's doing drugs a judge may have to have proof of that and thats pretty much the only way a child would be taken from a parent. so if the child is not being abused I wouldn't waste my time and money on this if I were you. A judge won't take a child from its mother because she is selfish or had affairs, thats just your opinion anyway. but if the child lives with you you may be able to have her pay child support
2007-03-09 16:30:06 · answer #3 · answered by Hi its me again 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't understand how her rigthts as being the mother are terminated, unless she abandoned the child or neglected it, perhaps this is best for the little girl. tell her she can go on with her life as she pleases and the girl will be provided for.Of course she will see the child, who knows who her real mom is. I hope this woman gets help and can be a positive influence of her daughter some day. Actually the woman should be glad her child is still in the family.
2007-03-09 16:27:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're doing the right thing by taking the child and treating her as your own. Don't worry about the in-laws, just focus on the little girl and keep the mother away from her. That child deserves a better mother/grandmother than that and having her in her life will only cause more damage.
2007-03-09 16:21:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that neither the true mother or father of this child have any sence of how to raise a child in the first place... no offense to your wife... the way they behave around other people, let alone each other is absurd and i applaud the judge for seeing this... you have given the little girl the love and affection a child needs as they develope and to place her back in an unstable household would be irresponsable.. but it sounds like things are in your favor... keep fighting if necessary and who cares what the mother and father think of you... you don't need to please them as you are an adult as well as your wife and it is wonderful that you care so much to take responsability for your sister in law... good luck!
2007-03-09 16:26:37 · answer #6 · answered by shiningstar1313 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't think you can adopt a child without the parents' wanting to let go of the child. However, if the parents are unfit and/or abusive, you can report the matter to a child protective agency. Then, they will watch the parents. If the parents were unfit, and unable to care for the child, the agency will start their thing. You can also talk to the agency at that point that your desire to adopt.
2007-03-09 16:24:48 · answer #7 · answered by Pluto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well SOMEBODY has to be looking out for that child, and you obviously are. Her real mother sounds awful. She doesn't deserve her if she doesn't have her best interests in mind at all times.
2007-03-09 16:21:05 · answer #8 · answered by bibliophile31 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your story is hard to follow! What does poster kids mean?
Got the mother terminated? You mean her parental rights? Or the terminator came after her? (tongue in cheek) "Her mother..." WHO'S mother...I'm so confused!
2007-03-09 16:25:07 · answer #9 · answered by Evil Wordmonger, LTD LOL 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
May GOD bless u and your family!!!!
2007-03-09 16:30:01 · answer #10 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋