2007-03-09 08:04:13 · 17 answers · asked by sarah-lou 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
she has had god knows how many counciling sesions he was charged and is now out and is always bumping in to her she went shopping with me the other week and he was right behind her then he said do u remember me she did but said now then passed out i put it down to the fact she was pregnant when we told the police they said it was just unfortunate that he was in that super market and that there is nothing that they can do unless he says some thing bad or touches her even if its a brush passed then they will do some thing please am i doing best thing just letting her talk about it all the time to me i really dont mind but some people have said if she starts talking about it to change the sumject but have not got the heart to break hers does any one under stand me
2007-03-10 01:01:17 · update #1
If she is depressed about it 9 years after, she needs medical help right away. Otherwise she is in risk to become obsessed about it (she is probably like that already).
The best help you can give as friend, is to support her while she goes for counseling. Offer to go inside with her if possible, she will probably appreciate it. And if not, just help her morally.
Sometimes is better to get help from a friend that from family. Just make sure she is ok with you helping her.
2007-03-09 08:12:16 · answer #1 · answered by Dan D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rape is such a serious issue that if it happens to someone, like your friend, there is no possible way of predicting when she'll be back to her normal self. This seems to have affected her mentally and physically due to how long it was ago. However, despite your hopes of her getting over it, you still have to be there for her. It could take 2 weeks, 2 months maybe a couple more years. But you need to keep being there for her no matter what. Try and get her to open up to you about everything and just listen to what she has to say.
2007-03-10 09:39:16 · answer #2 · answered by domcrockatt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to seek professional counselling. There are many womens crisis centres around. The best thing would be to go with her and support her in every way possible. If she doesn't want you in the room when she is taking to the counseller then wait outside. If she want you there, go but let her talk.
Just being there for her is the best thing you can do.. but try and get her to seek some professional help
2007-03-09 16:08:34 · answer #3 · answered by Angel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what Country you are from so I can just tell you what should happen in UK.
The Family Doctor who is presumably aware of this offence will refer the patient to a Councillor. There is a great deal resting on the outcome of the Doctor's advice and that of the Consultant that sees the patient.
2007-03-09 16:09:36 · answer #4 · answered by MANCHESTER UK 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report it to the police, tell a parent, or take your friend out somewhere that is really fun to get things off of her mind. And hopefully she wont be as depressed. Or you could always talk to her.
2007-03-09 16:08:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the sad reality is only she can walk out of that depression.
a good therapist can help immensely...
and i do hope if she isn't seeing someone who is good that she will.
as a friend, just let her know that you are sure when she is ready, she'll walk out of the depression caused by some man's power trip.
the key words are........when she is ready.......
society/family/friends sadly think if they push someone who is depressed to act differently, it will help, but what that person needs is reassurance that when they are ready, it will happen.
good luck....being a friend in a situation like this is very hard and i give you lots of credit for hanging in there with her.
2007-03-09 16:13:20 · answer #6 · answered by gypsy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats awful she must be still feeling the hurt and anger did she ever seek councelling after this ordeal? if not its never too late to go to councelling,it will do her good. You could always have chats with her about it too if shes willing to open up to oyu oyu dont have to say much just LISTEN thats the major thing let it off her chest
2007-03-09 16:33:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she may need professional help my friend especially after so long just try talking to her and may by suggest council ling i think its the only way for her to hopefully move on although i don't think she Will ever forget i would imagine she must feel forever scared
2007-03-10 08:50:50 · answer #8 · answered by dream theatre 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a friend you can support and comfort her, rape is a life changing event, but if she is still really depressed as you say then i would suggest she needs professional help, offer to go with her if that makes her feel better
2007-03-09 16:07:50 · answer #9 · answered by sydneygal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rape is a terrible crime and your friend has survived an horrific experience. It was however, only one experience in a lifetime of experiences. I would suggest counselling if she has not yet been able to heal and move on. Support from good friends like you is priceless.
2007-03-09 16:10:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋