this is just to say thank you to all of you who gave honest sensible answers the reason for asking this question is that I am gay and someone who I thought was a friend now treats me like a lepper and I have never treated her in any other way but a friend and never would as i know she is straight and respect that
2007-03-09 07:55:48 · 26 answers · asked by carolyn g 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I lost several friends when I came out of the closet. I think I answered your question earlier. You just have to move on. My friends didn't support me which brought to light how true of friends they really were. In a way it's nice to know who has your back. I'm sorry to hear that you've lost a friend. Just gotta carry on, it's her loss. = )
2007-03-09 08:00:47 · answer #1 · answered by Jenn 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I know that it's all "against the norm" to have that kind of lifestyle, but if you think about it, or more, if she thought about it, nothing changes if your friend is gay or not, it's still your friend. Your advice or loyalty never changes when you're gay, but give it to narrow-minded people to make a big deal out of it. At least you were honest with her and did your part. It might hurt, but maybe one day she'll come around and see that you're still the same "you" that she first met.
2007-03-09 16:02:26 · answer #2 · answered by HappilyEverAfter 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's a sad to lose a friend over something like that. I can remember when I cane out to a very good friend that was homophobic. I was so scared of what her reaction was going to be. I honestly thought I was going to be physically sick when I was going to tell her. So after I told her I said "don't worry, I'm not going to hit on you or anything". She said "Why not???! What's wrong with me?" It was kinda funny. You never know how people are going to react. I'm sorry you had a bad experience.
2007-03-09 16:08:20 · answer #3 · answered by Confused Woman 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're better off with phonies in your life. Don't cave in to the whims of others. If she isn't your friend now, then she wasn't your friend back then. You are well off without her and as hurtful as the situation might be, it is best that you know the real deal about this person. Nobody needs fair-weather friends. Good luck, and stay strong.
2007-03-09 16:17:40 · answer #4 · answered by SB 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I did not assist you in your question before, but wanted to say that I am sorry that she has resorted to treating you like that. It is difficult sometimes to be honest with those we love because we do fear their rejection and sometimes that loss still occurs. I am sorry for your loss of friendship. Although it hurts, be thankful that you are aware of her biasness now. Furthermore, ask yourself if you would really want someone in your life who is non-supportive of who you truly are. Keep reaching out and being true to yourself and others. Things will all be ok. You will find others who will fulfill your life much more deeply.
2007-03-09 16:02:46 · answer #5 · answered by Beagle B 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry to hear that. Coming out is the fastest way of finding out who your real friends are! You have to remember that it is just ignorance that makes people react this way after all she liked you before she knew.
2007-03-10 06:26:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say sweetheart is that she is not a friend. Just forget her and find some new friends that understand you. By the way you look lovely.
2007-03-10 22:58:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously not a true friend to start with-hope you have some better,true friends & forget about her-she evidently doesn't understand friendship.
2007-03-11 14:05:25 · answer #8 · answered by munki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easy for people to say "stuff her" but may be she needs time to get used to the idea. I am not prejudice but I have no gay friends at all. I'm sure if one of my friends came out to me it would take me a while to get used to it. I'm also sure I would quickly realise that nothing had changed, but shouldn't you try and give her a chance to sort her head out before judging her too harshly. If she is simply being homophobic then at least you know who your real friends are now.
2007-03-09 16:06:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
A superficial "friend" was never a friend to begin with, sweetie. You're really better off without her.
2007-03-09 16:08:22 · answer #10 · answered by Danielle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋