I am tired of worrying about my husband, how do I snap out of it?

Question

for the past few months I've been suspicious of my husband being involved with another woman (which , as it turns out, was all in my head - confirmed), NOW that I am done how do I continue not letting it get to me or make sure this feeling doesn't come back?

we talked too much on this subject, and now just exhausted.

Answer 1

You guys need to talk about it..let him know the signs that mad you think that way in the beginning..And hopefully he wont show them anymore...Just talk, talk , talk. Its the best thing you can do..

Answer 2

You might just be pariond. that is nothing new, talk to a doctor about anxiety.

About the trust issue, good luck. Once it is broke, it never comes back as strong as it could be.

But above all, talk to him. The more you know of his world, the less you are to worry. Example, he leaves work on time, but shows up at the house 2 hours later. Can just be he uses that time to walk in the park after a stressful day.

Answer 3

there are probably many reasons you came to the idea that your husband was cheating on you. Consider those reasons
then erase them you are live a happy and full life with your mate not a miserable untrusting relationship. Consider counselling for yourself because it appears you have too much time on your hands to involve your thoughts into what you have found to be complete nonsense so maybe yopu can use that time to find something else to put your mind on.

Answer 4

You need to learn to LET GO. Even if he was cheating, there's nothing you can do about it. Nothing at all if he's going to. If you're 100% sure that your suspicions were wrong, then get over it. Try to focus on the positive things about your partner, instead of your insecurities. This kind of craziness happens because of our intense desire to "make sure" no one hurts us which is absolutely impossible. And just know, that even if he DID cheat, you would not die. You'd manage one way or another, but you would NOT die, no matter how hurtful it was to you. The more you worry about this mess, the more time you waste being sad, confused, and anxious. Bop his brains out instead!

Answer 5

It's impossible to answer this without knowing whether you had valid reason to be suspicious of him or you have trust issues. Either way I suggest your husband works to (re)gain your trust and you consider relationship counselling.

Answer 6

I would suggest finding something else to talk about and do
together. Start writing him love notes telling him how you feel.
That should take your mind off such thoughts. False accusations can destroy a marriage. There is only so much one can take.

Answer 7

u may have some trust issues going on that started in your childhood. best if u get some therapy, and get some anxiety medication. u need to focus on other things. our thought process has alot to do with our reality. our thoughts have alot to do with the way we feel. sometimes our thoughts get all screwed up. get some therapy it will help u.

Answer 8

don't keep nagging him with this because he's going to start having those thoughts "if she thinks i'm cheating, why not?"
make sure you guys have open communication as to what your day looks like and what his day looks like so that your mind is not being creative about what he's out doin
whenever you can be together...you should be together...don't worry about it unless you see hard core evidence (w/o looking for it) that he is cheating...then talk to him about it calmly and that it's something that's bothering you (don't nag him to death or argue w/him about it unless you know it's a fact)

Answer 9

You need to get over it and move on. He wasn't cheating. Plain and simple. You need to start trusting him. You don't have a true relationship if you don't have trust.

Answer 10

Get some hobbies and stop obsessing over something that is unfounded.