2007-03-09 07:40:40 · 19 answers · asked by Kayla 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
sit down with her when no one is around to interupt you and talk to her about it. be honest and have a list of questions for her too. she more than likly doesn't trust you
2007-03-09 07:44:44 · answer #1 · answered by dawifeski 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's just scared because of the stuff that happens out there. You don't know who you're talking to nowadays, because look at those pervs that contact young girls and all of the information that is stolen through the internet - you can't get too mad at her for worrying. Plus, it may bug, but you wouldn't be so defensive if you weren't trying to be sneaky in some way or hiding something. So just take it with a grain of salt, because she won't stop until you're old enough and moved out - even then, believe me, she'll still ask you questions about your life that are borderline probing! Just talk to her and express how it makes you feel - don't get all emotional though, I remember how teens can get, and by all means, don't get disrespectful.
2007-03-09 07:56:21 · answer #2 · answered by HappilyEverAfter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are having trust issues.
She doesn't trust you.
As a parent, I know you'll find this hard to believe, she wants nothing but the best for you. She doesn't want you getting mixed up in anything that will harm you. (drugs, unprotected sex, drinking & driving etc.).
You have probably given her reason to mistrust you (lied about something, grades dropped etc), and as the person who is both emotionally & legally responsible for your well being, she is trying to find out what's going on with you, so she can feel like she is doing everything in her power to keep you from going down a wrong path.
She's your mom, she loves you more than life itself, talk to her, let her know how you feel, and reassure her that she has nothing to worry about in regards to you making good "life" decisions. If you show her that you are trustworthy & responsible, then she won't feel the need to snoop through your stuff.
2007-03-09 07:49:51 · answer #3 · answered by Sam Fisher 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What have you done to cause your mom to distrust you? If you haven't done anything and she is just overprotective then you have to demonstrate to her that you are trust worthy. It wouldn't hurt to sit down and have a talk with her and just ask her why she feels she needs to invade your privacy in this manner. Through communication you can find out exactly what her issues are so that you guys can work together on a good compromise. You are, I assume and minor and still living under her rood, so she does have some responsibility as a parent to look out for you and sometimes protect you from your self. Talk about it with her. Don't get rude or defensive. Try to see things from her point of view and get her to see things from your point of view and you guys can come to some compromise.
2007-03-09 07:51:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What have you done to make her suspicious of you? Most of the time parents get worried about a child's behavior and start checking everything they can to find out what is going on.
Sounds l;ike you need to have a meeting with your mother and ask her point blank why she is going through your things and reading your e-mail. You are entitled to privacy and if you're not getting it, you need to clear the air about it. Don't wait - do it NOW. I wish you well.
2007-03-09 07:46:39 · answer #5 · answered by pianofritz2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's just worried about you and wants to make sure you're safe ... she's being your mom that's all ... ask her if there's something she wants to talk to you about ... try letting her know more about what's going on in your life - that way she won't be so pushy ... tell her you understand it's her house and her rules but everyone needs a little bit of privacy ... sit down calmly with her and talk about it ... it's the only way to get her to stop ... if you're not careful she could take it away completely if she really wanted to ... so watch your words and talk to her without attitude ... she'll be a little more understanding ... hopefully ... lol ... good luck ... personally - if you don't have anything to hide - who cares ... she's just looking out for you ... !
2007-03-09 07:49:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is probably doing this to see what you are up to nowdays and doesn't know how else to find out. Moms really don't know everything even if they pretend they do! Solution? Crazy as it sounds, open up to her occasionally. Drop things in conversation about things that happened and the choices you made or will make. She wants to know what kind of person you are! All else fails---tell her you know it is happening, you don't appreciate it happening, and ask HER for suggestions for it not to happen!
2007-03-09 07:49:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only a guilty girl has something to hide.Your mother is responsible for you and anything that happens to you.She is looking out for you.When you are out of school, working have your own place and your own car then feel free to tell her to back off.Until then remember she is seeing to it that you have food clothes,medical care,a place to live etc.She doesnt need her daughter making secret dates and comming home preggers, not saying that you would, but she is making sure you dont.GO MOM!
2007-03-09 07:46:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't, she is doing her job! I'm sure if she didn't suspect you were up to something she wouldn't be doing that!! I applaud her for being a good parent and keeping tabs on what you are doing!!! There aren't enough parents like her left out there!!! It shows she loves and cares about you and is trying to make sure you don't ruin your life or get yourself into trouble. You should be greatful you have such a caring Mother!!!
2007-03-09 07:49:15 · answer #9 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave some e-mails out for her to read. Write her a note in the e-mails saying you know she's just looking out for you and you love her but she has nothing to worry about.
2007-03-09 07:45:17 · answer #10 · answered by thenoodle 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i have the same problem just make a deal with your mom say if you get good grades or behave then she would have to stay outta your business and only if you need help with something try that
2007-03-09 07:45:54 · answer #11 · answered by corey b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋