who was an abuser, and manipulative, just left me a few months ago practically on the street, with out any explanation, He told me we will move together and he move alone, calling the police on me the day he left when he was going to his work, I knew he wont come back for me as he told me.
Now he is sending me emails he wants to contact me, his emails doesnt say anything like he is repent or that he loves me. He say he is not upset, well I 'm upset , He say i dont hate you, Well I DO.
Im so tired of his games, maybe he wants to do something about the divorce, something quicker? Im too hurt rigth to do anything.
I havent even do anything to do, as others told me , like ask for alemony from him since he left me.
Well he is sending me emails, for what????
why he just dont leaveme a lone, maybe he wants to married to someone else, and he wants to divorce or keep playing mental games with me... HELPPPPPP
2007-03-09 07:34:06 · 23 answers · asked by JUST ME 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Bottom line you need to block his emails, get the divorce if that's what you are seeking and move on. If you are looking to save the relationship then you both need to grow up and look into counseling
2007-03-14 09:29:54 · answer #1 · answered by 女性ウルバリン 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's cruel, all right. For the moment, you feel broken. Ask a friend to be your 'buddy' in this difficult task of approaching the divorce. Get on it right away! See a divorce attorney and don't have any contact with your husband. If he was an abuser, ask the divorce attorney if a restraining order would be out of the question. Then you know he would have to stay away from you.
Your husband's aware of the fact that divorce is costly and he may want to show you some 'muscle' so you won't cost him anything!
Don't bother hating him. Just protect yourself, seek comfort being around friends, have that restraining order (and alert your friends that he might try to reach you through them). Talk to your family and tell them what you are doing.
Don't let him try to force you into a corner while you feel vulnerable.
You need to divorce him - don't even worry about whether he wants to divorce you. He left you on the street, he abandoned you, he called the police about you. He's mean and he sounds like a bully.
Be strong, move forward. Don't hold on to the past one moment, even!
2007-03-14 12:15:48 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both men and women have wide ranges of libidos, special desires, limitations, and all the other things that make up the complicated activity of human intimacies.
In a perfect world husbands and wives adjust to each other in all of the things that they do together.
In the everyday world, some adjustments never occur; most often the differences are about 'bedroom' activity.
A person can have a 'low-powered' libido and still not mind doing it without enthusiasm.
Just about the least intense activity is giving a man a BJ.
And, most all men enjoy having that done for them.
The person doing it for the guy doesn't need to swallow the ejaculant, maybe even pull off when he starts to ejaculate.
If the possibility of getting even a taste of semen bothers you,
pull off when you read the signs of his beginning ejaculation.
If 'eating it' is okay, that can add something to his satisfaction.
As a bi, when I do a guy, I'm a swallower.
I also swallow when a gal gives me a shot.
Then, rimming's pretty good too but I usually do that to warm my gal or guy up.
Whoever I do needs to be clean.
2007-03-15 13:46:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the role of the abuser. They use you up and leave you high and dry. Let him go. Do not respond to him and stop it from being received if you can. You can go to counseling but of course that only works when both individuals want it to work and it has been proven that most abuser never receive the help they need because they have a hard time figuring out what their problem really is!
Make sure you do all you can and get all you can because he abandoned you...so make sure you let that be known! I hope you get everything situated and stay away from him. He means you no good!
Hope this helps you out!
2007-03-14 17:11:33 · answer #4 · answered by DePressed08 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can you say coward!he was reddy to end it but didnt want to deal with the fall out.Go to court and sue him for alomony.Also ask for a restaaning order and cut off all con tact with him.He stranded you and dumped all over you once and bleve me when i say hell do it again if it sutes him.Dot trust him as far as you and throw him.Hell be sorry every month when he wrights you a check,you have a right to adaquate support for the equil time you were marred or untell you can support your self.get in college get your own place get a car get indapendnit and get some supportive friends and show him you dont need him and your able to take care of your self.
2007-03-14 19:58:16 · answer #5 · answered by christine h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is mentally and emotionally abusing you still, even though he is gone. You need to heal. You need support right now in order to think logically. Yes, put in the papers for him to pay his alimony, you'll be surprise how fast those emails will stop. Don't give him any idea of you seeking support, let it be a sweet surprise. It sounds like he if fishing, trying to find out if you are going after him for support. You are strong and able to do this. Don't let him keep manipulating you.
2007-03-14 17:52:11 · answer #6 · answered by Johnnie C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take control of the situation and stop him messing with your head. If you have a Solicitor, give him the address and tell him any future communication should be in writing through your Solicitor. Block him from emailing you or open a new account. He has treated you appallingly, therefore anything he wants is immaterial, whatever it is won't be in your best interest. You deserve better, go live the life you deserve free of him.
2007-03-09 15:40:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your pain. This guy is not good for you. He likes when you chase him, beg him to stay. You are feeding his ego. When he dose not hear from you he contacts you. Get off the amusement park ride. It's not fun living this way. Think about your needs & wants. Put yourself first. Forget it with him. You are entittled to some happiness and respect you can not get it from a manipulative abuser. Although it hurts be glad he left so you can move on to someone who loves and appreciates you and in time you will find that but, in order for someone to love, respect, and appreciate you. You must feel that way about yourself. Good Luck...
2007-03-16 10:10:57 · answer #8 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce him. Claim mental abuse, take him for all he is worth. There is nothing more to say. I'm sorry you are in this rotten position. But, you need to stand up and say NO MORE. Moving forward is your only option. I know it hurts, and I am sorry.
Tell him to get the papers, you are ready to sign, ask him to hurry because you have a date!!
Karma will return to him 10x the hurt and destruction he so easily caused. I promise.
Good Luck.
2007-03-09 15:41:06 · answer #9 · answered by BrokenOpalAngel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He abandoned you: this is grounds for a divorce. i would reply to his e mails and tell him exactly what you have told us. You are upset you do hate him for what he did and you are tired of being manipulated by him. Now it is time for you to see what you can do without him. You have this time to learn how to take care of yourself with the peace that comes from not having to counteract some controlling person's behaviours and actions.I would suggest that you push through the pain and resentment of having being treated so unfairly and start living your best life.. Good Luck.
2007-03-16 08:19:08 · answer #10 · answered by newyorktilson 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋