I'm wondering how often (on average) gay men have sex when in monogomous relationships. I've been dating someone for a little over a year and he thinks I have a high sex drive (I won't disagree) but I'm wondering how much is too much? Do you have sex 3-4 times a week, 2 times a week, once a month, etc? I'm talking more than oral sex, too.
2007-03-09 07:14:58 · 9 answers · asked by Nate 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I think a lot of it depends on the people involved. Me and my partner have been together for over five years now and our sex life is very comfortable for both of us. We only really "get busy" about twice a month or so, but for us we're much more into holding one another while we watch a DvD, or taking a drive to the beach and walking around holding hands. That stuff is just more important to us as a couple than sex.
How much is too much? If you are making "demands" for sex, then yeah there's a problem. If he's doing it "just because you want it", there's a problem.
You two need to talk about it. Figure out what is too much and not enough FOR YOUR RELATIONSHIP. no one else can answer that part for you but the two of you.
Good luck!
2007-03-09 11:52:57 · answer #1 · answered by Liam P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm not a gay man, but what you're talking about is actually relative to a heterosexual marriage. BEFORE YOU JUMP DOWN MY THROAT, hear me out.
Typically, the male in the marriage has a higher sex drive than the female. It's the testosterone level in males. They want it more. The female is typically complaining about how often the guy wants it. However, even in males, there is a variance of libido. Some men don't want it as much as others. It's really like rolling dice and seeing if you're horny today. (*gglz*)
To be honest with you, hon, I think you're just a normal couple. It doesn't really matter if you're both men or not. Everybody's libido is variant. Luckily, there are a few tricks out there that, if your partner is willing, can really spice up the sex and make it enjoyable. Why worry about how many times you get it? Just have fun with your partner!
2007-03-09 08:06:06 · answer #2 · answered by Danielle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
three or four times a week is OK and if the off nights are used for some foreplay type stuff or oral contact, then more than enough. A lot of folks have diffrent drives and some have motors that start faster than others. I think the physical shape a person is in and what kind of job they have also affects the quantity of times a person has sex. Normal for one person can be once a week and normal for another can be every night.
2007-03-09 08:17:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 52 and my partner and I (of 4 years) have sex 4-5 times a weeks, which is cut back from what we did our first 2 years of our relationship!
This is all individual and it depends on the couple and how they communicate and treat each other.
2007-03-09 13:09:32 · answer #4 · answered by Crampy Grampy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the first year, yeah, 2-4 times a week. After FIVE years, 2-4 times a year. Or maybe it's my b-friend...
maybe it's time for out with the old and in with the new...
2007-03-09 08:18:48 · answer #5 · answered by cardinalboy97 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my relationship, it can depend on what's going on or what time of the year it is....we've been together 3.5 years and during the 'slow' times, as little as once a week....but during other times I think we may have lost count.....either way it's all good since we enjoy other and like to mix it up and do different things.
2007-03-09 08:47:29 · answer #6 · answered by Timotee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend and i have been dating a little over a year also. he is a nympho. and I could go the rest of life without it and be just fine. we do it on a adverage of 6-7 times a week, ans sometimes i think that is too much. I would think that too much is when you start falling out of yourself i guess. that sounds nasty, but that would raise a red flag for me.
2007-03-09 08:14:32 · answer #7 · answered by n8_justice 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is complicated to return by skill of exceedingly in LGBT community. So particular, maximum will cherish the only danger to be in love. they are going to you are going to be monogamous, till something tears them aside.
2016-11-23 17:46:32 · answer #8 · answered by taguchi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no such thing as too much as long as you are going ot school/work, having social relationships, eating, and having all your other normaly activities not be compromised
2007-03-09 08:35:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋