Mom Problems!(help please)?

Question

ok...i am 13 and my mom is 31....my mom does smoke and it doesnt bother me ....we get along most of the time but sometimes when i come home from school she is in a very bad mood and she grounds my for little stuff all the time i have thought about running away but i got caught i found out the reson why she is in a bad mood all the time is she needs a cigerete(or however u spell it ) because when i come home she gets mad then she has a cigerete and my dad comes home and she is in a happy go luckey mood how do i tell her to have a cigerete with out getting in more trouble because when i am right i try to tell her and then she says stop arguing and then she finds out that somthing went wrong because of her and that makes her even more angry and i get IN MORE TROUBLE PLZ HELP ME THANX ALOT!!!!

Answer 1

maybe you can get your point across in a letter, never think about running away , it danger out there, its OK not to like seeing your Mom smoking, don't let anyone action change you from thinking and doing what is right just to satisfied another person let your mom know how you feel and that you have had thoughts of running away, if that don't help ,find an adult to talk,before you take any action,Do you have a Grand mom or your Dad, when you start thinking of running away that is very serious(please don't use the streets to escape your problems , it only going to become much more than you can ever handle

Answer 2

I'm not sure why she gets angry the minute you get home but I would try and come home with a positive attitude. There has to be a reason for her anger, no body vents for no reason. Listen to what she is saying and question why she is angry only if you have not deserved it. If her anger is not acceptable or reasonable, you should calmly ask her what you have done to receive this anger (Don't tell her to have a cigarette, it will just anger her even more).
If talking to her is not working, talk with your Dad, he may not even know what is truly going on. If you can get him to see how she is treating you, he may be able to help end this battle.
I have a 15yr old daughter and am not that much older than your Mom. Some days, she comes home with an attitude and disregards the rules, I then (depending on my mood), will also become angry for her lack of respect. I'm the parent and deserve the respect, without the attitude. Just to let you know that your Mom may not be that far off the rocker.

Answer 3

If I was you I would talk to my school counselor and tell them you don't want your home life to make your future with school life unbearable and family relations need some help because of your feeling like running away is strong and cant deal with it alone and I promise when the counselor gets involve and the parents start to understand that family law can give the alternatives and programs that can help.

Answer 4

Hi mate sorry to hear that your mum is doing this to you it's not right and i bet you feel down all the time then don't be
if my mum did that to me then i would tell to have a fag
when your dad comes home sit then both down and tell them how you feel and see what there say if your mum start shouting at you because what you have said then and a chat with your dad on his own and ask your dad to have a chat with the mum
good luck

Answer 5

You will not win this battle. Moms are always right...ask me, I'll tell you. But, actually, if you don't like the way you are being raised or the way your mother is, then when you have a family of your own, you raise them differently. They won't like they way they are being raised either so it all goes back to my first line - you will not win this battle.

Answer 6

You sure she's not on drugs. Maybe she's trying to respect you and not smoke around you and if that's the case tell her to smoke outside. That's what my husband does so he don't smoke around the kids.

Answer 7

Try talking it out with your parents or just your mom

Answer 8

talk to your parents.

Answer 9

hmmmmmm