Well, the break-up: I've been sad for this reason: plz read and advice, I will appreciate it?

Question

Well,
I went about my day the usual way today, and once back from work, I looked into my journal, in it were pages on end i had written about the one I was in love with and how he told me abt the new lady in his life, and the feelings that came up then,
and i just felt like if i was not ood enough for him, maybe i am just not that good in general, I felt so low and totally depressed, I do not know what to do,

All i could think of is those two together happy forever, and how i may never find that find of happiness

plz advice and help
thanks

Answer 1

Life is hard. If he doesn't want to be with you there is absolutely nothing you can do about it. Find someone who will want you and no one else. Just keep trying. Go out and do the things that make you happy. And when you lease expect it, you might me someone special.

When one door closes, another one opens. Just be patient.

Answer 2

It is normal to feel that you are not good enough when someone breaks up with you but the truth is that you were not good enough for each other. You need to do something that makes you feel better, like taking a day at the spa just for you. Who knows the same thing might happen to him later in life. It will happen in life cause you realize that the person you are with is not what you were looking for. It is ok to be sad, maybe you should get rid of those pages in your journal and get rid of that idea.

Answer 3

They may not have happiness forever.
And by the way- maybe it really means he's not good enough for you, not the other way around. Things happen for a reason, I firmly believe that. The two of you are not meant to be together right now. If it's right, you'll find eachother again. If not, it just means there's someone else very special out there waiting for you.
Hang in there, it's not the end of the world even though it may feel that way right now.

Answer 4

You can find your own happiness. First, get rid of that journal and anything else you shared with that man. Then start on your inner self. Pick up some self-help books. I suggest Co-Dependant No More and Why Men Love Bitches.
Once you learn to love yourself, then you'll realize how much better you are without that man in your life. Then when you least except it, someone will come along and love you the way you want and need.

Answer 5

I no the feeling of not being good enough I felt like that almost the whole time my husband and I were married.I would ask him if he was ashamed of me ? He would smile and say it was in my head and I was crazy for saying something like that.It is something they do to make us feel and think that way about ourselves.Remember you are on the out side looking in it always looks good but go inside and you will see that it isn't what it looks like it never is.I think you just forgot the everyday routine and how mundane it is.Did you ever think he told you that to get you up set and it worked. Forget about him because when the next one comes along he will be better then the next and so on and so on .

Answer 6

Well it's sounds to me like you need to tear out that page of your life. And you are better than him because he cheated not you, he quit the relationship not you.
You are a good person to remain faithful. And as far as picturing them and their future. Picture this he left you for her, and I bet he'll leave her for someone else.
Get together with friends and celebrate the fact you didn't marry this pond scum, and be glad she'll get hers when the next skirt comes along.
You should also go to your local hallmark card store and buy two cards a thank you card for him, and a sympathy card for her. You'll figure out what to put in them.
Then start back in your journal again. Also thank him because now you know the type of man you don't want.

Hope this helps, email me if you need too

Answer 7

I have been there. I know what you are going through. But it took me 9 months to realize that you cant help who you fall in love with or out of love with. He was not the one for you, it doesn't mean you are not beautiful and have alot to offer someone else. The thing is you are good enough, too good. He is the one that can t see you for who you really are. I feel people like that live shallow lives, and he will break up with her when he is tired of it. I feel sorry for people like that, they will never be truly happy. You will find someone who sees you for all you are. I promise, and one day when you do, you will think of this little response and remember what I said to you.
I have been where you are, my self confidence,self esteem, everything about me was knocked down. My friends and family have said I am not the same girl I used to be, and for what, some guys opinion of me?? No way! Not anymore. Trust me, go out, meet new people, and enjoy the rest of your life and let him deal with his own life. Think about it, he set you free to be with the real love of your life. You will see.

Answer 8

Soul, it is difficult to read your thoughts from distance this far. There is no woman in life, cant be soul, cant be. The word break-up make heart bleed profusely.

You are simply the closest and dearest and nobody is equal to you. When you read, reply, because also needs love and affection.

Years and years have passed, and still hurts and hurts, when will get the assurance of desired

Don't associate him with anybody else out of any fear, it hurts him like nothing else, its like you are downgrading him, ripping him. Communicate soul communicate

Answer 9

Healing takes time. Hang out with friends, occupy your time. This can be sad,but you might want to consider throwing away anything that would bring up memories or thoughts of him.
Don't worry, you will find someone who will make you happier than you ever thought possible.
This is cheesy, but you know that song Broken Road? It's so true.

Answer 10

I'm male and I'm telling you to move on ! Get out of that funk and stop worrying about others happiness and think of your own . Its a big world out there and someone is waiting to make you happy . Just get out and start meeting new people and enjoy your life !