Ok, here's the deal...my sister had unprotected sex approximately two months or less ago. I took her to Planned Parenthood to get the EC (morning after pill) the next day. We waited and waited, but her period never came. I was afraid so I went to get one of those EPT pregnacy tests... T-T Unfortunately, it read positive. I am planning to take her to take another test at Planned Parenthood, but the thing is, being only 13, there is NO WAY she's going to keep that baby if there is one. She cried to me asking me what could she so if she was in fact pregnant. I've learned about abortion with medications and told her about it. She told me that thats what she want to do. But I don't know, how much would it be to preform a medical abortion in Sacramento, CA? Since my sister do not have the money to do this abortion, I will have to help her out, but I myself am not sure because I heard it costs up to $300-600. Please tell me what I should do! Please!
2007-03-09 07:04:30 · 11 answers · asked by .Cami.B. 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Oh, and by the way, my parents still don't know about this, so can my sister get an abortion without letting my parent know??? I am only 17, but can I do anything for her?
2007-03-09 07:06:33 · update #1
Both of you need to tell your parents!! Judging by the way BIG SIS is acting I'd say that your family is decent. Yes they will be upset! They are parents its in their nature. Just tell them give them time to not be angry about it anymore and then discuss your options. Don't make any decisions while everyone is upset and not focused. I just went through this with my mom and I'm 22. She was very upset with me, but she got over it and now she can't wait until the baby is born. Do Not abort that baby. That is not right! Have some faith that evrything will be okay. Remain calm. Big Sis, I admire you, but you are young too. You still I have things to learn like I still have things to learn. I know you want to help your sister and be there for her, but you have to learn when things are over your head. This situation is out of your hands. You shouldn't tell your parents, but your Little sister should because its her problem. You have to convince her to tell your parents or a trusted adult. You can still be there for your sister though! Go with her to her appointments, hold her hand through labor, if she wants to talk to you in the middle of the night get up and talk. Spend some quality time with her. If no one else does I know you will Big Sis! You have a heart of gold. You are both in my prayers. God Bless!
2007-03-09 08:00:37 · answer #1 · answered by Closure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you have got to tell your parents she's pregnant. If you don't and you lie to get your little sister an abortion you can get into serious trouble. Plus, your sister is not yours to raise. You are not her parent and are not in the position to take her to get an abortion without your parents knowledge.
Second, if your sister was woman enough to crawl into bed and have sex, she should be woman enough to tell her parents she did.
There are always consequenses to your actions. Having unprotected sex at age 13 was a very bad decision on your sister's part, and now she must face the consequenses by stepping up and taking responsibility by at least telling her parents.
I'm very pro-life, especially when the sex that produced the child was consentual. If I was your parents and I found out that you were even considering getting my 13 year old daughter an abortion without telling me, I would prosecute you, yes, even if you were my daughter. What you're doing is illegal (pretending to be over the age of 18 to get your sis an abortion).
2007-03-09 07:20:31 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Informed 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry for your sister and you, but she is lucky to have a big sister like you. You need to find out how far along she is immediatly, i would bring her back to planned parenthood to have an exam and to discuss options, I dont think they can do an abortion without parental consent if she is thirteen, it almost sounds better off if you tell your parents. If you cant tell them is there an older female relative that you trust and can help you. I hopee this helps, but I would bring your sister to a doctor right away.
2007-03-09 07:11:37 · answer #3 · answered by Bored 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow. Well you could lie about your age. You are only a year off to help her. However that isn't the best thing for you to do. You could help her tell your parents and let her know you are there for her. I know it is hard but you can't do this by yourself. Then talk to the doctor about some form of birth control. Trust me even though you think the parents don't know they do. After all they are the parents.
2007-03-09 07:09:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know how much an abortion costs in your area, but I do know that a child under the age of 18 does not have to have the parent's consent.
2007-03-09 07:11:59 · answer #5 · answered by jcnickie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can not go get an abortion your under age you need your parents to go with you to sign papers, because alot of different things can happen to that person that's getting the abortion, you know the doctors have to cover them self's just like everywhere else thee have you sign papers of this and that. anyways your parents are going to find out eventually because doing something like that scares a women life forever cause that is called murder your sister might go into a depression mood for a very long time, so you do need your parents advice, remember that you and your sister are committing a big sin your breaking god comanment, i just get angry because there are alot of women that want kids and they cant have any and theres girls like you killing them please think twice my sister did that and now she wants more kids and cant have any, i think because she did what she did.
2007-03-09 07:21:50 · answer #6 · answered by kittyg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why is your little sister having sex...unprotected at that...at only 13...i mean didnt you try & tell her about what can happen...if you got to planned parenthood they should do an abortion for free or low cost...but somebody related to her over the age of 18 will have to sign or something for her to consent to it...you may need to tell your parents in a way that wont piss them off to an extreme so that they can help out on this because thats what your going to probably have to do...especially since your not old enough to claim her...sorry...hope everything works out...& tell your little sister to wait til shes older to have sex again...
2007-03-09 07:19:11 · answer #7 · answered by Twinkle in My Eyes 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would take another test just to make sure and if that one comes up positive then you really need to tell your parents. They are going to be the only ones that will be able to help. I know its going to be hard but if you really love your sister and care for her then you will tell your parents.
2007-03-09 07:13:49 · answer #8 · answered by Hope 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wants to carry the baby full term, my husband and I are trying to find someone to adopt their baby...(like in your sisters case) She can have the baby and sign over the perental rights to us. Has she thought about that? I do not like to think she would abort it since there are woman like me all over the world that have been trying FOREVER to have a baby and can not have one. It is a blessing.! If she is interested let me know, god bless and good luck
2007-03-09 07:12:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wow, nice sister you are....NOT! Telling your little sister about murdering a baby. You are pathetic.
2007-03-09 07:10:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 5⤋