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and she does not want to say when where or with who and it bothers me alot what is the easiest way to get over this?

2007-03-09 06:59:07 · 22 answers · asked by colochi79 1 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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I hate to say it, but this is not something you'll get over. Every marriage after one spouse cheats turns into a weird side-show. The trust has been destroyed and I've never seen a case where it ever fully recovered.

The worst part is that she won't give you the whys and wherefores. This indicated that she's ashamed of it and afraid of your reaction when and if you find out.

Be good to yourself and know that you are more valuable as a person than the one who would do this to you. My heart goes out....

2007-03-09 07:06:15 · answer #1 · answered by worldtraveller 2 · 0 0

There is no easy way, I'm sorry to say, to get over such a horrible thing. You need to leave her and get a divorce. Once a cheater, always a cheater. That is a true statement. She obviously doesn't love you so do you want to be with someone like that? It should not just bother you, it should infuriate you. Don't do something stupid, but don't just lay down and take this.

2007-03-09 15:07:35 · answer #2 · answered by Pierre Patelin Longshanks 2 · 0 0

There’s so such thing as “the easiest way” to move on. I’m sorry about that, by the way. You’re just going to have to accept the fact that she have cheated on you, disrespected you, and you have to move on. It won’t be easy, as a matter of fact, it will hurt you like crazy… but like I said… Forgive and move on. Don’t do revenge or anything like that because it won’t be worth it. Pity her because she will loose a very good man, like you. That would be enough punishment for her. I don’t know if you are considering going back to her, but I don’t think that would be a very good idea. She doesn’t deserve you.
Relax and think straight, put away your emotion for now and make sure that you will get you what deserved; as far as financially talking.

Life too short…. ENJOY IT!!!!!! =)

2007-03-09 15:16:22 · answer #3 · answered by L!LO 4 · 0 0

if she cheats once she would most likely do it again.A person who cheat on their couple are not satisfied or for some reason they are not complete and they want to fill those empty spaces.i was in love myself with a cheater i gave him so many chances because i believed that he could change ,i really loved him.it killed me inside but as time started passing i started to get angry so i finally let him go.it wasnt easy ,i coulnt get over him for a long time.what doesent kill you make you stronger,im single know and i just want to stay that way untill i find someone who can make me happy in any way.its not easy but its better than living a lie.you should really think about it ,if she's going to be their for you all the time or she is just a waste of time and playing with you.

2007-03-09 15:11:20 · answer #4 · answered by ♥I_rock_you♥ 5 · 0 0

You have a few options:

1. Leave her immediately
2. Decide if it turns you on...and see if it's something you can sort of enjoy together (might be a stretch but it works for some people--swinging is getting very popular)
3. Cheat on her and call it even

2007-03-09 15:05:26 · answer #5 · answered by Captain Jack 6 · 0 0

Look How do you know she had affair I mean did she tell you that or are you just assuming . If you are just accusing her for no reason Your screwed up but if she told you I suggest you get yourself priv dectective and the next time she does it get in documented just to protect your *** in a divorce ! Just dont give your hand away by accusing her all the time If she is then she will get caught eventually !

2007-03-09 15:23:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

The best way to get over it is for HER to tell you everything you want to know. She may think she's doing you a favor by sparing you the details, but she needs to give you whatever you think you need to work through this.

2007-03-09 15:04:44 · answer #7 · answered by Milana P 5 · 0 0

if this is not rectified one way or another this will continue--then if she drives you crazy and you put one hand on her the lowlife will call the police and you'll get arrested, like you're the criminal. So get this all out in the open now, infact tell her to move out, do you don't get an ulcer over it.

2007-03-09 15:06:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Talk to her and explain that details will help you resolve this issue and the easiest way to get over it.
(At least it would help me)

2007-03-09 15:02:53 · answer #9 · answered by Confussedhere 3 · 0 0

Tell her if she values her marriage she should start talking. Seems like you have some problems that need to be addressed and being honest is the first way to start.

2007-03-09 15:03:14 · answer #10 · answered by hank 3 · 0 0

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