How would you feel when you know just now that your husband has a child from another woman whose age is between the ages of your children? The husband that you've known to be the most honest and faithful there is in this world? Is it worth ending the marriage? Should I just forgive and forget? How?
2007-03-09 06:55:29 · 11 answers · asked by finding_answers 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yikes!
How does your husband behave? Have you confronted him yet? Do you love your husband? Does your marriage seem to work? What is the relationship like between your husband and this other child?
Those are really important questions you need to ask yourself. Is your husband still pursuing this other relationship?
Finally- what are you willing to live with?
Personally, I don't think it's worth ending the marriage. Up until this discovery, I'll assume you've been happy and your children are well adjusted and happy as well. If this is the case and your husband isn't active in the other woman's life, then you have to wonder whether it was a one-time thing? Maybe it was a short fling? In the end however, he chose you. The tricky part is finding why he stuck with you; because he honestly loves you and your life together OR because it was easier. I would consider packing it up if it was just easier but if he really does seem to love you and the life you've created, then you may want to consider working it out.
Obviously forgiveness and trust will be the biggest issues on the road to recovery. Maybe this is a chance for you to be the bigger person and be a true example of a loving human being. Accepting this other child will also be a huge issue, but if you love your life and are willing to fight for your happiness, then it's all well worth it.
If not, maybe this is your opportunity to start a new adventure.
Good luck to you.
2007-03-09 07:10:13 · answer #1 · answered by msmariana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry he did that. That is an awful feeling...
1st ask yourself if you want to work on your Marriage. If you don't then nothing you or he does will help. If you are willing the two of you should see a marriage counselor. Work thru it. You may be surprised to learn that you can forgive him.
If after all of this effort, you find that you cannot forgive him, you will have to seperate.
I hope thijgs work out for you. I really do.
2007-03-09 07:19:08 · answer #2 · answered by Kier22_2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must feel very betrayed and awful and you deserve an answer from your husband. Hopefully, you will get to know the truth of what happened. Then you will decide what to do. Please do not make any rush decision at this moment. You can forgive him, but not forget.
Take care.
2007-03-09 07:03:34 · answer #3 · answered by Kimora Miranda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would end it. Not only did he cheat on you but didn't have enough respect for you to come clean about it. Does he think you're stupid or what? He betrayed you and your kids. I would certainly not forgive or forget.
2007-03-09 07:00:09 · answer #4 · answered by ♪ ♫Jin_Jur♫ ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I guess he is not the most failthful there is in the world since the child's age in in the middle of your children.
Talk it out with him. Get to the bottom of it and maybe you can work it out. There are counselors out there - see one - both of you
2007-03-09 06:58:57 · answer #5 · answered by Confussedhere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to a counselor, before you do anything. After which you'll be better prepared to deal with the situation, your husband, etc.
Hope this helps
2007-03-09 07:06:42 · answer #6 · answered by walker9842 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...that is a tuffy first i would find out for sure if it is his or not...... then if you can not forgive and forget then it is time to bail out....you are in a harsh situation and i feel for ya...you just need to sit yourself down and ask yourself if you can deal with this
2007-03-09 07:01:18 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch, that would really suck. You are just going to figure out why he cheated and if you can forgive him.
2007-03-09 07:00:52 · answer #8 · answered by mingcrew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be devastated over it
but life goes on i would move over him n look fr a life beyond
after a trechrous news like this
2007-03-09 07:01:37 · answer #9 · answered by psycadelic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That desicion is up to you b/c you have to live with that you no what you are willing to deal with
2007-03-09 07:03:18 · answer #10 · answered by ELDER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋