I have a huge problem in work and in life. My problem is that I can only seem to be able to speak to a colleague or any other person for no longer than a couple of minutes. After that I'm lost and I have to leave them and go away. What I want is to be able to hold a conservation with one person for around 20 minutes. Does anyone have any tips or have a list of topics of conversation that will help me speak longer with a person. Please, I need help badly. It's destorying my life.
2007-03-09 06:44:55 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Ask them about themselves. People love to talk about themselves.
Read up on current events, nothing too controversial.
Find a book of fun facts.
Watch TV and be up on all the reality show, uh, stuff.
Or just accept the fact that people are basically boring as hell and if you meet someone once in a while that can keep your attention for 20 minutes, you have met one of the few interesting people.
2007-03-09 06:50:36 · answer #1 · answered by crct2004 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a very common problem and many face the same situation. Not everyone is talented to continue 20 minutes talk with everyone. A conversation is often depends on you relationship with others. If there is any concern, friendship, love or any kind of relation or binding, others give you such a time. Conversations within the Relationships are more meaningful and concerned. Conversation is not only the means of making relationships. Be helpful and caring at first to all. People by themselves come and talk with you and when you talk they stop and give you time to talk. You don't need to take any courses or trainings for this, just learn to love you neighbour as yourself and care and love them in your actions.
2007-03-09 14:55:51 · answer #2 · answered by pkeleti72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha ok try asking :
How they are?
Did they get upto much last night? Depending on the answers you can ask more questions.
Have you got much planned for the weekend? Again you can then talk about something they respond with.
Typical but does work, talk about the weather what a lovely day it is or what a foul day it is... so on.
Did they catch the game lastnight, who'd they support, if not football what else... Once you no what interests them you can talk about that. Most the time people love to talk about themselves so get them on to a topic they like and bingo they're off. How about slipping a joke in or a short amusing story??
You can talk about anything, think about what people say to you or ask you when chatting and use that.
Read the papers or watch the news and talk about matters going on in the world.
Let you imagination run wild.....
2007-03-09 14:55:08 · answer #3 · answered by Moi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to keep a conversation going is to talk about the other person. Ask them questions about the things in their lives. (Kids, family, hobbies, how's work going etc.) Pay attention to things around you, to what the people in your life are doing, to current events, even the weather. To be a good conversationalist, you need to also be a good listener. So develop an interest in others.
Good luck.
2007-03-09 15:47:49 · answer #4 · answered by toomeymimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the most important thing here is, "variety", the topics affect the conversation lenght. If you're at work with colleagues, then don't try to engague them in a conversation that is about work, they know alla bout it because they work with you && they probably dont want to hear about that. Talk about something more interesting, && if you're talkin with somebody you like then dont talk about work either, or anything boring, ask them about their lives, how theyre doing, talk about a band that's having a concert [as en axample] something interesting. && the way I see it, maybe you're doing to much talking, maybe you should do less of that and do more listening, share your intrests and etc. Its no reason to be upset, you just need to be confident and work at it.
2007-03-09 14:56:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask the other person questions; questions about themselves, what they did for the weekend, what they are doing next weekend, etc. and then branch off from there. If you are interested in what they are saying (and if your body language shows that) you can keep the other person talking for a long time. You don't need to do much at all except listen.
2007-03-09 14:49:04 · answer #6 · answered by Gen•X•er (I love zombies!) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them questions and really listen to their answers, commenting every now and then with your own life experiences.
There are so many topics you can come up with. You could meet a complete stranger and say Hello, how are you? This is a wonderful day. I remember a day like this when I was camping. Have you ever been camping?
If you want to build relationships you have to get to know people. Ask them questions, see what they like, tell them about yourself. If they are upset always seem concerned and comforting towards them. You want to ask and share.
2007-03-09 14:50:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Making small talk can only go so far... asking "what do you like to do?" or "what music do you listen to?" ...try to find things in common as starting points. It can be hard to just launch into philosophical debate, but if you talk to someone long enough and "click" you may end up talking about life experiences or telling stories about things that happened in school... I'm an introvert, but I don't shut up. (I blame that on being a Gemini *LOL*)
2007-03-09 14:50:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when your talking to someone ask them what they enjoy doing when they aren't busy that usually starts a great conversation. Just take the time to get to know them.
2007-03-09 14:48:47 · answer #9 · answered by [[ MiiSZZ SANTANA ]] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just start talking about anything. If they have the time to listen, tell them your life history.
2007-03-09 14:48:03 · answer #10 · answered by amberlynne_2007 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋