My 9yr old daughter is driving me mad. she has got one hell of an attitude problem and is so bossy with her younger brother. I've tried all i can think of to get her to see reason, which works for a while then she forgets herself and we're back to square one. She always thinks she is right and tries to argue about everything. Any ideas?
2007-03-09 06:43:55 · 15 answers · asked by **tracey** 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Thought I'd better add - she doesn't get away with her behaviour. She is punished and has things removed and restrictions. Nothing seems to bother her.
2007-03-09 06:53:40 · update #1
my son is 8 and i know how you feel, i use to have the same problem with him, until i sit my son down and i made him tell me what the attitude towards me for then he told me that he was getting bullied at school it's be going on for a long time, i told my son why you didn't tell me for he told me that i wouldn't believe him. i told my son that i would have believe him and now his attitude is great we have good chat about everything and we have a one to one when my little girl is in bed and we have fun
try this put your son to early and let your oldies stay up and to both sit down and have a chat about anything and everything fine out what is going on and work form that but all children are not the same, and get back in control good luck i hope it works out for you all xxx
2007-03-09 07:29:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know this sounds like bribery but its not i am 13 and have an 11 yr old sister and a 6 yr od brother they used to always annoy me and my mum nd dad and each other maybe even themselves lol so my mum bought a personilised behaviour chart from eBAY and they got a star on their behavioud chart if they done their chores etc like brush your teeth and don't answer back and follow instructions when given. My house y=used to be like a jungle living with animal because I know onw that i too have an attitude but i cant really helpit and i know tht my sister is getting hormonal moodswings aswell now so i try and help her out we now spend alot of time together and tell each other everything. Anyway back to the chart if they got FULL stars over the week (IT HAD TO BE FULL) tey would get a treat but if they missed even 1 star then they didnt get a treat. It was only trial and error but now my mum says her life is so much more peaceful and less stressed so I hope i can help good luck
2007-03-10 02:09:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would put her on restrictions until her attitude can change. No tv, no computer, no phone, no friends, NOTHING. To school straight home do homework and that's it. You've got to be firm with her and ignore her attitude if she gives it to you. She likes seeing your reaction it gives her the upper hand to know that you hate it and she can get away with it. Don't back down or give in. Sit down and have a long talk with her or it's only going to get worse. My sister was the same way and now she's 20 times worse!! Good Luck!
2007-03-09 06:50:10 · answer #3 · answered by Shannon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a girl for yah, don't you remember being like this when you were a teenager?
I do i was bad..from what you have said i was worse than your daughter, I thought the whole world had to revolve around me, I was always right, I was very mean to my two younger brothers, mean to my mom always yelled at her, mean to everyone around me, hell i even drove people away, got kicked out of school, hit the teachers ect..
Is the father in her life?
That's when i started acting up, my father left us.
She most likely just wants attention. she will grow out of it you have to give it time you may be dealing with it until she turns 18..I can say now that i love my brothers very much, My mother is my best friend and i'm no longer mean or anything..
If it gets out of hand take her to counceling...that would be your best option
2007-03-09 06:58:32 · answer #4 · answered by Kasja 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, if you find the magic answer can you please let me know, my 9 year old is exactly the same I feel like I have tried everything but she doesnt care, I took her DS away the other day and she just shrugged her shoulders and said dont care, I think the most important thing is not to get in an argument with her and try and ignore the little things. sorry I cant be much help but atleast you know you are not the only one in this situation.
2007-03-09 07:07:18 · answer #5 · answered by JAYNE C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say she sounds normal to me! My 16 year old was just the same and still hasn't grown out of it. Girls have an attitude problem whilst growing up, boys are better I'm told. Maybe you could try getting them to do more together eg paint balling etc.
2007-03-09 06:47:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi at least you can take comfort in knowing your not alone ,my daughter is 13 and a right pain but i have just found out that she was being bullied so have you looked into that ? she was called rascist names and things thrown at her so she was coming home and taking it out on us ,she does seem to be abit better to her brothers now since getting it sorted but shes still a little so and so ,i was much worse with my mom so my mom says!
2007-03-10 06:20:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son went through something similar to this and the only way i could deal with him was to say that when he was being like this he was not welcome in our company, so everytime he showed the slightest bit of attitude he was sent to his room and to be honest he spent the best part of a week in there and eventually he realised he had to be more civil !
2007-03-09 08:53:56 · answer #8 · answered by mjones2479 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate. Mine is 8 and she has a huge attitude to. I hear that is just girls for you. You just have to keep reminding her how her attitude sounds. Tell her you woundn't act like that to the cashier, then kinda act it out. It gets them to laugh ( b/c they are probably are mad if they have been hearing you lecture) but then they think about it.
2007-03-09 06:52:50 · answer #9 · answered by Arrica C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not surprised at all, because that's how most of the kids that age are. I really think they grow out of it. ask me I was one of them! Good luck until then.
2007-03-09 09:07:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋