I know age and race is not supposed to matter and it does not to me. However, I am just curious how you people would look at an attractive older white woman with a very handsome 30 y/o black man? I know this is not the norm but I am just curious how many stares we will get tonight. I personally love it and I would rather be with this young man than some crusty 60 y/o white man.
2007-03-09 06:20:33 · 37 answers · asked by Momma K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sure you are a very attractive young woman and that looks good with an attractive man. Race shouldn't even have to be mentioned. I'm a black female myself and I don't even knock you for having a date with a handsome black man. Girl, have your fun. If people stare just hand them your camera and ask them to take a picture of the two of you! Heck, I hadn't even been that darn lucky yet....lol
2007-03-09 06:26:22 · answer #1 · answered by Just get it over with already!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already answered your question.Do what it is that your soul craves and not what people expect you to do.In the end you would not want to wonder what might have happened.Life is too short.Yes?
It's quite possible the man whom you are going out with could also be nervous.Remember that your age brings much experience to the table.That can be intimidating.Not too mention you stated that you are a good looking woman.That is two whammies or obstacles for him to contend with.What i am saying is he should feel the pressure to impress you and that you may not be the only one with an apprehension.Don't worry so much and remember to have a good time.If you continue to feel nervous during the date then i would suggest that you talk to your male friend about it and perhaps the two of you can relieve the tension and even have a few laughs over it.Also,have fun despite the stares.It's possible that the stares could just mean that people are jealous that they are not as fortunate and happy as you.Enjoy!
2007-03-09 06:45:40 · answer #2 · answered by tylee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships succeed when each person has many things in common with the other --- age + or - a few, race, politics, religion, etc, etc. My daddy once told me, "never shop in a store in which you planned to buy nothing".
Personally, race makes no difference to me either.... but I have friends, and it might to them: If I were a staunch Republican, I doubt that I would get very far with a liberal Democrat. And if I were a devout Catholic, probably wouldn't be long with a Buddhist.
If you are searching for a life-partner, you might be wasting your time. And if you are looking for marriage, the fewer differences you have, the more likely your success.
At 55, and attractive, there are just tons of great guys out there looking for a lady..... Try Yahoo Personals. Put up a great ad, if you don't have a killer smile, get one with the best cosmetic dentist in your area, buy some great clothes, and have a bit of a make-over---hair, makeup...etc. Slender, fit, with a great smile radiates health, and healthy is sexy, hon.
2007-03-09 06:52:37 · answer #3 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The second one "Race" is not a whammy. Unless your in the Bible Belt or around some very stupid people. This day and age "Age" is quickly becoming a non "whammy" too! I think the term for you would be a Coyote.
Just be ready for him. If he finds you attractive, expect to hear the "Boinng" sound, followed by a pumping and filling sensation down below. That's not because he's a black man, it's because he's a man.
2007-03-09 06:34:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess if you live in a small town, you will get stares. If you live in a large city, where everyone is too darn busy with their own lives. No one will care, but then again there is always someone out there that may get offended.
That shouldn't stop you from enjoying the company of a handsome man.
2007-03-09 06:31:44 · answer #5 · answered by hayde_kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, these days age and race does not matter. 20 year olds are dating 40 year olds. There's interracial relationships everywhere. So, if your worried about people staring or gawking, don't be. You will see many different types of people wherever you go. So, just relax and go with the flow.
2007-03-09 06:25:21 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ahhh alot of stares mabe even some mumbles under the breath (something about money or prostituition) as you walk to your seat and recieve glance from your waiter and he walks away with a smirk on his face to tell his co-workers and have a laug beforehe remeber he gets paid minimum wage and go back to sulking around wishing he had did better in high school and wishing the night is over. Hey but dont let that get you down have a great night! : )
2007-03-09 06:25:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 57 this week. My son is 32.
I think there is a great deal of difference between dating someone younger, just for fun-booty calls, etc, and trying to hook up with someone for a life partner.
I think it is a silly exercise that will ultimately hurt you, like eating a boat-load of chocolates or getting drunk every day.
It temporarily makes you feel good, but will lead, at best, to hurt feelings. At worst, lower self-worth for all concerned.
It is typical of our culture for people to say, " Go ahead, do what feels good. Damn the consequences."
You do at your peril!
You'll hurt a nice young man in the process.
Is it worth it to you to turn a few heads, feed your ego, for a roll in the hay and a hopeless future?
Hopefully, you are mature enough to know what you want, what is possible, what is foolish.
If my son, handsome, talented, and athletic showed up at a family gathering with a 50+ lady -who looked like a goddess-who had no interest in a family, a future, with him, I would doubt his self-worth and her sanity.
Race has nothing at all to do with it.
I would want to break your neck!
2007-03-09 06:48:51 · answer #8 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Come on, r u kidding me, lady obviously you DO care cuz if ya didn't, you wouldn't be on here asking a bunch of strangers what we'd think. You need not concern yourself on whats going thru peoples head it will drive you crazy!!! Do what feels right, people are always gonna have opinions whether he's black, white or purple, it's up to you to only worry about the things YOU CAN CONTROL! Good luck on your date!
2007-03-09 06:40:33 · answer #9 · answered by WOW U all make me feel normal! 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Who care what other people think? Whatever makes you happy is what is important. If the guy you are meeting tonight does not care and is ok with it, you should not care either. I am sure that people will look, but let them look.
Good luck and have a great time!
2007-03-09 06:26:35 · answer #10 · answered by Important 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋