How do I motivate my 13 yr old daughter to do anything?

Question

She is a procrastinator

Answer 1

reward her with things like teaching her to drive early when she does things efficiently. You can also reward her with special trips with you like to the mall or store with you, out to lunch, or non monitary things like with special privaliages like watching a 1/2 hour extra of tv or getting to stay up 30- an hour later at night, or any other things she likes, things liek that she will appreciate.

Answer 2

There really isn't anything you can do. Some people are just procrastinators. Like me, I've always been a procrastinator and my parents have tried to get me to be more productive. Calenders with my things scheduled, taking away privileges, trying to help me do it.....nothing has ever worked. I'm still a procrastinator and probably always will be. But, for me, I can't do anything unless I absolutely have to. I do really good work when I do things last minute, and don't when I try to do it ahead of time. Also, I can't do something if I'm told (like clean my room), I have to want to do it. Maybe your daughter is the same way. It might be better for her to be a procrastinator. But, you can try to take away her things and privileges, it might work for her, but don't be surprised if it doesn't.

Answer 3

I have a daughter around the same age. I have a small calendar on the fridge with a list of chores for each day. She earns money if she completes her chore. I even have surprises when she can earn much more if she does something extra. I also set a time limit. I cant expect a teen to just jump up and do anything I say in flat second....so what i do is I give a time limit. She has til 8pm to finish any chore that is given her. If she does not complete her chores....well when Friday rolls around and she wants to go out to the movies with her friends....she is the one that has to spend her money earned. I have taught her that she must work for her money and at the end of the week, if she wants to go out, she is expected to pay for it. No more free rides...She must earn the right to go out and have fun.

Answer 4

I have 4 "kids" now aged 19, 21, 23 and 25. I got them motivated and cooperating, and hardly any rebellion through their teen years by making the family work as a business. The whole point of having kids is supposed to be to create healthy, happy humans capable of succeeding in the adult world on their own. Therefore, I turned every possible situation into a business lesson, to prepare them for the real world. Example: stuff left lying around in the living room? "Littering" fine payable by doing extra chores (or 'community service') as mine did not get allowances.
Example: Running in the house? Speeding tickets. Payable the same way, if the warning was ignored and more were issued.

The FAMILY IS the business and everyone must contribute to the business if they want to get any of the profits, (food & shelter are required; movies, skating, computer time, etc. are not- they would be considered benefits that had to be earned.)
I could get into much more detail if this sounds interesting to you, or if you think it might help your situation....

Answer 5

Well here is something that always worked when I was younger. If I did not get something done in the time frame my parents gave me IE clean my room, bathroom, etc., they took something away. For instance if i didn't clean my room by the promised time, i lost my phone (or in your daughter's case something important and useful in her life) for a week. The second time it happened, I lost my phone for 2 weeks. She will see if she procrastinates repeatedly, she will lose something important. At one point I had my TV and phone taking away so all I had left to do was clean my room, lol. Good Luck!

Answer 6

It is the age really. Hormones!
I did the same thing since my computer is on my desk and I would always do things there. So I would always set things aside (homework, projects etc.) If she does this just take the computer or phone away from her.

If this doesn't work say that she may get held back! This really scares them!

All good luck on future report cards LOL jk.

No seriously good luck!

Answer 7

Dont push her to do something she isnt interested cause shell end up hating you,instead inspired her to become a responsible woman,,,like by asking her what does she want in the near future?How she wnt to become a mother,,,,Then give her advises to make her dream come true....Ask her out,tell her happy and proud you are that shes your daughter ,,,,Tell her that someday shell get married and a man wants a responsible woman,,,Tell her that your always willing to help and guide her to learn doing housechores...let her read books that will enhance her personality,,,or try to think of a game that both of you will enjoy,,,,teen agers hates responsibilities so you gotta be very creative and teaching to them to like responsibilities

Answer 8

Consequences for choices. And make sure you follow through. Chores for money, no chores, no money. Wants clothes, not until she can help with laundry. That kind of stuff. It is very difficult, but you have to stay the course. Our children do not understand that discipline is not punishment, that life is not one fun minute after another, that they need to be entertained all the time, that they can get without giving. Having the same problem myself. Its hard, but you have to stick to the consequences for choices approach in my opinion, otherwise it will only get worse, trust me.

Answer 9

The way that I would motivate her is to be sure that she wont be allowed to watch TV, go online, talk on the phone or go out unless her chores (homework, cleaning up) are done. Dont tell her the chores need to be done; just tell her that if they don't, they don't get to do the fun stuff

Answer 10

i've been that way all my life and there was nothing that my parents could do to change me either. i'm still that way. some people are just like that. as long as she is getting things done, that's what really matters. now if shes not getting things done, you need to start taking things away.