I had a friend who beat me up badly this week (I had to be hospitalized) with no warning. He and I never argued and he has always seemed like a very nice guy. When were hanging out watching a movie and all of a sudden he jumped on me without a word. I don't even know what to think.
2007-03-09 06:15:58 · 20 answers · asked by thescientist353 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
no i havent ....but that is kinda strange of him to do that to you
2007-03-09 06:17:51 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No and I Never Will Be Either!! I Will Go Down Fighting!!
This man is a threat to you and I strongly suggest you stay away from him and his anger problems. You know this will happen again no matter what control you think you have over him. It is not YOU he is beating up for what YOU did. He has an Anger problem and your reaction should be to first press charges so it will be on record, tell your friends, family, neighbors, whomever, if they don't already know, and then think about what would keep him away from you. You are smart enough to think of a way to ditch this guy. I think you know him well enough to figure out how to stay Away from him.
If you are a woman, scream bloody murder and remember to use your fingernails next time and then plot your escape. If you are a man, find a stronger friend Without an anger problem, to hang around. Switch husbands, friends, whatever. You are a target.
If you have more extenuating circumstances, ask more questions that are specific, but give up on training this person. He won't change for you. Never let an attack go unreported to the police, I don't care HOW common it is where you live. Good Luck.
2007-03-09 14:41:06 · answer #2 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have and I turned around and beat people up too.
Something is going on with this person. Something that he just couldn't get out in the proper way. So, you say you had no sign or indication that anything was wrong; normal.
To let the cat among the pixies I beat a girl up in tech school something similiar to what you got the beating from your friend. In my case something was going on and she said the right thing at the right time and she got it. I may have put her in the hospital for obsevation and I was also told that she wouldn't be able to use her left arm for a long time. Needless to say she avoided me and right out quit the tech school I was attending. I couldn't blame her.
Think that it happened that though one day you may eventually forgive him; for now you will avoid him. It's better that way.
2007-03-09 14:36:43 · answer #3 · answered by Laela (Layla) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got beat up one time, it was my own fault (my mouth), but when I challenged the guy, it was gonna be him vs. me, the coward got ten of his friends to jump me later on, and quite frankly this guy could have taken me himself back then, he was just a coward.
Things like that don't happen without a reason. Did you say something to him, do you represent something that he wanted to attack, or lash out at?
I wonder, how long has he been your friend? Maybe he was a kind of plant, like, a person who hates you asked him to be friends with you, just so he could get you with your guard down? A friend of mine did that to someone once, not very nice, but it is effective, just ask the FBI, heh.
At the very least, press charges on this guy, for insurance reasons and you don't know what kind of long-term damage he may have caused you that later on you will wish you officially charged him.
One last thing, I have enraged my friends to the point where they punched me, in the arm, hard, to let me know I stepped over a line, but if someone flat out beats you up, they are NOT your friend.
Ever see the movie Bully with Nick Stahl?
2007-03-09 14:32:52 · answer #4 · answered by Wolfgang92 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have, and, being a pacifist--I did not even defend myself. I do yell and scream--but I do not ever use physical violence.
Your 'friend' apparently has a problem--to do something like that from out of nowhere. I hope that since you had to be hospitalized, that the parent of that person is taking him for some help--he needs it. (If he is an adult--I hope that he is taking himself in for some help--he should know that you could press assault charges on him, and it will go easier if he is in some type of anger management program, or something).
2007-03-09 14:23:39 · answer #5 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about this incident. Your friend should be your ex-friend. You cannot afford friends like this as he appears unpredictable.
This inbcident appears not your fault as you do not mention words exchanged or anything like that, so, do not feel it was an issue you caused as there really is no excuse for it.
Stay away from them. You can find many other firends to hand around who won't use you as a punching bag.
2007-03-09 16:31:41 · answer #6 · answered by Adonai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you choose friends with mental personality disorders, otherwise you did something to upset him unknowingly. Create a list of what conversations went on that night and closely examine them. You may want to call him asking "Hey man, what happened last night? Did I do anything wrong?" And from now on, I suggest steering clear of unhealthy minds.
2007-03-09 14:24:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's just terrible!! Were you (or him) drinking or doing drugs? (not accusing you or anything..just wondering what could have set him off) I hope you stay away from him from now on.. and possibly press charges for the hospital bills??? I would be just as confused as you if my friend did that out of the blue.
2007-03-09 14:20:54 · answer #8 · answered by d.a. b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Surprisingly (since I have a tendency to speak without thinking) I have never been beaten up. That's crazy that your friend did that to you. I would suggest you keep away from him and maybe speak with a lawyer about your rights.
2007-03-09 14:19:21 · answer #9 · answered by Jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like 5 years ago, 10 vs 3(me and two friends) it was over the stupidest thing .
2007-03-09 14:19:15 · answer #10 · answered by pas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your friend has some serious mental issues....and I wouldn't consider him a friend anymore either. I hope you pressed charges because he will do this again to somebody, maybe even worst!
2007-03-09 14:19:39 · answer #11 · answered by ♥Xty♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋